When do you decide it is time to call in outside help for a delay or disability?
ask this because I am becoming increasingly concerned about my 15 month
old son. I will give some background information so everyone is on the
At his 9 month well baby visit, the doctor was concerned about his head circumfrence and said that it was growing too fast and sent us to a neurologist to have it assessed. The neurologist said that since Daddy and I have big noggins, its normal for the child to have a big noggin. Well that didn't stop me from worrying like any typical mother would. And I started watching every move he made. At this point at 9 months old, he wasn't crawling on all fours, he wasn't babbling at all, he really only cried if he had pooped, was hungry, or just wanted to be held by me. Eventually he moved to crawling on all fours by 11 months old. But there were and still are other things that seem like quirks to me. He has a bad habit I guess you would call it, where he flaps his ears with his hands, or he smacks himself in the head. He loves putting things in a bucket and taking them out. And he can play for hours in his playpen with just a boppy pillow, turning it over and over again. He will pull himself up and stand up by himself in the playpen, but refuses to walk. He can walk, and does so if we make him. But otherwise, he would rather crawl everywhere. That doesn't bother me as much as it concerns me. I can't help but wonder if his head size is throwing him off balance, or if he has fluid build up in his ears causing him to be off balance.
What bugs me the most if that he doesn't talk at all. He doesn't say mama, daddy, dog, cat, etc. He screams, he squeals and he grunts. You sit down with him and try to get him to mimic you (blowing raspberries, sticking out his tounge, repeating words) and all he does is either point and smile, or he grunts. I am worried that there is something wrong with him. (Not that I really care, I just want to know early enough to get him the interventions he needs to overcome everything, ya know). He has his 15 month well baby visit on the 30th and as the days get closer, I become more and more paranoid. At his 12 month visit, I mentioned that he wasn't walking and not talking and they said they weren't worried with it until 15 months. Well here it is 15 months, and he still isn't doing either.
Do I request an evaluation and therapy services or do I let them decide if its needed? I honestly don't know how to go about bringing all of this up to the pediatrician. This is completely new grounds for me. Oh before I forget, I should mention that when he was born, they did his hearing test before he was 24 hours old and he failed it. But he passed the second one they did 12 or so hours later. Would this play into part of his speech problems, or would it just be a fluke like the nurse said because of amniotic fluid still in his ears. And would it be important to mention that I think he may be tounge tied and possibly lip tied?
I know this is kind of scattered and long and I do apologize, but I really don't know where else to go for advice and I know that you ladies are wealths of knowledge!
Thanks so much
And just so to show him off here is a picture of my little dude