Give up on Homeschooling? Has this affected you in anyway? How has it affected you?
What did you do to stop this pressure?
Ha! Oh yeah! I despise my MIL just a little bit more! Um, actually Zave stopped the pressure. He withstood drilling for HOURS on Easter morning. Then a week or so later, they came to visit and again began asking amillion questions. A few weeks later they came to visit and she began drilling Levi. Zave came up behind him and said (in his BEST penguin of Madagascar impersonation) "Smile and wave boys." Levi began to giggle and couldn't answer any questions! A few weeks later, she starts drilling Zave and Levi comes up behind him and says the same thing. It was hysterical. It's become a running joke! She barely bothers anymore, but it still makes my blood boil. It's the same as when she wanted me to go back to work. She used to slip want ads to me at every family function.
Out of the mouths of Babes! Now as they get older, they will know how to effectively "deal" with grandma. You're doing a good job blue. :) You can tell them that I sadid that was pretty smart and quick thinking on their part. They are awesome!
Quoting bluerooffarm:
Ha! Oh yeah! I despise my MIL just a little bit more! Um, actually Zave stopped the pressure. He withstood drilling for HOURS on Easter morning. Then a week or so later, they came to visit and again began asking amillion questions. A few weeks later they came to visit and she began drilling Levi. Zave came up behind him and said (in his BEST penguin of Madagascar impersonation) "Smile and wave boys." Levi began to giggle and couldn't answer any questions! A few weeks later, she starts drilling Zave and Levi comes up behind him and says the same thing. It was hysterical. It's become a running joke! She barely bothers anymore, but it still makes my blood boil. It's the same as when she wanted me to go back to work. She used to slip want ads to me at every family function.
He was just so angry that she was going to do it to his little brother. He had asked me after Easter why she kept him at the table asking him questions. I felt I had to tell him the truth, that she was afraid I wasn't teaching him enough. He was irritated about that because he had missed out on playing with his cousins. And he had heard her pounding the socialization drum during Christmas (when we announced we were keeping him home). I think he thought long and hard that night about how to handle it. I couldn't be prouder of him.
Quoting kirbymom:
Out of the mouths of Babes! Now as they get older, they will know how to effectively "deal" with grandma. You're doing a good job blue. :) You can tell them that I sadid that was pretty smart and quick thinking on their part. They are awesome!
Quoting bluerooffarm:
Ha! Oh yeah! I despise my MIL just a little bit more! Um, actually Zave stopped the pressure. He withstood drilling for HOURS on Easter morning. Then a week or so later, they came to visit and again began asking amillion questions. A few weeks later they came to visit and she began drilling Levi. Zave came up behind him and said (in his BEST penguin of Madagascar impersonation) "Smile and wave boys." Levi began to giggle and couldn't answer any questions! A few weeks later, she starts drilling Zave and Levi comes up behind him and says the same thing. It was hysterical. It's become a running joke! She barely bothers anymore, but it still makes my blood boil. It's the same as when she wanted me to go back to work. She used to slip want ads to me at every family function.
Quoting KickButtMama:
Oooh yes. When my DH was laid off almost everyone in both our families said, "so now you'll have to send them to real schoo." even though I'm not physically capable of working, so I might as well HS! But it was frustrating and irritating. After I reminded them, several times, that I couldn't get a job, they backed off.
That's what bugs me the most! The arrogance of calling it "real school." Like schools didn't exist before institutionalization!
Stand firm. You are in charge of your own children. It takes a while to undo the indoctrination of "real" school meaning public school. Your MIL probably means well and wants the best for the children. She just doesn't "get" homeschool. I am sure it is not personal against you. It would have never occurred to that generation to homeschool. It is a foreign concept.
Yep, I had some of the same, when it started to get a little difficult for us at one time. But we managed to pull through and climb right back up. For us. The only time this type of pressure leaves off, is when someone talks to my kids. Now its a parents job to say how smart an great their kids are, but I am not joking when I say that my kids are extremely smart. Or maybe its the average adults we are around that aren't as smart? We've been hounded by child service's and cops and hospital personnel and you name it. When these people try and take my kids, for false-made up reasons, and get to talking with them, they end up apologising profusely and vow to end the made up claims. We always get a mailed response from the state also, apologsing for causing any undue harm or inconvenience to our family. It never amazes me how quickly these people will stop in their endevors of trying to take our kids away. Oh, I could tell you horror stories from our family's adventures. lol This is just a small portion of this kind of behavior towards me for my values and way of living.
Quoting KickButtMama:
Oooh yes. When my DH was laid off almost everyone in both our families said, "so now you'll have to send them to real schoo." even though I'm not physically capable of working, so I might as well HS! But it was frustrating and irritating. After I reminded them, several times, that I couldn't get a job, they backed off.
It bothers me a lot too. I never open my mouth, other than to my husband about how I feel personally and to have people criticize my choices is just so maddening.
Quoting black.eyeliner:
All the time. It just ticks me. I do not bash people for chosing to public school. I tell them to not bash me. That irritates lots of people. It shouldn't. This just works for us.
Leaving public school...
- kirbymom
on Aug. 1, 2012 at 5:12 PM