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Why did you start homeschooling?

Posted by on Apr. 15, 2011 at 3:54 PM
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I stated homeschooling because I have no faith in our local school system.  It's only gotten worse IMO since I pulled my children out in 1999.

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SimplySonita
by on Apr. 16, 2011 at 10:51 AM

I wanted to homeschool from day1 for religious reasons.

Hubby insisted our oldest go to PS for PreK. PreK went okay, so he went to PS K. It was horrible!

After that hubby said I could homeschool. This was our first year and it's been wonderful! My son is happier, learning way more, it's hepled not just his education but his attitude, his ADHD and SPD, our family relationships and more.

Sonita - Mom to Ephram (7) and Malachi (4)

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MommaChell
by on Apr. 17, 2011 at 11:48 AM

All the usual educational, safety, & spiritual reasons- I knew we could do better- and the fact that I just didn't want to be apart from my babies; I would miss out on soooooooooooo much! Simply wasn't acceptable.

LivinDeadGurl
by on Apr. 22, 2011 at 6:01 PM

I actually had a few reasons for starting.

First of all, we started tossing around the idea when my daughter was in kindergarten. I am Pagan and my husband is Agnostic and we wanted ANYTHING about religion to be up to us to teach our children. If they were taught religion, we wanted them to be taught ALL religions. I thought the school was doing a good job keeping religion out of their teachings until we went to the winter holiday concert and almost every song was about Jesus. I wasn't upset per se, I just wish I had been informed.

We moved after that to another state and moved into a HORRIBLE school district. My daughter was bullied and teased and the school did nothing about it no matter who you talked to, but as soon as she retaliated against any of the children she was SUSPENDED. They also insisted she had behavior issues and that it was due to bad parenting. However, she didn't show ANY of the behaviors they claimed she had at home and we were never informed of any incidents when they happened at school. They would just randomly send notes home telling me I needed to talk to her about her behavior because it wasn't improving. It was a mess.

Then we moved to Texas. We were told my daughter had to go to the school closest to our home. However, we were living with family and had no idea when we would find our own place or where it would be. So rather than start her in one school and pull her out and put her in another when we moved, we decided to homeschool that one year. It worked and because of all the issues we had with previous schools, we decided to stick with it.

Jinx-Troublex3
by Jinx on Apr. 22, 2011 at 10:50 PM

My story is a little drawn out...and to fully get it you have to have some back story... LOL

I wentto an AWESOME private school from K-6th grade then got DUMPED (as I felt) into a Los Angeles city public school for Junior high - not only is this an awkqard age to change schools but it  was a HUGE culture shock.

In the private school NO ONE cussed. you might have heard a parent slip once or twice but hte kids didn't dare. In the city school they cussed the TEACHERS out in clas and no one did anything. I was one of 3 white students in teh entire school -it's 98% hispanic and nearly everyone spoke spanish so they spoke it behind the backs of us white kids -we learned all the really bad words. For high school, I moved out to the suburbs and it was a bit better but most of the cliques had been formed in Jr high and fitting in wasn't easy.

So..... When we decided to have kids we wnated to go private school...it's just not possible on our budget so we enrolled DS1 into Public school.... DH was initially against homescholing and thought it was for freaks.  Kinder was OK, I heard bad things about 1st in the schoolwe were at so I opted for a transfer to a "school of choice" it was Spanish Immersion and they needed english speakers so he got in. Which was OK until 3rd grade. They offered tutors for the spanish kids learning english but NONE for the english kids learning spanish. WHY?? Because they "teach to the test" and they HAVE to be able to read english but per state testing spanish is optional.

Then DS2 comes along. We find outhe has ADHD.  He is put into the Spanish program as well- UTTER CHAOS- He also has a hearing issue where his ears are OVERLY sensitive so loud noises, singing in class, loud games , cause him to shut down.  We pulled him and sent him to the regular school we were at before.

OMG it was AWFUL. I tried to talk to the teacher day 1. She says "Im' sorry, I dont talk to parents about their students, I want to figure them out for myself."  So, before the 1st semester report cards, DS is FAILING every subject she calls and sayS"I wish I had known he had learning disabilites" Ummm well you WOULD HAVE KNOWN ... but you told me to shut up and go away!

