Mom friends are rad. Who else is in the same place, at the same time, as you? Who else can you bond with over the lice epidemic and the oddly intense parent/teacher conferences you just went through? So when your kiddo befriends another who just happens to have a super cool mom, you have hit the jackpot.
Dinners at each other's houses, playdates that you don't actually mind, all of these things make being a mom easier. Until, of course, those kids decide they don't want to be friends anymore. Like the reverse of RHONJ's Kim G. and Caroline, sometimes your kids break up, but you really want to keep the mom-friend.
What to do?
First of all, what's up with your kid that she thinks she can dump another kid? Alternately, what's up with that other kid that she thinks she can dump your kid? Get to the bottom of that. Because if this is just a temporary situation, there's no need to stress. However, what happens if the other kid turns into a total a-hole? Or yours does?
The reason I'm friends with other parents is that they are unlikely to be the types who would be upset if I said to the kid, "Hey, that's not nice." And of course, I wouldn't blink if she did the same to mine. No, I'm not recommending meddling in your child's relationship, but if it is a simple matter, do what you can. After all, good mom friends are hard to find!
If it does happen that all is lost in the kid friendship, however, let's get some perspective. Since when does your child get to pick your friends? Yes, the whole parenting thing makes it harder to make friends outside of the circle, but once you claim a friend, she's yours. No one, not even your precious offspring, can take that away. So what if it's awkward when you're getting dinner invites from the mom, while your child is being ignored by the daughter? It happens. I have plenty of friends who have older children, or significantly younger, and we're still friends even though our kids don't connect. It's okay. Your entire social life does not have to center around your children, even though it might.
Unless one child did something so horrible and the parent is completely lacking in remorse, you can make this parent friendship work. After all, the kids will graduate and move out of the house at some point, and you'll still be there needing a book club buddy. Don't let a fickle kid friendship ruin yours.
Have you broken up with parent friends?