4 PERSONALITY TYPES: WHICH ONE ARE YOU? â™Ą â™Ą â™Ą
4 Personality Types: Which One Are
By Gretchen Rubin, author
Lately, Iâ€™ve been thinking a lot about how different people respond to rules â€” and I use â€śrulesâ€ť broadly (see below for examples) to mean any kind of instruction to do or not do something.
I love to identify categories. Abstainers/moderators. Leopards/alchemists. Radiators/drains. And I now I canâ€™t stop thinking about these four categories.
To see if you spot yourself in these categories, ask yourself:
How do I respond to an outer rule? A law, a traffic sign, a â€śrequestâ€ť from a spouse; a work deadline, an admonition from your doctor, an appointment with a trainer, social protocol?
How do I respond to an inner rule? A New Yearâ€™s resolution; a decision to exercise more; putting in work on a self-generated project (writing a novel, planting a garden).
With that in mind, consider whether any of these types rings a bellâ€¦
- Upholderâ€”accepts rules, whether from outside or inside. An upholder meets deadlines, follows doctorâ€™s order, keeps a New Yearâ€™s resolution. I am an Upholder, 100%.
- Questionerâ€”questions rules and accepts them only if they make sense. They may choose to follow rules, or not, according to their judgment.
- Rebelâ€”flouts rules, from outside or inside. They resist control. Give a rebel a rule, and the rebel will want to do the very opposite thing.
- Obligorâ€”accepts outside rules, but doesnâ€™t like to adopt self-imposed rules.
An upholder stops at a stop sign at 3:00 a.m. in a small deserted town; so does an obligor. A questioner decides whether itâ€™s safe to stop. A rebel rolls through the stop sign at 3:00 p.m. in traffic.
An upholder can train with a trainer or exercise on her own; a questioner can do either if he thinks it makes sense; a rebel will do neither, because the fact that she has an appointment or an item on her to-do list makes her want to disobey; an obligor can meet a trainer, but canâ€™t get to the gym on his own.
Of course, this is about your tendency. Thereâ€™s a continuum, and no one accepts or resists all rules, and some people donâ€™t fit easily into one of the four typesâ€“but Iâ€™ve been amazed at how often people immediately place themselves firmly into one camp. Do you recognize yourself?
Each type has its own set of both pros and cons.