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We just pulled ds from ps, they did evals on him due to the IEP that he has, but what I need some help on is do we relook at what he can actually do or do we just go off of what he is willing to show the teachers he can do? We know that he can do more but we don't want to overwhelm him but I want to get caught up to his grade so that he isn't behind any more. I'm just not sure how to go about it! My thoughts are to help him through the work and see how hard it is and what he is struggling with and then go from there, but I don't really know how well this will work. Also is it necessary to 'deschool' a kid before starting into everything? I still have 2 kids in ps and that would be hard, I plan on giving him tomorrow and then the weekend, and then starting into it slowly on Monday next week. Please help, I'm so new at this and overwhelmed!

by on Feb. 23, 2012 at 8:54 PM
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mem82
by Platinum Member on Feb. 24, 2012 at 10:31 AM

Poor guy! I feel so bad for him. It really does sound like the teacher failed him.

Quoting Sariah747:

Between no recess and the box around his desk (that I took down) and belittling him it's just been awful this year!

Quoting mem82:

That drives me nuts! Why would you take an energy release from the chils? It's shooting you both in the foot!

Quoting Sariah747:

He was getting all of his recesses taken away, the teacher wouldn't let him outside for some reason or another. She made him think that he was stupid and so he acted like it. She was giving him to much work, he wasn't able to complete it all, and so he would think im a failure why try? And then he would get home and do it just fine in 20 minutes. It's just more relaxed here and with mom being able to be right there one on one I think that made a difference. I pretty much know where he is struggling, and kinda where he needs help, like simple addition, 2+2=4. And reading comprehnsion, he can't recall simple facts out of a story, even after reading it multiple times he just can't! Believe me we have tried. We found out this year that the glasses he was wearing weren't the right script, when we fixed that problem it made a huge difference!! His reading jumped so quickly, but hes still on a 1st grade level. We are working through it and as problems are coming up we are fixing them.

Quoting romacox:

deschooling is sometimes necessary. But because your 8 year old is responding to home school so well, I doubt he needs it. 

You are absolutely correct about finding out what he is missing...what is the cause of him not doing as well in school as you know he is capable of. Filling in missing links can make a big difference.  My children are now all grown, but I still tutor children, and often see kids who experience what you are describing.  I find that many do much better at home than at school for various reasons. 

  • For active children, school can be very stressful.  When I was a child, we were given 3 recesses, and the teacher could give us more if needed. But today many schools only allow 30 minutes.  When we are under stress, our bodies produce cortisol, which effects our ability to learn.  This has an even more profound effect on children.  So many of my students preform much better at home than at school simply because I mix activity into their learning.
  • Sometimes very bright children (especially true with hands on learners and active children) get the idea that they are not as smart as the other kids.  That idea can become a self fulfilling prophecy.  I have found helping them overcome this self image is sometimes all that is needed...no missing chains there.
  • This is rare: Occasionally the fluorescent lighting at school causes some people to have eye problems.  The words on pages appear to move.  It is called Sotopic Syndrome.  Conditions that  Can Mimic Or Cause Learning Problems.







romacox
by Silver Member on Feb. 25, 2012 at 8:10 AM

Wow, that tugs at my hart.  He is blessed to have a mom like you who is up to date with what is happening to him, and who will respond.  You know not every child is so blessed, and I am serious about that. If you do not mind, I would like to offer some ideas to help:

  • 9 times out of ten, if a child knows their phonic sounds, but is having trouble reading,...well the following video explains:

  • For comprehension, I recommend this article:  How To Teach Comprehension
  • And as you know he will need help realizing he is intelligent.  The good news is that he is still young enough to respond quickly.  I have tutored 6Th graders who had gone through what your son has experienced.  It is easy to help them learn to read, but undoing all the damage done to their self image (and all the behavior resulting)  is much more difficult at that age.
Quoting Sariah747:

He was getting all of his recesses taken away, the teacher wouldn't let him outside for some reason or another. She made him think that he was stupid and so he acted like it. She was giving him to much work, he wasn't able to complete it all, and so he would think im a failure why try? And then he would get home and do it just fine in 20 minutes. It's just more relaxed here and with mom being able to be right there one on one I think that made a difference. I pretty much know where he is struggling, and kinda where he needs help, like simple addition, 2+2=4. And reading comprehnsion, he can't recall simple facts out of a story, even after reading it multiple times he just can't! Believe me we have tried. We found out this year that the glasses he was wearing weren't the right script, when we fixed that problem it made a huge difference!! His reading jumped so quickly, but hes still on a 1st grade level. We are working through it and as problems are coming up we are fixing them.

Quoting romacox:

deschooling is sometimes necessary. But because your 8 year old is responding to home school so well, I doubt he needs it. 

You are absolutely correct about finding out what he is missing...what is the cause of him not doing as well in school as you know he is capable of. Filling in missing links can make a big difference.  My children are now all grown, but I still tutor children, and often see kids who experience what you are describing.  I find that many do much better at home than at school for various reasons. 

  • For active children, school can be very stressful.  When I was a child, we were given 3 recesses, and the teacher could give us more if needed. But today many schools only allow 30 minutes.  When we are under stress, our bodies produce cortisol, which effects our ability to learn.  This has an even more profound effect on children.  So many of my students preform much better at home than at school simply because I mix activity into their learning.
  • Sometimes very bright children (especially true with hands on learners and active children) get the idea that they are not as smart as the other kids.  That idea can become a self fulfilling prophecy.  I have found helping them overcome this self image is sometimes all that is needed...no missing chains there.
  • This is rare: Occasionally the fluorescent lighting at school causes some people to have eye problems.  The words on pages appear to move.  It is called Sotopic Syndrome.  Conditions that  Can Mimic Or Cause Learning Problems.



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