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Is homeschooling possible for a social butterfly?

Posted by on May. 26, 2011 at 5:40 PM
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I have 3 girls - 6,4 and 8 months.  We are seriously considering homeschooling next year.  My 6 year old seems to be bored with school and i know that it will be worse with the 4 year old.  She is already reading at almost the same level as the 6 year old and they are both bright.  So, I'm wanting to challenge them at home.  However, my one concern is socialization.  I was homeschooled for 8 years and I have a much easier time with women who are older than me, rather than my own age.  My 6 year old is a social butterfly.  She loves playing with her friends.  So, how do I make sure that she is still getting the socialization that she needs.

We are going to be doing quite a bit with some other friends of ours.  There will be 4 boys - 8,6,5 and a 3 doing Pre-K.  We are wanting to do swimming lessons and gymnastics, etc.  How do you make it work?

by on May. 26, 2011 at 5:40 PM
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Silverkitty
by Bronze Member on May. 26, 2011 at 5:45 PM
By doing swimming lessons and gymnastics, co-ops with other families, parks. There are endless ways to get socializing done.
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Jinx-Troublex3
by Jinx on May. 26, 2011 at 5:50 PM
We do lots of scheduled activities. The key to my social butterfly's happiness is scheduling playdates with her friends from these activities. They really don't get to socialize during classes.
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padavali
by on May. 26, 2011 at 5:52 PM

I agree, this is my plan for my little butterfly :)

Quoting Jinx-Troublex3:

We do lots of scheduled activities. The key to my social butterfly's happiness is scheduling playdates with her friends from these activities. They really don't get to socialize during classes.


AbundanceMagnet
by on May. 27, 2011 at 8:31 AM

I think you will do just fine.   Swimming and gymnastics is a good way for your social butterfly to be social!!!  You can join homeschol groups too!  But really just getting out into the world, going to the park, everyday things... she will socialize more than she ever did in school!  My kids really came out of their shells after I pulled them out of school.  They have no  problem holding conversations with people of all ages. :)  Best Wishes!!! :)

MommaChell
by on May. 28, 2011 at 10:22 AM

I believe it will obviously be a process of adjustment and figuring out, but it would make the socialization time/activities so much more precious and rewarding for your children. If they're missing their friends from school, then have a party or sleep over, how fun! Try not to get discouraged by any negativity from your kiddos, or experiences, and keep trying things till you all find your structure. Bests!

SimplySonita
by on May. 28, 2011 at 10:35 AM

I find most homeschoolers I know have a problem with too MUCH socialization rather than lack of it.

Public schools are not for socialization, despite what critics of homeschool say! My son was in PS for K and got in trouble almost daily for socializing! (Talking) He was allowed to talk at lunch, during what little group work they did anad his daily 20 minute recess.PS is about standing in line, waiting your turn, sitting still and listening, not socialization!

By homeschooling your child can avoid all the wasted time of standing in lines and waiting their turn, schoolwork therefore takes a fraction of the time that it would in PS leaving more time for socialization! big smile mini

Socialization really isn't an issue for most homeschool families. The most common obsticals are lack of money to sign up for things, lack of transportation to get to things (being mostly one income families) and parents having to overcome their own social anxiety.

Sonita-Homeschooling mama to Ephram (7) & Malachi (4)


 



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akrsmomma
by on May. 30, 2011 at 6:08 AM
My daughter s very social, and I think homeschooling is better for her. It allows her to continue to be social. Being in school she would be told to be quiet over and over and over. I have her involved in all sorts f activities
BKLTsmom
by on May. 30, 2011 at 11:04 AM


Quoting MommaChell:

I believe it will obviously be a process of adjustment and figuring out, but it would make the socialization time/activities so much more precious and rewarding for your children. If they're missing their friends from school, then have a party or sleep over, how fun! Try not to get discouraged by any negativity from your kiddos, or experiences, and keep trying things till you all find your structure. Bests!

I agree!  Something else you may want to consider is what type of socialization is important for your family?  Do you want a few good friends to enhance her/your family's life or her being surrounded by peers exclusively?  For our family, we feel it important that they actually face some peer pressure to a certain degree, so that they are confronted with key decisions while we are here to help them stand up for what's right.  However, we don't want them so immersed in that pressure that the cannot stand.  For our social butterfly who was in PS for 2 years, we found that it began to errode her relationship with our family as she began to be pulled more and more by "friends" who had no respect for parents or any authority, and those who hated siblings.  Since bringing her back home her attitude has greatly improved and she's able to enjoy being with friends at church or 4H.  When she runs into her old PS friends around town once in a while (at the library, etc.) we're able to discuss in a respectful and healthy manner the things that our family does not approve of, as well as the things she is able to enjoy with those friends on a limited basis.

JakeandEmmasMom
by on May. 30, 2011 at 8:05 PM

I have three kids who are very social.  For example, at this very moment we have five neighborhood friends over playing.  There are anywhere from three to seven neighborhood kids here on any given day.  They are also involved in sports and Scouts.  To be honest, we have more times for socializing now than we did when my dd was in public kindergarten.

ReagansMom.Com
by on May. 31, 2011 at 11:33 AM

Social butterflies transform when placed under the authority of certain teachers.  Some teachers are gifted in allowing that social butterfly to thrive, but other teachers cannot.  It is certainly the number of children in the classroom and the "special social needs" of those children which determine the level of stress placed on the child.  We want to raise responsible citizens who will participate in protecting our choices and freedoms (to homeschool, to participate in sports without prejudice, to understand the principles necessary for a functional society).  One bully can disrupt a classroom an entire school year.  Socialization with both children and adults is desirable.  As a parent of two homeschooled children, I offered free "music weeks" with volunteer parents to teach, produce and perform children's musicals.  Depending upon availability of volunteer helpers, some years we performed three musicals.  Parents were welcomed to watch and volunteer.  Everyone had an opportunity to say a line or sing a short solo.  My children were my "last back-up" for parts if I could not find a willing volunteer.  Sports through our local recreation department and sports through our local high school filled our schedules.  Attend a church summer camp and you will see socialization!  Best wishes, , , We are here on CafeMom to encourage you!  ReagansMom

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