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I thought SO was coming towards letting me homeschool but tonight he just said that they HAVE to go to school. No real reason. I have given logical arguments, I've told him how much it means to me, I've told hom the things we'll have to deal with by putting them in school but he's being an idiot. My last resort is making him totally responsible for all of it from registering to paperwork to the first day. That will most likely force his hand but it almost seems underhanded. Biggest issue is that they're sponges and way ahead in a lot of things but behind in some of the schools "musts" so they're going to suffer because of me. And I have a choice between a good but way overcrowded school and a bad one (bif school, colored drugs tied to the inside of the playground fence bad) but its barely even a choice because of the structuring. We basically get the bad school. End of story. I could seriously cry right now
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by on Mar. 26, 2012 at 6:59 PM
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rowansmum
by on Mar. 27, 2012 at 10:18 AM
I sent him an email (so I got everything in and didn't sound like an idiot). I basically laid out that if he stillkept to this decision I will accept it but in no way support it. The responsibility will be 100% his. I will stop trying to educate them at home now because it'll cause problems going into kinder. (he's doing up to grade 2 work in certain areas) More tho I will be going back to work and taking an afternoon shift to cut daycare costs.

I also said I'd be happy to homeschool him for kinder to prove that I can do it.

The ball is in.his court now :(
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oredeb
by on Mar. 27, 2012 at 10:22 AM
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 hoping he reconsiders rowansmum

colman4
by on Mar. 27, 2012 at 11:14 AM

Okay, we have HS for 3 years now. The 2nd half of this year, I have had issue with my pregnancy and we decided to put our kids in PS for the remainder of the year. In the couple months our kids have been in PS, my 3rd grade son has learned EVERY horrible word or phrase possible, he has learned everything about sex and even became interested in porn. Both my kids attitudes have been horrible! My son has been bullied repeatedly...crying about not going back to school some days. I have been to the school to talk to his teacher over a dozen times and she doesn't believe him. She told me she hasn't seen anything happen to him. Oh, because she can see EVERYTHING throughout the day with 33 kids in her class..which is utter chaos every time I go in there. My daughter in kinder. has been told by a boy that she is sexy..I drive them to school and pick them up..so, they are not on the bus. This is during school hours!

We are going back to HSing this next year. both my kids are on board. So, you can let your hubby to read my post. This has been 2 months in PS. IF he wants to have the sex talk with your kids now and worry about every bad word possible, your child being called sexy in kindergarden..fine send them. Don't get me started with the drugs and 58% of middle school age kids are not virgins in our area..fine go with the norm.  When I was thinking about HS our kids, NOONE believed I could do it. My hubbys family are ALL teachers. I proved them wrong and this year my mil pulled me aside and told me my kids were the smartest HSed kids she has met...3 years after we started (there are alot of families that HS in their area and Church) I knew my hubbys family tested my kids when I wasn't around..they wanted to see how I was doing. I was frustrated at first that they would do that, but, I wanted to prove them wrong.

Sorry, I will get off my soapbox. You have your kids for only a short time and I always say, I want my kids for the better part of their day. I don't want someone else to take that away from me! I see them a little in the morning, after school they do HW adn go out to play, we sit at the table for dinner, then it is getting ready for bed. We all have learned and become stronger from the PS experience.But, I want my 2 sweet kiddos back. :) I hope this helped. Let me know if you have any ?'s

Anne

Jeremmy
by on Mar. 27, 2012 at 12:55 PM

 I told dh it was my decision because I would be the one home schooling. That I would not sacrifice my childs well being and education just because he 'wanted them in public school' for no good reason. Dh wanted it because our son could participate in football if he went to school. I said him it was shameful that he valued sports more than academics. I did let him know it was discouraging that he didnt support it, but that the pros outweight the cons. After a half year of home schooling he was convinced by how well our son did and by different things he observed other kids coming home from their school with.

