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How has the Internet changed your parenting? Has it made you a better mom?

Posted by on Jul. 3, 2012 at 5:05 AM
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The Happy New Mom's Dirty Little Secret

Posted by Jeanne Sager on July 2, 2012

mother onlineIt's hard out there for a new mom. You're bored. You're overwhelmed. You're exhausted. And now for the good news. The research gods have given us a safe and easy fix for the new mom blues!

The thing you're doing right now, sitting in front of a computer screen, reading something on the Internet? Pat yourself on the back, Mom, this is exactly what you should be doing now. Then schedule yourself some Facebook time. You deserve it. And don't let anyone tell you different m'kay?!

The over-sharing loons you read about over at STFU Parents and mean mommies online give "mom on the Internet" a bad name. And the horror stories of parents who were too busy playing a game or gambling online to take care of their own kids don't help.

But for all of those jerks, there are hundreds, no, thousands more normal folks willing to throw you a lifeline.

The new research out of Penn State and Brigham Young universities points to a feeling of being "less alone" among moms who are part of online communities (like CafeMom!). At least 76 percent of the moms said they read blogs, and more than half maintain one of their own. About 44 percent of them reported a spike in their use of Facebook since they gave birth too, as they posted photos of their new babies and reached out to other moms for support.

Now this was a teeny tiny study -- just 157 participants -- and it doesn't account for the darker sides of the Internet (you know, like fretting over all the embarrassing things your kids will one day do online!). I'm sure people are going to run all over it with their reasons why this doesn't work.

Allow me to tell them where to stuff it. In the past week alone, I've seen two moms I know write desperate "HELP ME" statuses on Facebook asking for help with their new babies' problems. One breastfeeding mom couldn't seem to get her son to accept breast milk in a bottle from her husband so she could take a few minutes to shower or make dinner. Another breastfeeding mom was struggling with her son's reflux.

And little by little, the responses came in. There were ideas to try. There were remembrances of personal struggles to let these moms know they weren't alone. There was a stream of support for women who didn't have to leave their houses to get it. Heck, they didn't even have to change out of their PJs, and they were given a leg up.

How has the Internet changed your parenting? Has it made you a better mom?

by on Jul. 3, 2012 at 5:05 AM
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Shari55
by on Jul. 3, 2012 at 6:01 AM

    No I haven't really changed my parenting style, but when I had my children(In 1977, there wasn't home computers, in 1988 home computers were just coming out, we got our first IBM home computer in 1992..after returning to the states,my parents bought it for us) the internet wasn't as big as it is now, infact there wasn't Facebook or Cafemom...there really weren't groups. There wasn't instant messages, email was just beginning. 

As I sit here in my PJs at 5a.m. thinking I really need my coffee and should be preparing for a phone interview while it is quiet. I am enjoying reflecting on how wonderful the internet is and groups like this to help us to grow as moms and develop friendships far and wide.

 


  Shari,  not just a wife, mom, grandma, I am also a daycare provider and a Kindergarten teacher


usmom3
by BJ on Jul. 3, 2012 at 8:17 AM

 I think it has helped me learn about different ways to deal with parenting issues.

KickButtMama
by Shannon on Jul. 3, 2012 at 10:31 AM
I think the Internet has made me a vastly different parent than I would have been otherwise. From being free to explore m faith, to doing innumerable house of HS research, I am able to expand my horizons without taking time away from my family. Plus connecting with other moms, both of special needs kids and hs'ers, has helped keep me sane. I am not one who has a lot of friends in RL, I lie a fairly quiet life. I don't feel the need to escape being a mom, because I have an outlet in the Internet. We lost power for over a week last October when we had a freak blizzard. I thought I'd go insane without the Internet! Lol...it's like an addiction.
Boobah
by Nikki :) on Jul. 4, 2012 at 6:56 PM
Yes and no. It's given me resources, and taught me things that have changed how I parent (homebirth, vaccinations, rear facing, etc)
But, it has also taken me FROM my kids more than I care to admit.
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