Are we all unapproachable when it comes to our ASD kids?
A little of what happened yesterday...
There was a woman with an obviously mentally challenged adult son. I think his needs may have been more than just ASD but at the same time, she seemed distressed, upset, fed up with him and how he was acting at the store. It's not that he was harmoing anyone or anything, but just rocking and touching everything at the check out.
And OF COURSE all the people in line and the line next to her had to stare as if he was a freak. I just kept smiling at him and her when we'd make eye contact, but the person I really am wanted to touch her arm or give her a hug and say "I understand".
But I didn't.
I didn't because I was unsure of what her reaction would be. If I was appraoched by a stranger who dealt with the same and had good intentions in their words, then I would love being appraoched. But that's ME...I didn't know her and she seemed so angry that I held back on saying anything.
And still this morning it's on my mind...wondering if it would have made a difference to her? Just to let her know how many of us there are who share her days the same way.
Would you have said anything? Would you want a stranger ,especially a mother of a special needs child, offering a kind word or would you rather they keep it to themselves?