Im a fan of being a team in our relationship...however, I refuse to sacrifice my childs safety and academic development for absolutely no reason. What would he do if you ordered curriculum, didnt sign him up for public, and just home schooled regardless?

kirbymom
by Sonja on Mar. 27, 2012 at 8:14 PM

 I know how you feel. I have 7 kids and have homeschooled all of them from the beginning. It has been extremely difficult but I want my kids to have better than what I had in public school and what public school is like today. 

Quoting colman4:

Okay, we have HS for 3 years now. The 2nd half of this year, I have had issue with my pregnancy and we decided to put our kids in PS for the remainder of the year. In the couple months our kids have been in PS, my 3rd grade son has learned EVERY horrible word or phrase possible, he has learned everything about sex and even became interested in porn. Both my kids attitudes have been horrible! My son has been bullied repeatedly...crying about not going back to school some days. I have been to the school to talk to his teacher over a dozen times and she doesn't believe him. She told me she hasn't seen anything happen to him. Oh, because she can see EVERYTHING throughout the day with 33 kids in her class..which is utter chaos every time I go in there. My daughter in kinder. has been told by a boy that she is sexy..I drive them to school and pick them up..so, they are not on the bus. This is during school hours!

We are going back to HSing this next year. both my kids are on board. So, you can let your hubby to read my post. This has been 2 months in PS. IF he wants to have the sex talk with your kids now and worry about every bad word possible, your child being called sexy in kindergarden..fine send them. Don't get me started with the drugs and 58% of middle school age kids are not virgins in our area..fine go with the norm.  When I was thinking about HS our kids, NOONE believed I could do it. My hubbys family are ALL teachers. I proved them wrong and this year my mil pulled me aside and told me my kids were the smartest HSed kids she has met...3 years after we started (there are alot of families that HS in their area and Church) I knew my hubbys family tested my kids when I wasn't around..they wanted to see how I was doing. I was frustrated at first that they would do that, but, I wanted to prove them wrong.

Sorry, I will get off my soapbox. You have your kids for only a short time and I always say, I want my kids for the better part of their day. I don't want someone else to take that away from me! I see them a little in the morning, after school they do HW adn go out to play, we sit at the table for dinner, then it is getting ready for bed. We all have learned and become stronger from the PS experience.But, I want my 2 sweet kiddos back. :) I hope this helped. Let me know if you have any ?'s

Anne

 

kirbymom
by Sonja on Mar. 27, 2012 at 8:33 PM

 You have a very awesome attitude about this whole thing.  I would continue to do as you are already doing. :) 

Quoting rowansmum:

I sent him an email (so I got everything in and didn't sound like an idiot). I basically laid out that if he stillkept to this decision I will accept it but in no way support it. The responsibility will be 100% his. I will stop trying to educate them at home now because it'll cause problems going into kinder. (he's doing up to grade 2 work in certain areas) More tho I will be going back to work and taking an afternoon shift to cut daycare costs.

I also said I'd be happy to homeschool him for kinder to prove that I can do it.

The ball is in.his court now :(

 

doriselm
by on Mar. 28, 2012 at 10:59 AM

Most children who win the national spelling bee are being homeschooled. Most kids going to college while still going to high school are being homeschooled. Homeschooled kids have more time to do sports, learn how to cook, and all sorts of things. They still get to be in groups with other kids, they can still go to public school for certain classes if needed or preferred, like playing instruments. So many pluses in homeschooling!

Tough decision you have to make, but maybe you could give him the responsibility of looking online and checking out reviews or anything that could make him see what it really is. Good Luck.

awilliams77
by on Mar. 28, 2012 at 11:04 AM
Oh wow- educating them after school and on weekends? Why are you sending them to school, then? Just my perspective... hope you get this worked out.
rowansmum
by on Mar. 28, 2012 at 12:21 PM
That's what I said. I believe my reply was "f that, you do it."

Quoting awilliams77:

Oh wow- educating them after school and on weekends? Why are you sending them to school, then? Just my perspective... hope you get this worked out.
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