SO and I are tossing around the idea of homeschooling DSD(8).
Background: We recently got custody of SD. Her upbringing (which SO had nothing to do with) consisted of abuse and neglect; long story short SO has known SD for 9 months, we received 100% full and complete custody 3 months ago. Due to her upbringing she has behavioral problems, putting it lightly. I'm sure very few in this group have heard of reactive attachment disorder, but that is her diagnosis as well as PTSD.
Schooling: SD is very intelligent. Unfortunately she is also a master manipulator. Despite warning the school of this "survival technique" they seem to turn a blind eye to her manipulation and she is playing them like a fiddle. She can manipulate her teacher, counselor, and principal into believing about anything. I have recently learned that the school uses no negative consequences whatsoever. A few examples: she does a behavior chart every day, for every + she earns she gets to put a marble in the jar, marbles are not removed for - marks. Students never lose recess privileges. Students never earn 0 or Fs. The lowest they will earn is a D, even if they do not do the work.
Dilemma: My little master manipulator knows if she does not do her work she will still get to go to recess and she will still receiving a passing grade. She pretends that she cannot do simple addition and subtraction, even though at her old school she was doing multiplication and division. She knows if she says she doesn't understand that she will receive help which really equals the teacher doing the work. I have talked to the school and made them 100% aware of her diagnosis, her manipulation tendencies, but they are so focused on keeping everything positive they are doing my SD harm. I refuse to have her education compromised because they are not willing to recognize and deal with these issues. I have tried to explain to them that if they nip it now it will not be a problem once she realizes she is "losing" by them not feeding into her.
If you have stayed with me thus far, a huge thank you. SO and I are thinking if this does not get straightened out by the end of the school year that we will home-school next year. Can you please refer me to any curriculum, information, anything that could aid us in making this huge decision.