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pros and cons list

Posted by on Jan. 12, 2012 at 3:49 PM
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Hey everyone!

My husband wnats my son to got to public school next year, and I want to continue homeschooling. We are going to an information meeting tomorrow at a charter school. I am going to write a list of pros and cons and wanted to see if you all could help me out, just incase I forgot anything.

The charter school is a 5 day normal school, I don't know much about it, expect that location and that its lottery based.

The charter schools also has a home study's program, it meets once a week classes k-2, and 3-6, same location as the 5 day school. Unfortunately it meets on wednesdays, which are the days we already are involved in a class my son loves. They do not do any academics at school, mostly PE, and other specialty projects, and they do field trips as well. They give $400 a semester for curriculum only. they do testing and you have to meet with the teacher and keep track of your school work, but you can choose your curriculum

There is a strictly homestudies charter school. You have to keep track of your schooling as the charter school above, you have to be accountable with school work etc. and do testing. You get money (more money) that can be used on curriculum and classes (by their vendors).

On my own under an umbrella school or fill out an alpha david (?). Not testing, complete freedom, no money either.


<3 Julia: wife of Drew, mom of Damien and Gavin, baby Harley 2/09-3/09, Mason 9-19-2010  Isaiah 66:10-13 Breastfeeding Moms: group Mod

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hottmommi42
by on Jan. 12, 2012 at 3:56 PM
I am in that same boat. Idk what I am going to do, but ds likes school but wants to be home again. Loves his friends, but they don't have time to let him learn. I was having a hard time affording any paper let alone anything that could resemble curriculum. But, I hate that if I use any of the alternative programs, I have to login m-f. That doesn't really work for me, since we usually take a day off during the week, and he and daddy do building and science and whatnot.
Maybe find out why your dh wants ds to go to ps. Add what his concerns are to your list. Then find out if there are things happening that he likes at hs. Gl mama.
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usmom3
by BJ on Jan. 12, 2012 at 4:31 PM

 Are you wanting help with the pros & cons of all your options?

If I where you I would tell my husband that he has to convince me why your son should go to PS (put him in your shoes of having to defend his side) & then go over what he comes up with together & compare it to info you have on homeschooling!

mem82
by Platinum Member on Jan. 12, 2012 at 5:24 PM

affidavit or umbrella school- pro- you can do whatever is right for you and your son con- it's all on you 8)

charter schools- pro- it takes the stress off of you to come up with everything con-money and the lottery

Precious333
by Silver Member on Jan. 12, 2012 at 6:44 PM


Quoting usmom3:

 Are you wanting help with the pros & cons of all your options?

If I where you I would tell my husband that he has to convince me why your son should go to PS (put him in your shoes of having to defend his side) & then go over what he comes up with together & compare it to info you have on homeschooling!

I wish I can do that, but honestly I'm scared to. My husband almost left me about 3 years ago. There were many reasons, one of them being that he felt I was making all the decisions. So, in the process of working through things we looked at all those decision we made, and it turns out that almost every single one he was opposed to. So, I agreed that he could have the final say, but take the info and what I feel is best into consideration. Really if I say that I would be scared that it will put a wedge between us, that may harden his heart towards me and cause him to consider leaving again.


<3 Julia: wife of Drew, mom of Damien and Gavin, baby Harley 2/09-3/09, Mason 9-19-2010  Isaiah 66:10-13 Breastfeeding Moms: group Mod

usmom3
by BJ on Jan. 12, 2012 at 7:36 PM

 

Quoting Precious333:

 

Quoting usmom3:

 Are you wanting help with the pros & cons of all your options?

If I where you I would tell my husband that he has to convince me why your son should go to PS (put him in your shoes of having to defend his side) & then go over what he comes up with together & compare it to info you have on homeschooling!

I wish I can do that, but honestly I'm scared to. My husband almost left me about 3 years ago. There were many reasons, one of them being that he felt I was making all the decisions. So, in the process of working through things we looked at all those decision we made, and it turns out that almost every single one he was opposed to. So, I agreed that he could have the final say, but take the info and what I feel is best into consideration. Really if I say that I would be scared that it will put a wedge between us, that may harden his heart towards me and cause him to consider leaving again.

 I understand not wanting to cause problems with him!

