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Needing some ideas on meltdowns

Posted by on Aug. 3, 2014 at 11:26 PM
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Tristen(my ASD-PDD-NOS 8 yr old son) just had an almost continuous 6 hour meltdown over his cell phone (an old one of mine that is M.I.A. at the moment) and I'm out of ideas on how to calm him down during these.

Redirecting, music, cuddling...none of it's working anymore and he's getting more and more violent with each one. The last meltdown he had like this, he broke my bedroom door off the hinges and put a crack in the windshield of my car.

I'm out of ideas so wondered if you all had any that work for you and your little ones.

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MixedCooke
by Bronze Member on Aug. 4, 2014 at 2:13 AM

what is it about the cell phone that he likes so much? have another one available.  My daughter is only 4 so we have a few of her various loveys always on hand.

darbyakeep45
by Darby on Aug. 4, 2014 at 4:29 AM

Hugs mama...I can only imagine how hard this is for you!  Is he in ABA therapy by chance?  My son's therapists always have good ideas for things like this.

SamMom912
by Gold Member on Aug. 4, 2014 at 7:44 AM

When he is calm can you talk to him about the episode? No in a punishment way, but in a problem solving way? Ask him what the big deal with not finding it? What you can do? What he can do different? How you canhandle that situation the next time differently since he didnt like being that upset and you didnt like seeing him that way....

When my (almost 8 aspie) gets upset, I let him know IF he needs anything, im here.. But then I leave him alone. The most. I will do is being him water to drink with a straw.. (Good proprioceptive input) but Sam and I have discussed what helps him.. And NOT adding any verbal input helps him to self regulate faster. 

JenniKT
by Member on Aug. 4, 2014 at 9:42 AM
Tristen's mostly non-verbal so most conversations revolve around fans, phones, and video games. He's just now speaking full sentences, but it's usually a repeat of what I've said. I'd love to be able to find out what I could do to help him by talking to him, but it may be a few more years before that happens.

Quoting SamMom912:

When he is calm can you talk to him about the episode? No in a punishment way, but in a problem solving way? Ask him what the big deal with not finding it? What you can do? What he can do different? How you canhandle that situation the next time differently since he didnt like being that upset and you didnt like seeing him that way....

When my (almost 8 aspie) gets upset, I let him know IF he needs anything, im here.. But then I leave him alone. The most. I will do is being him water to drink with a straw.. (Good proprioceptive input) but Sam and I have discussed what helps him.. And NOT adding any verbal input helps him to self regulate faster. 

JenniKT
by Member on Aug. 4, 2014 at 9:44 AM
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I'm working on getting more therapy services for him now. We just moved to an area where there's more help for him, so am coordinating with the school and another organization to see what all is available for him.

Quoting darbyakeep45:

Hugs mama...I can only imagine how hard this is for you!  Is he in ABA therapy by chance?  My son's therapists always have good ideas for things like this.

JenniKT
by Member on Aug. 4, 2014 at 9:50 AM
It's the games and music that he likes the most on the phones. I had a laptop with games and music on it for him and he had an xbox too, but the only tv the xbox worked on was stolen along with the laptop shortly after we moved. His actual phone was taken three weeks ago and the back up I had for him is lost somewhere.

It's been a rough few months. Thankfully, my mom's bringing us a new comp in a few days and he'll be getting this phone as well.

Quoting MixedCooke:

what is it about the cell phone that he likes so much? have another one available.  My daughter is only 4 so we have a few of her various loveys always on hand.

Momof4AEMW
by Gold Member on Aug. 4, 2014 at 10:29 AM

I would look into ABA or behavioral therapy.  It seems like they can be such good resources for things like these, especially when things escalate to violence or destruction.  Hugs! 

emarin77
by Silver Member on Aug. 4, 2014 at 11:56 AM

I agree.  Use the services in your community and also have his specialist give you ideas on how to best disapline him.  I have found if a child can communicate their needs/feelings to you it makes it easier for the parent to understand what the child is thinking.  Use sign language or pictures to communicate.  Continue with speech therapy.

Quoting JenniKT: I'm working on getting more therapy services for him now. We just moved to an area where there's more help for him, so am coordinating with the school and another organization to see what all is available for him.
Quoting darbyakeep45:

Hugs mama...I can only imagine how hard this is for you!  Is he in ABA therapy by chance?  My son's therapists always have good ideas for things like this.


Logansmom1999
by Kristina on Aug. 4, 2014 at 1:52 PM

I just posted an almost identical response. When Logan got bigger than me and more aggressive, I consulted a psych doc for help. We put him on a maintenance drug as well as a PRN for when he is aggressive or having a "meltdown". It has made a big difference in our lives. He is able to stay in our home with us. Meds aren't always the answer but can be very helpful for an out of control child. {{{HUGZ}}}

Nicole_2007
by Member on Aug. 5, 2014 at 9:20 AM

What works with my daughter is counting to ten and while I am counting having her breath in and out to give her a chance to calm down so I can talk to her. 

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