They lost DS2 off hte bus ..not once.. but TWICE. The first time, DS1 gets off hte bus, there is no DS2.  The driver says, well he WAS on the bus, he must have gotten off somewhere but I have to finish my route. HUH??  WHAT??? I call the school, school says ,"YUP" He was put on the bus. I had to cal lthe SHERIIFS dept to search for him. They found him 2 hours later, wandering around campus. NO ONE noticed an unattended child oncampus? Turns out- he NEVER got on the bus. They put him in the bus LINE... but he must have walked away and no one saw him. The Principals reply? Have his 8yo borther be his budy and make sure he gets home. NO! It is NOT my 8yo child's job...it is the SCHOOL'S job The 2nd time, the busses were too crowded so they split some of hte kids off one bus and put them on another...well they put him on the WRONG 2nds bus..and WHY wold they split up my2 boys?? NO ONE could say ...again..I had to call the sheriffs to search for him because the bus driver SWORE he was on her bus when they left school.

(If you read this far you area saint)

He was DENIED any services, no IEP, no 504 for his learning disabiliteis because "he isn't far enough behind grade level" .....Well of course not you asshats...I spend 2 hours working with him every night AFTER school. I refuse to let him fail. He was already asking "Mommy, WHY DID GOD MAKE ME SO STUPID?" in 1st grade!It ripped my heart out (and still does when I think of it)

The last straw was, when I went in YET AGAIN, to fight forthe school to provide services and the Principal says,"Well, I understand why parents like you want us to deal with their problems." HELLO??? My hcild is NOT a problem. He's a little boy that needs HELP. AND..you don't know the half I do for this child keeping hime at grade level. Running his scout meetings, (for both boys) rumning Sunday school, tutoring him and reteaching him AT LEAST 2 hours at night because your school was failing.

So DH agreed to let me try homeschooling, seeing how miserable DS1 and how he ws treated at school but it wsa under the condition that I find some program that monitored their progress because he was afraid of them falling behind their peers (they already were so what's the big issue? LOL) 

We have been doing the homeschool charter  for 4 years now and it's a great compromise.

(PS- that wasn't even HALF of the stuff that went on between me and DS1 and DS2 in the public schools- I could write a novel on it...)

mommygirls2
by on Apr. 23, 2011 at 10:18 AM

 I started from day one.  When I first started I was not sure it was something I was going to plan to do throughout their whole education, but know I can not imagine going another route.  I love homeschooling and I know that it is best for our family.

MrsM121
by on Apr. 24, 2011 at 12:48 PM

Wow.  I'm glad homeschooling is working for you!  I totally agree with you about religion.  It's nobody's place but mine and their father to teach them that.

Quoting LivinDeadGurl:

I actually had a few reasons for starting.

First of all, we started tossing around the idea when my daughter was in kindergarten. I am Pagan and my husband is Agnostic and we wanted ANYTHING about religion to be up to us to teach our children. If they were taught religion, we wanted them to be taught ALL religions. I thought the school was doing a good job keeping religion out of their teachings until we went to the winter holiday concert and almost every song was about Jesus. I wasn't upset per se, I just wish I had been informed.

We moved after that to another state and moved into a HORRIBLE school district. My daughter was bullied and teased and the school did nothing about it no matter who you talked to, but as soon as she retaliated against any of the children she was SUSPENDED. They also insisted she had behavior issues and that it was due to bad parenting. However, she didn't show ANY of the behaviors they claimed she had at home and we were never informed of any incidents when they happened at school. They would just randomly send notes home telling me I needed to talk to her about her behavior because it wasn't improving. It was a mess.

Then we moved to Texas. We were told my daughter had to go to the school closest to our home. However, we were living with family and had no idea when we would find our own place or where it would be. So rather than start her in one school and pull her out and put her in another when we moved, we decided to homeschool that one year. It worked and because of all the issues we had with previous schools, we decided to stick with it.

 

MrsM121
by on Apr. 24, 2011 at 12:58 PM

 Wow hugs  Your second son sounds a lot like one of my boys and what we went through.

Quoting Jinx-Troublex3:

My story is a little drawn out...and to fully get it you have to have some back story... LOL

I wentto an AWESOME private school from K-6th grade then got DUMPED (as I felt) into a Los Angeles city public school for Junior high - not only is this an awkqard age to change schools but it  was a HUGE culture shock.

In the private school NO ONE cussed. you might have heard a parent slip once or twice but hte kids didn't dare. In the city school they cussed the TEACHERS out in clas and no one did anything. I was one of 3 white students in teh entire school -it's 98% hispanic and nearly everyone spoke spanish so they spoke it behind the backs of us white kids -we learned all the really bad words. For high school, I moved out to the suburbs and it was a bit better but most of the cliques had been formed in Jr high and fitting in wasn't easy.

