update, and advise/support? Especially if you unschool
Wow, it's amazing what a few months can make!
So, some of you may remember I had decided to put my oldest in part time Kinder, due to some serious marital issues. So, our marriage is NOT perfect, but, things are heading in a much quieter direction. Our youngest is thriving to be home with her mama, even if she says she wants to go back to daycare when I ask her she says with a pouty lip, "no mama, you are my only bestest friend".
So now that things maritally are quieter, we have taken notice to some things happening with our son that we hadn't noticed before. The kid is seriously stressed out! It takes him 2 hours to decompress from a 2 hour day! He has eye strain! He just had his eyes checked, and visually they are great, but he always says they hurt and he is always blinking. Also, his eating is off and he isn't drinking as much. And, he refuses to read anymore. At all. He doesn't want to build things, he is moody, and he refuses to even look at his homework packet. We were doing half day in first grade at home, but he has been so exhausted we havent even opened anything in weeks!
So, I work in his class 1 day a week, and I have noticed that they cram a ton of work on them! And, they have ds in remidial reading... when he started he read at a 2nd grade level, now he wont read kinder sight words. He's lost all confidence! Most kinder classes are play based, this is not. It's 7 minutes per activity, and you get negative marks if you don't finish. They get 15 minutes of music every week, and 20 minutes of PE. One potty break OR drink. Not both.
So, dh and I were talking and we are thinking of pulling ds out. this will be the third change this school year.
I know the baby is going to need deschooling till at least fall, and I just want to build his confidence back up and get him reading again. But, there is so much benefit in play! So here is the q for unschoolers, when did you figure out that your kids were ready for "hard" learning? Not just play based education. and, was there an age when you could let them work independantly? I am on the right path when I think that this is just not normal for a 6 year old, right?
So, whats my next step? I already know my laws, and ds is going to be really sad that he can't see his friends anymore, but the poor baby is loosing the skills I decided were best for him in the future, confidence and reading!