Well, Sunday she went to my nieces birthday party. I couldn't go because it was during my other daughters nap, so hubby took her. She knew where she was going, had been there before. But when she got there, she got overwhelmed and cried the entire time. They had to leave after an hour because she wouldn't stop. I asked her about it and she says "I just want you to understand. And not be mad, because it is silly". I promised I wouldn't be and she said it was "because there were too many people there" and "she didn't know them and got scared".
As a shy kid myself, I get it. I STILL get anxiety when going somewhere with a lot of people, especially if I don't know them. But hubby was upset, embarrassed, and well... Pissed off. He keeps telling me we have to do something. What do you do?? I can't make her not be shy. Getting mad at her will do nothing. Forcing her will make her more scared and resentful.
The thing is, she goes plenty of places and has no problem. We belong to the YMCA and they have child watch while you exercise. She has gone in twice, no hesitation, and made friends both times. One time was even with a male teacher in a gym. I am just unsure of why it is such a big deal. I kow he was embarrassed, it is embarrassing when she flips out and everyone is looking at you and won't leave her alone, which makes it worse.
The only thing that bothers me is I can GUARANTEE that his family blamed it on homeschooling after he left, which is billsh*t! She was SO much worse in public school! She wouldn't talk to anyone, now at least she will say hello to people and answer them.
I'm not sure what I'm getting at here, I'm just frustrated and don't know what I'm "supposed to do" to help her. I want her to be confident, and outgoing, and all that, but it isn't her. I take that back, she is confident, but not outgoing.