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They lost him!!!!!!!! (long) (piog)

Posted by on Aug. 14, 2014 at 2:17 PM
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My younger son's bus was late on Tuesday, his first day of school, so my 15 yo dd (who doesn't start until the 25th) had to walk him to school. He is autistic, nonverbal, and has several health issues (including allergies and a small bladder which means he cannot be on the bus more than an hour per his IEP). That afternoon I called the bus company when his bus was later than the time I had originally been given. Turns out that while they told me 3pm for his drop off it was actually 3:23. I said thanks and hung up. As it was the first day of school I waited until 3:40 to call the bus company and ask why my son wasn't home yet.
The dispatcher called the driver and checked then came back on and told me my son wasn't on the bus and to call the school then hung up on me! I of course called the school. I had to call twice before they answered the phone. When they did they tried to put me on hold until I told them my child never made it home from school. They contacted the teacher who said he put my boy on the bus. I called the bus company back and said that my child was put on a bus. She said she would double check and hung up on me again. She promptly called back to tell me that my child was placed on the wrong bus and they would bring him home asap. Over 30 minutes later the bus shows up and the driver admits that she never checked him off and didn't even know she had an extra child! They placed him on the bus at about 3:10 and he got home at 15 to 5! I am so mad that I am barely able to your this without shaking or using truly child language and epithets!
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rhiannonaisling
by Melanie on Aug. 16, 2014 at 7:42 PM

To answer some of the questions that I have received repeatedly.

Thank you everyone for your concern. My son is just fine. The bus driver never told him he was on the wrong bus so he didn't realize that he was lost. I was much more traumatized than he was but he liked the results of that since it ended in him having sugary treats almost everyday this week (usually a once or twice a month deal).

DS is on the special needs bus not with the general education students. It is apperently one of only two to service his school.

I have been in contact and let my feelings be clearly known on the matter and am waiting for a call back from the supervisor's supervisor since his response was somewhat rude and very dismissive.

This has never happened to him before despite multiple school changes due to the way this district is run.

I cannot drive him to school as he must be there by 8 and I start at 7:20 so his 16 year old sister and 13 year old brother put him on the bus in the mornings.

His IEP mandates that he receive special needs transportation due to being nonverbal and it also mandates that he cannot be on the bus longer than an hour.

kaycamp
by Member on Aug. 14, 2014 at 2:29 PM
Oh boy
kelly-lee
by Member on Aug. 14, 2014 at 2:40 PM
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My son, also autistic, starts school next Tuesday and they're putting him on a "normal" bus without an aide for the first time. I'm terrified something like this will happen, or worse.
shunnicutt
by Stephanie on Aug. 14, 2014 at 2:58 PM
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 That is so awful, I am so sorry you and he had to deal with this.  I would have been terrified!  /big giant hug!

amonkeymom
by Amy on Aug. 14, 2014 at 3:21 PM
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Oh man, I don't blame you for being mad.  Heads would be rolling if this was my son!

Gloria1025
by Bronze Member on Aug. 14, 2014 at 3:30 PM
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First of all - I am so sorry this happened!  I hope your son wasn't too scared.  I would request in email a plan from both the school and the transportation as to what they are going to do to ensure this never happens again - and I would copy the districts director of special ed and the superintendent.  This is inexcusable!

babymamalover84
by New Member on Aug. 14, 2014 at 4:10 PM
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does his iep require that he has specialised transportation? my son had a ese bus last year that only had like 15 kids, an aide and the bus driver. 

Momof4AEMW
by Gold Member on Aug. 14, 2014 at 11:17 PM
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I'm glad he is home and safe.  How scary!  I would be very upset with the schools/busses!

VinVanMom
by on Aug. 14, 2014 at 11:28 PM
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Drive him yourself?
mypbandj
by Jen on Aug. 14, 2014 at 11:36 PM
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Ugh!! So many things about that story make me mad. Especially how the dispatcher handled it. You don't dismiss a parent who can't find her child. She should have helped you, not hung up on you!!

I'd be calling her supervisor.
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by Michele on Aug. 15, 2014 at 7:04 AM

 I"m so sorry! I would be so pissed and upset!

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