If we can't manage balance in our lives then how can we expect to model it for our children?
I see a lot of posts on cafemom about how you give up everything for your children. You don't go out anymore, your sex life suffers, your hobbies fall by the wayside.
I don't understand that frame of mind at all. It is great for your children to see you have a life outside of them. It teaches them balance and yes, that it is okay to put yourself first on that list of priorities.
I feel that this is especially important being a homeschooling parent when time to ourselves is even more limited and restricted.
I so agree with you, I use to be the type of mom that gave up my life for my children till one day at the age of 48, I anounced to my family that I was going to do for me...you know what they were and still are so supportive because I am less stressed and happier.
Don't get me wrong, my husband always kept the girls on Saturday mornings so I could do things like errands etc, and I would sneak in trips to have coffee just to extend the time. But when I decided that it was time to put me first everyday it has made a major difference to the calmness of the home because I am a better mom.
Shari, Preschool Teacher and High School Homeschool Facilitator
Quoting Shari55:I so agree with you, I use to be the type of mom that gave up my life for my children till one day at the age of 48, I anounced to my family that I was going to do for me...you know what they were and still are so supportive because I am less stressed and happier.
Don't get me wrong, my husband always kept the girls on Saturday mornings so I could do things like errands etc, and I would sneak in trips to have coffee just to extend the time. But when I decided that it was time to put me first everyday it has made a major difference to the calmness of the home because I am a better mom.
Exactly! =D
Do I think moms who get to have girls night, or other outside endeavors, as less? Nope, we all have those things that make us happy. I'm just one of those weird ones who is uncomfortable with girls nights or being away from home. Lol...
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Albert Einstein --
"Everybody is a Genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will spend its whole life believing it is stupid."
I actually can not understand why a hobby must suffer at all. I spin yarn on a drop spindle or spinning wheel. So do my children. I taught them. It was just natural. My son didn't like it so he learned weaving from his father. We are very yarn oriented. Our hobbies are things we can use to teach our children.
Plus I want to teach my children what a healthy relationship is which means I must have one to show them this. It is shown by example. They see us curl up together and kiss. They see their father hug me when he gets home, lifting me off my feet, and squeezing me tight. That intimacy can not be faked.
But I also teach my children a Buddhist education which includes lessons in balance. So many people miss this lesson it seems. That saddens me.
Quoting black.eyeliner:I actually can not understand why a hobby must suffer at all. I spin yarn on a drop spindle or spinning wheel. So do my children. I taught them. It was just natural. My son didn't like it so he learned weaving from his father. We are very yarn oriented. Our hobbies are things we can use to teach our children.
Plus I want to teach my children what a healthy relationship is which means I must have one to show them this. It is shown by example. They see us curl up together and kiss. They see their father hug me when he gets home, lifting me off my feet, and squeezing me tight. That intimacy can not be faked.
But I also teach my children a Buddhist education which includes lessons in balance. So many people miss this lesson it seems. That saddens me.
Where did you find a Buddhist based curricula? I'm Pagan, but I'm teaching my kids about all the worlds religions. I studied Buddhism for several years, and still implement a lot of the 8 Fold Path into my daily life. But I'm often asked for recommendations for alternative curricula, and I've seen you mention that you use a Buddhist based one before.
Quoting KickButtMama:Quoting black.eyeliner:I actually can not understand why a hobby must suffer at all. I spin yarn on a drop spindle or spinning wheel. So do my children. I taught them. It was just natural. My son didn't like it so he learned weaving from his father. We are very yarn oriented. Our hobbies are things we can use to teach our children.
Plus I want to teach my children what a healthy relationship is which means I must have one to show them this. It is shown by example. They see us curl up together and kiss. They see their father hug me when he gets home, lifting me off my feet, and squeezing me tight. That intimacy can not be faked.
But I also teach my children a Buddhist education which includes lessons in balance. So many people miss this lesson it seems. That saddens me.
Where did you find a Buddhist based curricula? I'm Pagan, but I'm teaching my kids about all the worlds religions. I studied Buddhism for several years, and still implement a lot of the 8 Fold Path into my daily life. But I'm often asked for recommendations for alternative curricula, and I've seen you mention that you use a Buddhist based one before.
Quoting black.eyeliner:
LMBO, I hear ya! There are not a lot of alternative religion/philosophical curricula out there. I design my own as well. I was just hoping you might have some pre-packaged/philosophical/non-xtian curricula, but I do not think many exist.
I LOVED Dahrma and Greg. How fun!
Quoting black.eyeliner:I actually can not understand why a hobby must suffer at all. I spin yarn on a drop spindle or spinning wheel. So do my children. I taught them. It was just natural. My son didn't like it so he learned weaving from his father. We are very yarn oriented. Our hobbies are things we can use to teach our children.
Plus I want to teach my children what a healthy relationship is which means I must have one to show them this. It is shown by example. They see us curl up together and kiss. They see their father hug me when he gets home, lifting me off my feet, and squeezing me tight. That intimacy can not be faked.
But I also teach my children a Buddhist education which includes lessons in balance. So many people miss this lesson it seems. That saddens me.
Exactly.
Leaving public school...
- alexsmomaubrys2
on Jun. 30, 2012 at 3:38 PM