Please someone I need help..........................

[sheila5745]

Hello, I have been posting for a few days, I feel so left out. I want to homeschool a child with autism and dd, but where do I start. As I write this I sit here in tears reading all the post, I am alone and noone seems to understand how hard it is to see her being abused with the name calling at public school and an impatient teacher at a special school. She is 13 and doing k to 2 grade work and they are going to push her to the 8th grade. Can anyone help me. Can I do this without having to get a secondary school involved? Please I need help.   Sheila

I live in Ohio, in amish country.......please any help for me? I hope someone understand the issues i am going through and will offer a hand to me.

[Danielle163]

 Hey Sheila, welcome to the group! I totally relate to how your DD was treated in ps because I removed my DD for the very same reason. The hs moms have given you wonderful advice. When you first start homeschooling, it seems so daunting and scary. But just relax, and enjoy knowing your DD is home with you and learning in a comfortable, safe environment. You will do GREAT! Everyone here will be more than happy to answer any questions you have.

[wright1212]

 WELCOME,

I homeschool my son with severe autism, he is at 2yo level. Also my 7yo DD and my 2.5yo. Like others check your laws. But if that is too much, like if they require reporting curriculum and such which is hard for special needs you can just register through an umbrella school that is more easy going.

Also decide what services you think are best for your child and how you can get them. So for example my insurance does not cover therapy at all. So we choose to do speech and ot at school, we have the school send an ABA therapist to our home 1hr a week to help train me on helping him. Then we have a loaner IPAD (I can help you figure out how to get all of that if you are interested).

NEXT forget about anything they have told you your child cant do. Take some time off and just read, play educational games and puzzles, rent movies from the library (we just did a tour of australia!). Then start assessing what is really there and start where she is. Just go at her pace and use her interest as much as you can. My son loves his Ipad so we use it alot and use it to tell him work first then ipad. We also set up a good routine, mini breaks with lots of sensory.

Learn how she learns and works best (read on Gardners Multiple Intelligence Theory). Some do great unschooling, some like very hands on. We do well in a very familiar routine no strict times but always same order.

[sheila5745]

Good Morning,

I really appreciate you getting back with me. I have been feeling so left out with everything and so unsure as to what I should be doing for her. By the way, that is her.!! What do you mean by unschooling? I do not want to send her back to that special needs school and public school says they can not off her life skills which is what she will need the most to survive.

Just being home over the summer, her anxiouty level has dropped, when she is in school, you can not touch her without her jumping. We get her calmed down over the summer, then we have to send her back. So it is nice to see her relax for a while. On to say, I have her getting her own pancacks from the freezer and putting them in the microwave and now she can use that,  she has learned how to help with laundry and the difference in washer and dryer, she painted wooden signs to tell the difference. She is doing well with using the restroom, not totally by herself but getting there.

Now to get her education. I read some of the home school rules and it says not to tell the school any more than has to be told. Next year, I will have a full fledge teacher, young, she is an aid for Tailer right now. I have 3 other kids right now and Tailer does well most of the time when the other kids are learning, we do have those days, where she doesn't want to do much work. How hard or how far do I push for her to get work done?  I do not want to sound like the teacher we just left.

Thank You so much for all the help and the chat, I really appreciate everything. Sheila

[KickButtMama]

Quoting sheila5745:

Good Morning,

I really appreciate you getting back with me. I have been feeling so left out with everything and so unsure as to what I should be doing for her. By the way, that is her.!! What do you mean by unschooling? I do not want to send her back to that special needs school and public school says they can not off her life skills which is what she will need the most to survive.

Just being home over the summer, her anxiouty level has dropped, when she is in school, you can not touch her without her jumping. We get her calmed down over the summer, then we have to send her back. So it is nice to see her relax for a while. On to say, I have her getting her own pancacks from the freezer and putting them in the microwave and now she can use that,  she has learned how to help with laundry and the difference in washer and dryer, she painted wooden signs to tell the difference. She is doing well with using the restroom, not totally by herself but getting there.

Now to get her education. I read some of the home school rules and it says not to tell the school any more than has to be told. Next year, I will have a full fledge teacher, young, she is an aid for Tailer right now. I have 3 other kids right now and Tailer does well most of the time when the other kids are learning, we do have those days, where she doesn't want to do much work. How hard or how far do I push for her to get work done?  I do not want to sound like the teacher we just left.

Thank You so much for all the help and the chat, I really appreciate everything. Sheila

We are technically unschoolers, though I prefer the term child led learners. I've learned not to push things. If I give my ASD son the control and let him spread his wings then he doesn't STOP learning. If he's having a hard day, then pushing will just be a trigger event and not help moving things along at all.

You can read exactly what our school is like at my post - http://www.cafemom.com/group/114079/forums/read/16483391/Defining_Our_Homeschool_piog

[bluerooffarm]

 

Quoting sheila5745:

Good Morning,

I really appreciate you getting back with me. I have been feeling so left out with everything and so unsure as to what I should be doing for her. By the way, that is her.!! What do you mean by unschooling? I do not want to send her back to that special needs school and public school says they can not off her life skills which is what she will need the most to survive.

Just being home over the summer, her anxiouty level has dropped, when she is in school, you can not touch her without her jumping. We get her calmed down over the summer, then we have to send her back. So it is nice to see her relax for a while. On to say, I have her getting her own pancacks from the freezer and putting them in the microwave and now she can use that,  she has learned how to help with laundry and the difference in washer and dryer, she painted wooden signs to tell the difference. She is doing well with using the restroom, not totally by herself but getting there.

Now to get her education. I read some of the home school rules and it says not to tell the school any more than has to be told. Next year, I will have a full fledge teacher, young, she is an aid for Tailer right now. I have 3 other kids right now and Tailer does well most of the time when the other kids are learning, we do have those days, where she doesn't want to do much work. How hard or how far do I push for her to get work done?  I do not want to sound like the teacher we just left.

Thank You so much for all the help and the chat, I really appreciate everything. Sheila

 We unschool every summer.  Today when they woke up Zave asked to listen to a book on cd.  I had Levi pick out the book.  When it was done, Quentin said he was a shark and he would EAT the frog!  So Zave grabbed a book about sharks and read it to the other 2.  Then they drew sharks.  Who knows what they'll pick to do next.  But everything comes from them...all summer long!

[sheila5745]

Thats cute, See the kids do learn, even when we wonder if we are getting through to them. They teach us something every day, don't they. I know Tailer has shown how smart she is with directions and story reading.

We just get started in the summer, I have 4 kids in the summer and we call the school "grandma's School" I have raised 2 other kids, before Tailer, so we do have grandkids also. We have had a hard time this year, my mom was sick and in the hospital for several days, so I was down there with her, then I brought her home for a 1 1/2 weeks and then my 12 yr.old grandson surprised me with a visit from Texas. So after Saturday the house will be all ours again.. I will miss them, but Tailer needs some "Tailer time"

Well I have kept you long enough and it is time to get ready for baseball, Tailer has played with the Mircle League now for 5 years. Check it out awsome, kids, field, parents and the buddies that run and give us parents a break!!

Talk soon, I hope, have a great day.