Ok tell me how many of you fight/argue with other parents when your kids compete?
I had a mom call me nasty yesterday in front of my 3 girls when my 7 year old beat her 10 year daughter in a tennis match at a sanctioned USTA tournament. And then the grandmother walked on the court to console her granddaughter and told my daughter to be quiet when my daughter asked her for the balls. It's customary for the winner to carry the balls to the tournament desk and report the score.
Her daughter cried at the completion of the match and the mom begged me to have my daughter play one more game. I said no this is a tournament - once the match is over, it is over. The mom, however, continued to order my daughter to play and my daughter complied since she is only 7 and listens to authority. Instead of telling my daughter otherwise, I ran to get the referee of the tournament who sorted it out. The girl tried to lie about the score saying it had been 3-3.
The mom was so upset with me for calling the referee, she told her daughter and everyone standing there that we were nasty people. Later that evening out of the blue my 7 year old asked me if we were nasty people. I had to explain to her that people who say mean things to others say those things because that's really how they feel about themselves.
Wow. I've never had that happen but my kids haven't played any 1:1 sports yet. I'm sorry that your dd had to go against such a sore loser and her family reinforced her behavior by reacting the way they did.
No, my sons fencing coaches pay attention to the bouts. There is no bad behavior allowed in his classes by anyone. He will kick the child or parent out of his school if they behaved like that. That is crazy and I am sorry that your family had to deal with that.
Wow, that is really bad. I'm also sorry you had to deal with it.
I do see a lot of parents yell at the refs in hockey. I'm glad that the parents on my son's team are pretty low-key and don't do things like that. During last night's game, a mom on the other team kept yelling at the refs to blow the whistle when the puck was covered by the goalie---but she was failing to see that the puck wasn't actually covered whenever she was yelling that at the refs...LOL So the refs and the kids weren't doing anything wrong. I thought about saying something to her after the game, but then decided it was better if I dropped the issue since I didn't know her. But parents like that are pretty common in hockey. Also, the parents that act like coaches from the sidelines. If you wanted to be a coach, volunteer for it, instead of bugging all the spectators around you...hahaha.
Despite dealing with the constant yelling or excessive cheering, I have not seen a parent make a personal attack like that against a child. That is just so wrong.
That is so horrible. That does not teach the kids sportsmanship at all. I'm sorry that happened.
On a side note.......... you run?
Quoting mommybug77:
it has never happened
I have never seen it either
ewww..that's disgusting. Thankfully we have yet to run into such behavior.
The one mom really babys her DD (a year older but 1 belt lower) and it drives all the parents, and Sensei insane. She lost at our last dojo tournament and stomped out crying. Mommy took her home Sensei wouldn't allow her in the tournament coming up this weekend because of her behavior.
The second mom always encourages her dd but basically tells her to suck it up n be a good sport. She also competes in gymnastics and dance and is very well rounded because of Moms attitude.
Football pre season?
- Tennismom360
on Feb. 21, 2012 at 3:20 PM