I want to home school but DH doesn't want me to. How should I bring it up to him so he can see the benefits?
I am honestly not sure since this was not an issue for me. I would start by making a pros and cons list for homeschool vs public or even private school. Then I would make a list of all the things that you would want to do with your child at home that can not be done away from home ( to even it out I would also list positive things that your child would not be exposed to at home) . Lastly I would get a list of resources that are available to you for homeschool and show him all of it. I would also talk to him and find out what his concerns are and voice yours as well. One other thing that I know alot of husbands ( and some wives) have an issue with is the "cost" of homeschool. Many people ( including my husband and I at one time) think that homeschool is expensive. To address this I would get a list of FREE or low cost resources, as well as any thing that you would want to have. Good luck I hope it all works out for you .
Show him the facts from articles like the ones below:
Home School Children Score High On ACT tests (compared to public schooled children)
Academic Statistics On Home Schooling
Why Teachers Are Now The Biggest Influx Into The Home School Venue
get books, like fom John Taylor Gatto
If it were me I woudl start by finding out WHY he doesn't want you to home school. Take each reason & show him how it's either not true or you're goign to make it work.
Start by sitting him down and letting him know all the benefits of homeschooling verses the bad of public schools. Tell him that your child will have a better bond, one on one teaching which will help them learn better. Your child will definately not get this in public school even if he/she needs help from the teacher. There will definately never be any bullying against your child ever. The child can learn at their own pace. I am sure he will come around once he understands these issues more clearly now! Good Luck!
Listen to him as to why he doesn't want to. Really listen and address those concerns rather than trying to win him over.
My husband was initially against it. However, I worked as an art sub. for a long while before my children were born...and the schools scared me. I told him some of what I saw, and why it bothered me so. Eventually, he understood, but we both had to learn that both sides of this have major benefits and rather large drawbacks. Now, we've switched positions a bit and will only be homeschooling for pre-k, then possibly again in 3rd grade when k-12 online can help pick up the curriculum slack, but we are both passionate for the kids to learn new things, and that desire will continue whether or not the little ones go to a school building for half of the day. If your spouse is dead set against his children being homeschooled, and researching doesn't seem to bring him to your way of seeing things, then you can always compromise and be a part-time homeschooler. Sure, school is a tough experience for some (and if a child struggles, that may win the arguement over it immediatly) but it is not the end of the world or even the determining factor of your child's future, especially if you are very involved with them and stay involved with whatever school...
tortia let us know how it goes,
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