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good compromises to present to my husband?

Posted by on Sep. 15, 2011 at 11:30 AM
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I REALLY am set on homeschooling. Thankfullly I get to do it this year, but my husband has decided that there is no way he would agree to homschool next year (when my son turns 6 in October). So, I need your help thinking of a good compromise. We have talked and talked about homeschooling vs public school, and basically I am unable to convince him that our chidren will be ok "socially" and "independent" if we homeschool. He wants them mainstream :(

Anyways I was thinking maybe if they could be homeschooled, be apart of a charter school and take classes that have both public and private school kids in it, be apart of maybe boy scouts, and then even possible starting an afterschool daycare program for public school kids whose parents need to work after school hours. What are your thoughts? I am determined to make this work, and even the school districts that are considered the best in our area, the parents are either pulling their kids out of school or they are having issues in their schools. 

So, if anyone can think of a good compromise. I wouldn't even mind if my kids get a few hours of public school (I prefer not to) and then the rest done at home (my way, or should I say our way).


<3 Julia: wife of Drew, mom of Damien and Gavin, baby Harley 2/09-3/09, Mason 9-19-2010  Isaiah 66:10-13

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Boobah
by Nikki :) on Sep. 15, 2011 at 11:43 AM

Idk if k12.com is free for your state, but here in Ohio it is completely free and is like public school at home. It might be a good compromise. I cannot tell you the amount of social meetups they have. I'm talking several a week! Obviously you don't have to go to them all, or any of them if you don't want, but they are out there. SO many field trips, etc. So getting a face to face is super easy.

So anyhow, I think that might be a good starting point.  And after he is able to see how socialized the kid will be (haha) maybe the next year you can work your way into traditional homeschooling and promise to continue with the activities.  The OHVA here allows traditional homeschoolers to most of their events, although I have not attended any yet.

*I am a traditional homeschooler, but considered OHVA (k12) in the beginning.  :)

Cafe Kate
by on Sep. 15, 2011 at 12:02 PM

I think suggesting activities is a great idea -- boyscouts, sports, music classes? Something like that to show your DH that there will be interaction with other kids. And meetups with other homeschoolers is a great idea too.

Precious333
by Julia on Sep. 15, 2011 at 12:33 PM

He know my kids have a lot of social interaction, and I try and make it as eclectic as I can. He wants them to socialize with what kids that are "normal" (in his eyes public school kids are normal, and homeschooled kids are not". I totally disagree. I believe that schooled kids tend to develop bad social skills, and most homeschooled kids have great social skills and are not weird. So, its not about the curriculum, for his its about the whole "school experience" (even though in my opinion the school experience failed him....and me as well).

Jinx-Troublex3
by Jinx on Sep. 20, 2011 at 11:21 AM
You are So. Cal? If so, there are tons of great charter schools that could be a good compromise.

The Charter we uses offers a Learning Center where DD goes "to school" one day a week. The classes are ina. Classroom setting but more hands on creative activities than traditional school. She gets to pack a lunch, bring show n tell, loves it. they also have extracurriculars like art, music, guitar, drama.

The high school kids do a winter formal aand a prom, graduation, SR. Ditch wwhich I think is hysterical for homeschoolers.

I pick all my own curriculum or I can choose the state "box set". I do all my own lesson plans. They do take spring testing but we don't "teach to the test".

For reporting, I turn in one page of work per subject per month (math, science, history,language arts and a PE log) and a calendar that marks their attendance. Super easy.
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Precious333
by Julia on Sep. 20, 2011 at 11:50 AM


Quoting Jinx-Troublex3:

You are So. Cal? If so, there are tons of great charter schools that could be a good compromise.

The Charter we uses offers a Learning Center where DD goes "to school" one day a week. The classes are ina. Classroom setting but more hands on creative activities than traditional school. She gets to pack a lunch, bring show n tell, loves it. they also have extracurriculars like art, music, guitar, drama.

The high school kids do a winter formal aand a prom, graduation, SR. Ditch wwhich I think is hysterical for homeschoolers.

I pick all my own curriculum or I can choose the state "box set". I do all my own lesson plans. They do take spring testing but we don't "teach to the test".

For reporting, I turn in one page of work per subject per month (math, science, history,language arts and a PE log) and a calendar that marks their attendance. Super easy.


Yay, I was just talking to a friend about that today. You can do a homestudy and go to school like once a week or something. That may be a good compromise (although I would love complete freedom in homeschooling, but i rather have some than just a little).


<3 Julia: wife of Drew, mom of Damien and Gavin, baby Harley 2/09-3/09, Mason 9-19-2010  Isaiah 66:10-13

Cafe Kate
by on Sep. 20, 2011 at 3:05 PM

Yes -- that might be a great compromise. Keep us posted!

Quoting Precious333:


Quoting Jinx-Troublex3:

You are So. Cal? If so, there are tons of great charter schools that could be a good compromise.

The Charter we uses offers a Learning Center where DD goes "to school" one day a week. The classes are ina. Classroom setting but more hands on creative activities than traditional school. She gets to pack a lunch, bring show n tell, loves it. they also have extracurriculars like art, music, guitar, drama.

The high school kids do a winter formal aand a prom, graduation, SR. Ditch wwhich I think is hysterical for homeschoolers.

I pick all my own curriculum or I can choose the state "box set". I do all my own lesson plans. They do take spring testing but we don't "teach to the test".

For reporting, I turn in one page of work per subject per month (math, science, history,language arts and a PE log) and a calendar that marks their attendance. Super easy.


Yay, I was just talking to a friend about that today. You can do a homestudy and go to school like once a week or something. That may be a good compromise (although I would love complete freedom in homeschooling, but i rather have some than just a little).


oredeb
by on Sep. 20, 2011 at 4:45 PM

 could be opening the door!

Jinx-Troublex3
by Jinx on Sep. 20, 2011 at 5:23 PM
My DH is adamant about not having issues if the kids ever want to go back to school. The charter guarantees that.
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AllThatBabyJazz
by Bronze Member on Sep. 21, 2011 at 11:39 AM

Become part of a co-op, maybe that will help ease his concerns. Also, if there are any homeschool conventions in your area this year, try to attend as a family Good luck!

Precious333
by Julia on Sep. 22, 2011 at 2:28 PM


Quoting AllThatBabyJazz:

Become part of a co-op, maybe that will help ease his concerns. Also, if there are any homeschool conventions in your area this year, try to attend as a family Good luck!

WE went to one several years ago. He's still not liking the idea. I visited a co-op on tuesday and right now is not the timing, but maybe next year. Charter schools will pay for it as well. Everyone is working on my husband, I'm hoping he will let me!


<3 Julia: wife of Drew, mom of Damien and Gavin, baby Harley 2/09-3/09, Mason 9-19-2010  Isaiah 66:10-13

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