I have very little free time or "me" time. My time for "me" is the hour I spend at church board once a month, our Bible study at the church twice a month, and I take a half hour each day reading (when I sit in "my spot" the kids know not to come to me unless there is blood or flames). So I really don't understand my old friends any more. So many of them want "me" time each week in the form of a girls' night out. I left my drinking days in college. I have a husband and kids. So do they! Lately my friends and I have been drifting apart because I don't go out with them, but now that I'm homeschooling we are having big arguments. When I post things on fb about what we are learning or what we've been doing, I often get some feedback that I don't even understand. How they can't wait for summer to be over so the kids go back to school (for goodness sake, it's still June!). About how they couldn't have Mom be their "only" identity. About how crazy I am to give up "my life" for my kids.
Can anyone tell me why these people had kids to begin with? Being Mom is a great accomplishment! We have them for such a short time, why don't they want to make the most of it? Will these girls also be the ones I hear with Grandchildren lamenting not having spent enough time with their kids when they had the chance? I've been thinking of unfriending them at this point, but some are girls I graduated high school with! We've been friends for 20+ years! I'd really like to understand them. I know I'll never agree with them (not even on the darkest and worst days do I get the idea of "only" being a Mom.)
EDIT ***** 7/9/2012
Holy Hannah!! I'm so not reading all of these posts!
Had myself a wonderful vacation, unfriended them when I got back from Family Camp, and feel SOOOO much better now!
Yeah, they may realize they are wishing their children away one day, but they aren't going to have me to complain to until they do!
They do go out drinking every Friday, they are complaining that they wish their kids could go back to school already, they turn every post geared toward my children or their own into a negative b**** session. I don't need that, I like to think about my life as a positive, if they don't, who needs them?