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im not ready to teach this...

Posted by on Mar. 1, 2012 at 1:02 AM
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So my parents mother, being the overbearing, know it all, typical you're doing everything wrong grandmother that she is seems to think that i should give ds "the talk". Here is what happened.... ds (5) and i were in the car headed home from my dr appt and he says to me "mother! you really need to tell the baby fairy, I need a baby brother! I cant be the only child forever mommy, and if the baby fairy can put a baby in your belly then the doctors can open the door and take him out after you bake him for a while, then i wont be the only child anymore".... I quite personally thought this was funny so i called the forementioned psycho and let her know....well according to her that means that its time to give my son "the talk". I told her no that is my 5 year old being 5, and he didnt ask about where babies come from or anything so he isnt curious....it turned into a huge arugment and now i need your opinions.....

Do you think that is his way of asking about where babies come from? (he knows they come out of mommy's body, he has seen c-sections on tv shows) he just doesnt know how they get there and has never asked.

Do you think I should have "the talk" with him? If so how?

Ds knows about the difference in genders, and has never asked questions about it because we're not modest in my house, I cant remember the last time i got a shower in peace, or was able to go to the restroom with him barging in to have a talk or tell me "its raining its pouring mommy is peeing" lol....any advice on how to get a shower in peace would be nice too lol. .

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Jinx-Troublex3
by Jinx on Mar. 1, 2012 at 1:33 AM
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I shower and pee in peace by putting on a cartoon or mocie and locking the doors. If they come, let them scream and pound. After a time or two they don't bug me.

That said, no I would not go into detail with Ds at this point. As you said, he's eing 5 and really doesnt care how babies get there. LOL I think it's cute!

I would have my pepsi (and maybe a shot of tequila) then call mom and tell her to MYOB! I'd also find a friend to call - or come post- when Ds says something cute from now on! LOL

LostTheSlipper
by Member on Mar. 1, 2012 at 2:26 AM

I think it's fine. He using his imagination and probably little information he has heard or "figured out" to tell you he needs a sibling. I don't think the talk is necessary just yet unless you want it to be.

HOWEVER, do you trust your mother to not tell him if she's alone with him since she seems pretty adament that he know? If not, you should either tell him before she can inform him in a way differently from what you would like, or be wary of leaving him with grandma for awhile.

hottmommi42
by on Mar. 1, 2012 at 2:59 AM
Didn't you ask about this a while ago? I could have sworn we talked about this...
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Boobah
by Nikki :) on Mar. 1, 2012 at 8:48 AM
I don't think that was him asking. I have been struggling with this myself because my dd is 6.5 and keeps asking "well, how do babies get OUT of your belly?". I'm currently 26 weeks pregnant, and having a home birth that she may or may not be there for, so I feel like I need to explain a bit. Howeverm I'm struggling with what to say. You know once she knows how they get outs she is going to wonder how they get IN. ;)
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Jinx-Troublex3
by Jinx on Mar. 1, 2012 at 9:22 AM
Id say you need to talk to DD if there is a possibility she will be there. You don't want her to get scared when things are happening. Your DS is also asking more direct questions that Pepsi's DS


Quoting Boobah:

I don't think that was him asking. I have been struggling with this myself because my dd is 6.5 and keeps asking "well, how do babies get OUT of your belly?". I'm currently 26 weeks pregnant, and having a home birth that she may or may not be there for, so I feel like I need to explain a bit. Howeverm I'm struggling with what to say. You know once she knows how they get outs she is going to wonder how they get IN. ;)

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Boobah
by Nikki :) on Mar. 1, 2012 at 9:38 AM
I'm definitely planning on it, I just don't know what to say yet! Do I get a chart out and show her, do I have her watch a birth story with me, do I just explain it to her? I know no one can answer these questions for me, I'm just stating what is running through my mind. :)

Quoting Jinx-Troublex3:

Id say you need to talk to DD if there is a possibility she will be there. You don't want her to get scared when things are happening. Your DS is also asking more direct questions that Pepsi's DS




Quoting Boobah:

I don't think that was him asking. I have been struggling with this myself because my dd is 6.5 and keeps asking "well, how do babies get OUT of your belly?". I'm currently 26 weeks pregnant, and having a home birth that she may or may not be there for, so I feel like I need to explain a bit. Howeverm I'm struggling with what to say. You know once she knows how they get outs she is going to wonder how they get IN. ;)

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romacox
by Silver Member on Mar. 1, 2012 at 9:46 AM
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Mothers have a natural instinct when it comes to their own children...trust it.  You are this childs mom, and with all due respect, his grandmother is not his mom.

bren_darlene
by Bronze Member on Mar. 1, 2012 at 9:56 AM
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 Our children were raised on a farm so they always understood how babies were made.  No matter what it is your decision and not your mothers.  Grandmothers are great (I know as I am one lol) and we should listen to them BUT the final decision is up to the parents.

melissaDH
by on Mar. 1, 2012 at 11:13 AM

Totally agree with romacox.

As moms, we all know the maturity level of our kids. A 5 year old is too young to have "the talk".  There are ways you can talk to him about babies, without going into all the details. Be honest with him, always, but leave your son's innocence in tact a little while longer. 

www.babycenter.com/0_how-to-talk-to-your-child-about-sex_67112.bc

This website has some great info on how to keep it simple.  

There are also books that you can purchase that are age appropriate.

My son just turned 11, we have talked about eveything from his body changes to what sex is, but he is still oblivious to girls and the flirtatious behaviors (and I secretly pray it stays that way for a while). My daughter is 9 and she knows what body changes are coming, but we haven't discussed how conception occurs, because quite honestly, she is not ready.

Sorry so long...Just trying to say YOU know your child. Go with your instincts as his momma.  =)

Quoting romacox:

Mothers have a natural instinct when it comes to their own children...trust it.  You are this childs mom, and with all due respect, his grandmother is not his mom.


melissaDH
by on Mar. 1, 2012 at 11:15 AM

This sure would have made talking easier for me! 

Quoting bren_darlene:

 Our children were raised on a farm so they always understood how babies were made.  No matter what it is your decision and not your mothers.  Grandmothers are great (I know as I am one lol) and we should listen to them BUT the final decision is up to the parents.


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