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Would you be proud if your child(ren) .......................................

Posted by on Feb. 15, 2012 at 11:04 AM
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heres a question i found on another site, had some interesting answers!

Would you be proud if your child graduates homeschool and decides to work in construction?

How about if your child decides to work in fast food or a factory?

or doesnt go to college?

by on Feb. 15, 2012 at 11:04 AM
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usmom3
by BJ on Feb. 15, 2012 at 11:20 AM
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 Yes I would be & the reason is I want my kids to work in a job that is fulfilling to them not because it will bring the biggest paycheck.

I will never push my kids to go to collage becuase it dosn't garenty you a job just debt at the end of it!

kcangel63
by on Feb. 15, 2012 at 11:22 AM
I would be fine as long as that is what they want to do, or it is helping them get to where they want to be in life. My hubby does house construction at times. He loves it. We also have our own businesses, but will do construction on the side because it is fun.

Just bc you go to college, it doesn't guarantee you'll have that career. My hubby went to Aviation School, he now sells Kettle Corn and does construction. I never went to college. I am a Doula and Placenta Encapsulation Specialist. Funny how life works out.
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Boobah
by Nikki :) on Feb. 15, 2012 at 11:42 AM
It would depend on if they chose the job, or if they were slackers and just bounced job to job. Lol. I know that sounds weird I'm not sure exactly how to word what I mean.
As far as construction, I will probably highly discourage it. Around here, every construction group is full of addicts/alcoholics. My dad ran a concrete business for 35 years, he was an alcoholic for half of those, and just quit smoking weed a few years ago. My brother is a recovering drug addict, who I think is currently using again, and works construction as well. He just can't get away from the addicts so they bring him back down.
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Boobah
by Nikki :) on Feb. 15, 2012 at 11:43 AM
Btw, I'm not saying all construction workers are addicts or alcoholics. But around here, it is definitely the majority.
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bren_darlene
by Bronze Member on Feb. 15, 2012 at 12:11 PM

 We personally do not encourage college in our family.   And out of 8 boys we only have one working a low paying job.  He is now looking to change his field.  His older brothers (2 of them) are into oilfield work and make really good money. They are wanting to break him into it.  We also have a son that owns a taxi company and another that is a welder, and another that has his own construction company.  But whatever our children decide to do is fine with us as long as they are happy and can take care of their families.  All of our girls are stay at home , home educating moms.

AutymsMommy
by Silver Member on Feb. 15, 2012 at 12:32 PM
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I'm not sure how to put this and not get jumped. Lol.

College is not an option in our home - it's mandatory if the child in question wants ANY support after 18. We also prefer a STEM major; not a literature, history, or classical studies major (sorry!) unless they plan on obtaining the additional college necessary to TEACH those non-STEM subjects.

It has nothing to do with our pride in our children. It has everything to do with our personal life experiences and those of people closest to us.

I am a Home Schooling, Vaccinating, Non spanking, Nightmare Cuddling, Dessert Giving, Bedtime Kissing, Book Reading, Academic pushing Mother. I believe in the benefit of organized after school activities and nosey, involved parents. I believe in spoiling my children. I believe that I have seen the village and I do not want it raising my child. I believe that my place, as a woman, is in the home caring for my husband and children. My husband is head of our home.             Aimee

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mem82
by Platinum Member on Feb. 15, 2012 at 12:44 PM

I know what you mean, and i agree. College isn't a must but we do expect them to know a trade. We want them to be happy and thrive, not just survive.

Quoting Boobah:

It would depend on if they chose the job, or if they were slackers and just bounced job to job. Lol. I know that sounds weird I'm not sure exactly how to word what I mean.
As far as construction, I will probably highly discourage it. Around here, every construction group is full of addicts/alcoholics. My dad ran a concrete business for 35 years, he was an alcoholic for half of those, and just quit smoking weed a few years ago. My brother is a recovering drug addict, who I think is currently using again, and works construction as well. He just can't get away from the addicts so they bring him back down.




usmom3
by BJ on Feb. 15, 2012 at 12:53 PM

 No one is going to jump you over this! You do what you feel is right for your kids based off of your experiences, that is no different then what I do. I don't push collage because every collage educated person I know is in debt up to their eyeballs & are not working in the field they have degrees in (because they can't get one in that field). On the flip side my hubby was an apprentice under my father to learn his trade of being a diesel technician (new title for mechanic), he works with guys that went to collage to do this job & he makes way more money an hour then they do with out the debt.

Quoting AutymsMommy:

I'm not sure how to put this and not get jumped. Lol.

College is not an option in our home - it's mandatory if the child in question wants ANY support after 18. We also prefer a STEM major; not a literature, history, or classical studies major (sorry!) unless they plan on obtaining the additional college necessary to TEACH those non-STEM subjects.

It has nothing to do with our pride in our children. It has everything to do with our personal life experiences and those of people closest to us.

 

Knightquester
by on Feb. 15, 2012 at 12:59 PM
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I will encourage college because even if they choose something that doesn't need a degree it's a nice back up for if they needed to switch careers or lost their job.

Fast food doesn't pay well, minimum wage and living in an expensive state like California that isn't a lot, so it leaves very little option wise on what you can do.  As I pointed out to my children they like their computer, Internet and other such things that cost so they'd better remember that when making decisions that will affect their future.

In the end their future is theirs to do with, and I will respect whatever decisions they were to choose.  As a parent I not only want them to be happy but I want them to be able to stand on their own and support themselves and if they can do that w/o going to college then more power to them in their future endeavors.

Boobah
by Nikki :) on Feb. 15, 2012 at 1:04 PM

I don't think I will encourage or discourage, just whatever they choose.  I have my associates in Early Childhood, and while it has helped me tremendously in my personal life, especially raising children and making choices I wouldn't have otherwise, I haven't used it for a paying position besides watching children in my home.  It has helped me *get* jobs, by just having a degree.  

My husband doesn't have a degree, and has a really good job.  But he does get frustrated because the position he wants, he is VERY qualified for, and they know it (it is at his current place of employment) but they will NOT hire him for one reason.  No degree.  I don't think it is right.  I'd take 12 years of experience in a field and a ton of certificates of completion than a degree in "anything".  

So it's a tough call for me.  College would definitely have helped him, but I think eventually he will get the position he wants, just maybe not in that company.  He currently has 2 other companies knocking down our door to get him, but he's a loyal guy.  LOL  Good and bad I suppose.  

Quoting bren_darlene:

 We personally do not encourage college in our family.   And out of 8 boys we only have one working a low paying job.  He is now looking to change his field.  His older brothers (2 of them) are into oilfield work and make really good money. They are wanting to break him into it.  We also have a son that owns a taxi company and another that is a welder, and another that has his own construction company.  But whatever our children decide to do is fine with us as long as they are happy and can take care of their families.  All of our girls are stay at home , home educating moms.


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