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Posted by on Feb. 5, 2012 at 6:27 PM
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I am new to the group and also to homeschooling. My DD is gifted, skipped 2nd grade and is about to finish up 5th grade in public school. This year has been HELL for both her and the rest of the family because of a variety of problems she has been having. She has been having some psychological issues (starts therapy Wednesday) including some depression. She has been seriously fearing middle school. Sadly, she was a lock for the gifted magnet school that rocks, but because she has self-destructed this year there is no way she will get in to it. There are 2 other charter schools she could apply to, but she probably won't get in to those either, because a lot of it rides on a teacher recommendation and her teacher won't give her one. Quite frankly, she shouldn't. DD has been either putting in almost no effort on her work (only doing half a worksheet for example) or not doing it at all. She has been lying to us about whether or not she has homework to try to get out of doing it. One thing after another. It isn't too hard for her academically at all, when she will just sit down and do the work she gets almost all 100's. She just doesn't want to do it. Because of all this, she has REASON to fear middle school. The only one that would take her is the public one that has to, and it is horrible. It is seriously ghetto, as in kids bring guns to school. It is a 6-12 school so she would be in school with a bunch of thugs, many of whom are a lot older than her. The teacher wants to retain her for her work habits and social issues (she is very immature, in fact she isn't just immature for her frade, but for her age as well). The problem with this is not only that it would wreck what little she has left of her self-esteem, but it would also just exacerbate the problem in my opinion. She is already bored with the material, redoing it is just going to make it sooo much worse. So, I have found a "homeschooling light" solution, where she can go to a virtual charter school. We get to choose the curriculum and she has access to a licensed teacher and gets a "learning fund" from the school district. It looks PERFECT for her. We have narrowed it down to two curricula, with one being the front runner. The suggestions and advice I need are: tips for homeschooling gifted students, for helping her have a "work area" because organization is one of her biggest problems, tips for motivating her, and ideas for "extracurricular" activities. She is 10 years old and a very social person, the main drawback to the homeschooling is that school is really the only place where she gets to interact with other kids at the moment, so we have to find an alternative. We do not go to church, so that isn't somewhere she can get kid-time. We are going to look into local homeschooling groups, but the majority of people who homeschool in our area do so because they are evangelicals who want their kids to have a Christian education. I have no problem with them, everyone is entitled to educate their children how they see fit, but we are a lesbian couple, so I really doubt many of the homeschool groups around here will be at all welcoming. Any advice on activities would be great. We have decided on karate for sure, and we will probably have her keep up with her viola (her current school has a strings class) and go into private lessons for that. Thanks so much, sorry this is so long, I am a bit overwhelmed with planning all of this!

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usmom3
by BJ on Feb. 5, 2012 at 6:53 PM

 Welcome to the group! Try looking on yahoo groups for local homeschool groups as well as Google+. I bet that there are more homeschoolers then you think in your aria.

mem82
by Platinum Member on Feb. 5, 2012 at 7:06 PM

It always takes a little while to dig out like minded individuals in homeschool groups. Try seeing if the YMCA or bowling alleys have homeschool classes. Hang out at the library during the school day to see if you can find them. 8)

bren_darlene
by Bronze Member on Feb. 5, 2012 at 7:14 PM
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I had one child that also skipped grades in school and had a genius IQ.  I don't think there is anything special to do for gifted kids.  I just let him work at his own pace. That is the beauty of home education.  That particular child is now 29 yrs old! Man how time flies. lol

oredeb
by on Feb. 6, 2012 at 11:32 AM

 activities, what about baseball, gynastics, if you could find a homeschool group they would have some coop classes she could join in on,  check at the local library for any other homeschoool groups

Knightquester
by on Feb. 6, 2012 at 12:14 PM

I have two moms, and back when I was younger it wasn't very common so what they did (I was homeschooled too) was put my brothers and I into a bowling league and other programs.  Now days it's not as unusual to have two moms and really my kids talk all the time about their grandma's and other people don't seem to notice, but I understand where you're coming from.  I would just Google your area and all inclusive homeschooling groups to see what you can come up with, if nothing comes up then just place your daughter into a lot of extra curricular programs.  We don't belong to a group but my children take a lego engineering class and tennis this semester, and last semester it was way more.  My kids have more then a dozen friends that are around their age some from where we live and some they've met through other means like classes they've taken, or children of friends of my husband and me. 

