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Reasons Why parents Homeschool Their Kids...4 yr old's Hairstyle Banned by School Officials.

Posted by on May. 27, 2012 at 2:14 PM
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Should This Little Girl's Big Bow Be Banned? 4-year-old's Hairstyle Sparks School Drama

By Piper Weiss, Shine Staff | Parenting - Wed, May 23, 2012 6:00 PM EDT
Marcella's hairstyle, proudly posted by dad to Twitter. (Courtesy of Marcello Marino/Twitter)Marcella's hairstyle, proudly posted by dad to Twitter. (Courtesy of Marcello Marino/Twitter)There are bows and then there are Lady Gaga bows. Four-year-old Marcella Marino chose the latter for a school photo, only to end up in tears, according to her dad.

Photos: Lady Gaga's most outrageous hairstyles

The British primary school student asked her father, professional hairstylist Marcello Marino, to make her look like a princess for her upcoming class photo. The  salon owner went more rock princess than Cinderella, and tied his little girl's long blond hair into a tilted bow, a look popularized by Gaga back in 2009.
Marcella loved the look but her school didn't,
according to the Daily Mail.

"When she went for the school photo on Monday she was told she wasn't allowed to wear her hair in that style because of the dress code," Marcello told the British paper.

In fact, the primary school his daughter attends has a very
strict dress code, which is detailed on its website. With regards to hair, the school requests ribbons or bows are "made of dark colors, maroon/navy blue/black" and states strictly that "Hair braids/beads may not be worn."

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Marcella's hairstyle broke all the rules and none of them. It's not really a braid and kind of a ribbon, but   according to her dad, the look was banned by school officials. (The school didn't return Shine's request for a comment by press time.)

"I am so disappointed,"  Marcello told the Mail. "I could understand if Marcella arrived with her hair dyed or something, but this is an elegant look which I think the school should be proud of."

Lady Gaga redefines the bow in 2009. (Getty Images) Incidentally the school photo was rescheduled for another day for an unrelated reason so the bow look wouldn't have made it in the school's photo archives anyway.  Marcello, who made headlines last year as an outspoken
British reality show contestant, posted his own photo of his daughter's bow-style on Twitter.

Video: School dress code sparks controversy

Clearly, Marcella likes it and so does her dad. So how could a little bow, even a Gaga inspired-one, make people uneasy? Somehow, the archaic symbol of a good little girl (and Ms. Pac-Man) has become a rejection of just that. The Minnie Mouse hair-bow has been co-opted by a new generation of girls who are more media savvy and fearless when it comes to bold accessories.

Tavi Gevinson, teenage Rookie Magazine founder and feminist icon, wore the ultimate not-your-mom's bow when she made her debut at fashion week. Then a 13-year-old blogger surrounded by immaculately dressed editrixes, Tavi owned her outsider status with an oversize accessory. It's something she had been doing long she hit the fashion scene.

Like Marcella,
Tavi's parents encouraged her own individual sense of style, even when those around her didn't. "I got very used to hearing people say, 'how could her parents let her go to school and get bullied for dressing like that!' but my parents weren't about to keep me from having harmless creative fun," Gevinson told Shine in an email. "Instead they taught me not to take what other people like that say to heart and I think it really helped me be more comfortable with myself and more able to give myself permission to express myself."
The amazing Tavi with John Galliano and bow.(Getty Images)The amazing Tavi with John Galliano and bow. (Getty Images)   If those are the kinds of lessons kids can glean from unconventional style, shouldn't more schools support that? Advocates for strict dress codes, an increasing movement here in the U.S., believe they're
protecting students by  encouraging discipline and eliminating classroom distractions. In some cases, they may be on to something. But what's the harm in a little bow, or better yet, a big one?

 Would YOU ban this young girl's hairstyle?

by on May. 27, 2012 at 2:14 PM
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by on May. 27, 2012 at 3:05 PM
I can see for picture day it being ok, maybe not everyday. If they are sending her to school with a dress code that strict and they agreed to it then they ought to follow it though. Personally though I think she looks cute.
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by Sonja on May. 27, 2012 at 3:22 PM

 I think she looks cute myself.  I read some of their dress codes and she really didn't break one of them.  She isn't even sporting any frills that would make it look racy. 

by on May. 27, 2012 at 3:23 PM

I don't see how this has anything to do with homeschooling, personally.

She attends a very conservative (Catholic I think) school with very strict guidelines about braiding (I would assume most 'natural' hair embellishments are prohibited) and they can only wear three different colors of ribbon in their hair. They also must conform to wearing a school uniform.

This isn't a public school, it's private. They have rules and this family wants an exception.

I don't know where the sunbeams end and the starlights begin; it's all a mystery.

by on May. 27, 2012 at 3:41 PM
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I think if she wore that outfit, the school should be more concerned with that than her hair. I love the hair! I'm not saying the outfit is bad, or not modest, but I just think the shorts are a. It short for the school to up in arms over the hair. Jmo
by Sonja on May. 27, 2012 at 4:34 PM

 The reason I brought this up is because of the dress codes. More and more ps are turning to this and I didn't find anything wrong with the way her hair was styled. even for being conservative.  I did find that the school was more worried about her hair than her outfit.  This article, imo, shows one of the many reasons why we homeschool our kids.  So that we may make these types of decisions. 

by on May. 27, 2012 at 4:40 PM
The hair is adorable! Why would that be controversial?? The outfit, I could see the school having an issue with though.
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by on May. 28, 2012 at 11:57 AM

 I think the schools priorities are messed up if it is a hair style that gets them bothered!

by Platinum Member on May. 28, 2012 at 12:22 PM
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The hair is cute, the outfit, not so much. That being said, if they want a photo of 20 little girls that match, and it's their policy, I guess I can see why they would say no. I think it's a bit silly to worry about, but rules are rules. I'm glad I don't have to worryu about them.

by on May. 29, 2012 at 7:54 AM
I think she is adorable and wouldn't have thought it inappropriate. I can also see the other side where kids start shaping their hair into other things and it getting out of hand. I guess there is just always two sides to every argument, kwim?
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