OT: What would you ladies do if your mother was constantly asking your daughter to lie for her?
And they are just white lies, really. For example, Mom took Missie (10) to Joann's so Missie could buy some yarn. Well, she made a pit stop at a check loan place and got a $100 loan until Friday. Then she tells Missie not to tell me, and if I ask what took so long to lie and say traffic was bad. It's always dumb things like that. Plus, she told her not to mention that she (my mom) spent $25 dollars on yarn. I don't want to forbid them from seeing each other, I don't want to hurt their relationship, but this is getting stupid. PLUS, we are those parents that tell our kids that lying is the worst thing ever and we practice rewarding honesty, even when they are reporting a bad thing they did and HUGELY punishing dishonesty. Missie gets really uncomfortable being put in the middle and tattling so to speak but she feels worse not telling the truth or hearing her grandmother lie.