As for gifted when it comes to homeschooling you have a lot of options.  Two out of the four of my children are working several grade levels ahead one (is about your daughter's age) is in middle school atm and looking at taking a college class next year.  It doesn't change how I treat her or her brother vs. the other two children of mine that are working their grade level or even my approach at homeschooling.  I just allow them to work ahead as far as they wish and there's nothing to fear or be expected of them as far as middle or high school goes given when you're homeschooled those two levels are no different then elementary school when environment is concerned.

5BMom
by on Feb. 6, 2012 at 2:25 PM
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In my opinion, as a former gifted child YOU need to stop focusing on the term "gifted"... It puts pressure on her... And you. It caused me to act out and under perform in highschool, because I wanted to fit in.

Ask HER what activites she wants to do. Period. Don't force any of them. Let her do the work she is capable of... Let her call herself the grade that corresponds to her age... Not work level.
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FoxFire363
by on Feb. 6, 2012 at 3:47 PM

LOL, I forgot to mention that I was a gifted kid too. I had the same problems in high school. There was too much pressure and I quit caring. Actually, the major problems we are having at the moment go to her wanting to fit in, the kids were teasing her for liking to read and getting high grades. She started down that slippery slope of blending in and just kept going to the point where now she doesn't fit in in the OPPOSITE direction, the other kids think she is a slacker and annoyingly distracting with the antics she gets up to, trying to win them over :( She wants to do the karate (she is really excited about it) and stick with the viola (she enjoys hearing herself improve). She will be in a program with grade levels btw, so she will just call herself by the grade she is in. 

Quoting 5BMom:

In my opinion, as a former gifted child YOU need to stop focusing on the term "gifted"... It puts pressure on her... And you. It caused me to act out and under perform in highschool, because I wanted to fit in.

Ask HER what activites she wants to do. Period. Don't force any of them. Let her do the work she is capable of... Let her call herself the grade that corresponds to her age... Not work level.


FoxFire363
by on Feb. 6, 2012 at 3:48 PM

Thanks for the advice, everyone. Sounds like we are on the right track. Hadn't thought about going to the library during school hours, though. That is a great idea!

malchusmom
by on Feb. 6, 2012 at 4:11 PM


Quoting 5BMom:

In my opinion, as a former gifted child YOU need to stop focusing on the term "gifted"... It puts pressure on her... And you. It caused me to act out and under perform in highschool, because I wanted to fit in.

Ask HER what activites she wants to do. Period. Don't force any of them. Let her do the work she is capable of... Let her call herself the grade that corresponds to her age... Not work level.

Totally agree!!!!!

Jinx-Troublex3
by Jinx on Feb. 6, 2012 at 4:20 PM

My DS had the same problem of being very smart, reading way above grade level, and being called a geek, nerd, etc. and he was constantly put down for being smart and he was beat up several times because he is to oquiet and nice. He's your stereotypical nerd - glasses, thin to the point of looking scrawny, etc. LOL Homeschooling was a GOD SEND for him! He is totally thriving. 

PLEASE put her into a martial arts program but before you do, check out SEVERAL dojos! They are not all alike. Be sure that you are not "buying her belts'. Aka - you spend so much money, attend so many classes and BANG! Atuomatic new belt level. If the dojo has 9-10 year old blackbelts - RUN AWAY! fast!  We do Okinawa-Te karate, it's a cross between traditional shotokan karate and kung-fu, it has totally changed DS!! He still looks scrawny, but OMG the kid is RIPPED! He isn't bulky because it's not that kind of traiing, but he has a 6 pack to be proud of! LMAO He has also learned the mental aspects, he knows what to do againt bullies, he knows how and when to pick his battles. He is WAY more self-confident. I HIGHLY recommend martial arts IF you can find a good dojo.

You should also look into 4H or Girl Scouts....

4H is good because they often divide into interest groups. So she would be with a co-ed group of kids with similar interests. Anything from raising guide puppies, showing horses, gardening, to shooting sports.

I see you said you aren't religous and GS requires "to serve God" in their pledge, it isn't meant as JUST Jesus Chirst, it can fit whatever your beliefs are. They have religous awards for many manydifferent religions. Depending on the leader, religion kept to the minimum if it's discussed at all. Most say, "Discuss that requirement with your family".



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