So..... When we decided to have kids we wnated to go private school...it's just not possible on our budget so we enrolled DS1 into Public school.... DH was initially against homescholing and thought it was for freaks.  Kinder was OK, I heard bad things about 1st in the schoolwe were at so I opted for a transfer to a "school of choice" it was Spanish Immersion and they needed english speakers so he got in. Which was OK until 3rd grade. They offered tutors for the spanish kids learning english but NONE for the english kids learning spanish. WHY?? Because they "teach to the test" and they HAVE to be able to read english but per state testing spanish is optional.

Then DS2 comes along. We find outhe has ADHD.  He is put into the Spanish program as well- UTTER CHAOS- He also has a hearing issue where his ears are OVERLY sensitive so loud noises, singing in class, loud games , cause him to shut down.  We pulled him and sent him to the regular school we were at before.

OMG it was AWFUL. I tried to talk to the teacher day 1. She says "Im' sorry, I dont talk to parents about their students, I want to figure them out for myself."  So, before the 1st semester report cards, DS is FAILING every subject she calls and sayS"I wish I had known he had learning disabilites" Ummm well you WOULD HAVE KNOWN ... but you told me to shut up and go away!

They lost DS2 off hte bus ..not once.. but TWICE. The first time, DS1 gets off hte bus, there is no DS2.  The driver says, well he WAS on the bus, he must have gotten off somewhere but I have to finish my route. HUH??  WHAT??? I call the school, school says ,"YUP" He was put on the bus. I had to cal lthe SHERIIFS dept to search for him. They found him 2 hours later, wandering around campus. NO ONE noticed an unattended child oncampus? Turns out- he NEVER got on the bus. They put him in the bus LINE... but he must have walked away and no one saw him. The Principals reply? Have his 8yo borther be his budy and make sure he gets home. NO! It is NOT my 8yo child's job...it is the SCHOOL'S job The 2nd time, the busses were too crowded so they split some of hte kids off one bus and put them on another...well they put him on the WRONG 2nds bus..and WHY wold they split up my2 boys?? NO ONE could say ...again..I had to call the sheriffs to search for him because the bus driver SWORE he was on her bus when they left school.

(If you read this far you area saint)

He was DENIED any services, no IEP, no 504 for his learning disabiliteis because "he isn't far enough behind grade level" .....Well of course not you asshats...I spend 2 hours working with him every night AFTER school. I refuse to let him fail. He was already asking "Mommy, WHY DID GOD MAKE ME SO STUPID?" in 1st grade!It ripped my heart out (and still does when I think of it)

The last straw was, when I went in YET AGAIN, to fight forthe school to provide services and the Principal says,"Well, I understand why parents like you want us to deal with their problems." HELLO??? My hcild is NOT a problem. He's a little boy that needs HELP. AND..you don't know the half I do for this child keeping hime at grade level. Running his scout meetings, (for both boys) rumning Sunday school, tutoring him and reteaching him AT LEAST 2 hours at night because your school was failing.

So DH agreed to let me try homeschooling, seeing how miserable DS1 and how he ws treated at school but it wsa under the condition that I find some program that monitored their progress because he was afraid of them falling behind their peers (they already were so what's the big issue? LOL) 

We have been doing the homeschool charter  for 4 years now and it's a great compromise.

(PS- that wasn't even HALF of the stuff that went on between me and DS1 and DS2 in the public schools- I could write a novel on it...)

 

MrsM121
by on Apr. 24, 2011 at 12:59 PM

I didn't even know what homeschooling was when my boys started school until I came across it by accident, very glad I did.

Quoting mommygirls2:

 I started from day one.  When I first started I was not sure it was something I was going to plan to do throughout their whole education, but know I can not imagine going another route.  I love homeschooling and I know that it is best for our family.

 

MrsM121
by on Apr. 24, 2011 at 1:02 PM

I didn't even know homeschool existed until my kids started having problems in school and I started looking for alternatives.  I'd never planned on homeschooling but I've been doing it since 1999 and my youngest is just now starting while my oldest is in college.

Quoting SimplySonita:

I wanted to homeschool from day1 for religious reasons.

Hubby insisted our oldest go to PS for PreK. PreK went okay, so he went to PS K. It was horrible!

After that hubby said I could homeschool. This was our first year and it's been wonderful! My son is happier, learning way more, it's hepled not just his education but his attitude, his ADHD and SPD, our family relationships and more.

 

MrsM121
by on Apr. 24, 2011 at 1:02 PM

 I do love the perk of always having my kids around and knowing that they are OK.

Quoting MommaChell:

All the usual educational, safety, & spiritual reasons- I knew we could do better- and the fact that I just didn't want to be apart from my babies; I would miss out on soooooooooooo much! Simply wasn't acceptable.

 

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