If he decides to put him in PS is your husband willing to pull him out latter if it turns bad for your son? See my hubby was against homeschooling & has been against a lot of things that we do now in the beginning (basically anything that was my idea & not his, he would oppose when it was first presented to him) but his opposition is because he doesn't like change not because I make all the decisions. So when homeschooling became the issue I told him I was doing it whether he liked it or not because our son was in danger at the PS & needed to get out of there for his own mental & physical safety! Now my hubby wouldn't have it any other way & is very grateful that I never put our younger 2 in the system to begin with!

Precious333
by Silver Member on Jan. 12, 2012 at 7:44 PM


Quoting usmom3:

 

Quoting Precious333:

 

Quoting usmom3:

 Are you wanting help with the pros & cons of all your options?

If I where you I would tell my husband that he has to convince me why your son should go to PS (put him in your shoes of having to defend his side) & then go over what he comes up with together & compare it to info you have on homeschooling!

I wish I can do that, but honestly I'm scared to. My husband almost left me about 3 years ago. There were many reasons, one of them being that he felt I was making all the decisions. So, in the process of working through things we looked at all those decision we made, and it turns out that almost every single one he was opposed to. So, I agreed that he could have the final say, but take the info and what I feel is best into consideration. Really if I say that I would be scared that it will put a wedge between us, that may harden his heart towards me and cause him to consider leaving again.

 I understand not wanting to cause problems with him!

If he decides to put him in PS is your husband willing to pull him out latter if it turns bad for your son? See my hubby was against homeschooling & has been against a lot of things that we do now in the beginning (basically anything that was my idea & not his, he would oppose when it was first presented to him) but his opposition is because he doesn't like change not because I make all the decisions. So when homeschooling became the issue I told him I was doing it whether he liked it or not because our son was in danger at the PS & needed to get out of there for his own mental & physical safety! Now my hubby wouldn't have it any other way & is very grateful that I never put our younger 2 in the system to begin with!

your husband sounds a lot like mine! I'm so worried for my son, because he is a lot like my dh, (who was diagnosed with ADHD and OCD). I'm so worried what going to school will mean for him :(


<3 Julia: wife of Drew, mom of Damien and Gavin, baby Harley 2/09-3/09, Mason 9-19-2010  Isaiah 66:10-13 Breastfeeding Moms: group Mod

usmom3
by BJ on Jan. 12, 2012 at 7:59 PM

 

Quoting Precious333:

 

your husband sounds a lot like mine! I'm so worried for my son, because he is a lot like my dh, (who was diagnosed with ADHD and OCD). I'm so worried what going to school will mean for him :(

 I understand your fears for your son. Both of my sons have Autism & the oldest one had a nightmare of a time in the PS the older he got. I just wish I had had the confidence when he was young to have homeschooled him all along.

 

Precious333
by Silver Member on Jan. 12, 2012 at 8:11 PM


Quoting usmom3:

 

Quoting Precious333:

 

your husband sounds a lot like mine! I'm so worried for my son, because he is a lot like my dh, (who was diagnosed with ADHD and OCD). I'm so worried what going to school will mean for him :(

 I understand your fears for your son. Both of my sons have Autism & the oldest one had a nightmare of a time in the PS the older he got. I just wish I had had the confidence when he was young to have homeschooled him all along.

 

That was another thing, I wonder if Damien could be on the spectrum somewhere, as he has some sensitivities (two of my brothers are on the autism spectrum). The older my son gets the more I seem to notice it, and I thought it would be diminishing by now :( But I suppose thats a whole other can of worms.


<3 Julia: wife of Drew, mom of Damien and Gavin, baby Harley 2/09-3/09, Mason 9-19-2010  Isaiah 66:10-13 Breastfeeding Moms: group Mod

usmom3
by BJ on Jan. 12, 2012 at 9:14 PM

 

Quoting Precious333:

 

Quoting usmom3:

 

Quoting Precious333:

 

your husband sounds a lot like mine! I'm so worried for my son, because he is a lot like my dh, (who was diagnosed with ADHD and OCD). I'm so worried what going to school will mean for him :(

 I understand your fears for your son. Both of my sons have Autism & the oldest one had a nightmare of a time in the PS the older he got. I just wish I had had the confidence when he was young to have homeschooled him all along.

 

That was another thing, I wonder if Damien could be on the spectrum somewhere, as he has some sensitivities (two of my brothers are on the autism spectrum). The older my son gets the more I seem to notice it, and I thought it would be diminishing by now :( But I suppose thats a whole other can of worms.

 Yeah kids on the spectrum don't usualy do great in PS!

upheavalmedia
by on Jan. 13, 2012 at 9:25 AM
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I would use cyber schools as it is happy medium.Full curriculum on computer at home.

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