Here is my situation:
I have 3 children. My DS is 9 and in 3rd grade in public school. He has been in the same school since pre-k and has always been at the very top of his class. He is my child from a previous marriage. His father and I have joint custody and I have physical custody. Per our divorce agreement, we have to agree on educational decisions.
My 2 DDs are 4 1/2 and 2 1/2. They are from my current marriage. Our 4 1/2 y/o DD was in a small nursery school 2 mornings a week last year and 3 mornings a week until Christmas break. DH and I agreed that she wasn't getting much out of it academically or socially, and it was rather expensive and 40 minutes from our home in good weather (we are very rural) so we decided to pull her out.
Originally we thought we were going to send DD to our local public school with DS for this school year but we rapidly changed our mind after I attended the pre-k orientation with her in August. The pre-k program had been fabulous when DS was in it- and the teacher at that time was wonderful. Unfortunately, they moved that teacher to kindergarten this year (with little notice to the parents) and replaced her with a woman who was absolutely atrocious (for a variety of reasons). In fact, my instincts were proven correct because that woman was removed from the classroom in the beginning of November and replaced by someone who isn't even a certified teacher.
There has been a lot of change at the public school and none of it has been positive. For that reason, DH and I have agreed that we want to homeschool our children. We are totally on the same page.
DS wants to homeschool. He has asked about it repeatedly. He is extremely intelligent and quite articulate. He does not feel challenged at all. He does not feel he is progressing enough. He is tired of having to suffer the consequences of ill-behaved classmates (such as the whole class losing privelages because of certain students' behavior). He is tired of having to repeatedly take practice state tests instead of being taught new things. Since the horrific CT shooting, he is very uncomfortable and upset about the school's multiple new 'safety' procedures (such as getting these 3rd graders involved in devising a 'safety plan' that includes hiding behind their teachers desk should an armed person come into the school and try to shoot them- and yes that is what they were told in his class).
Unfortunately, he is very reluctant to talk to his father about it. He has tried and felt that, due to his father's attitude, he really doesn't want DS to homeschool so DS doesn't want to approach the subject again. He said his father just put his head in his hands, looked down, sighed, and said "Why?". DS is correct. His father does not want him to homeschool.
What is bizarre is that prior to our divorce being finalized years ago, his father had been quite open to the idea of homeschooling. That is why I never insisted on any provisions being written into our agreement. Now he seems to be staunchly anti-homeschooling.
I have a few questions regarding my situation. Is anyone else in my situation? Has anyone else had any luck getting around this problem? I am a certified teacher in our state (and I'm generally considered to be well educated, having a Master's degree). Do you think that might help my case? Does anyone else here homeschool some of their children but not others and how does that affect your family life?
Any advice, information, or insight would truly be appreciated.