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Are you homeschooling in disgust of public schools?

I have not always been homeschooling.  In fact, I only started two years ago.  During the years my daughters had been going to their public school, there were times when certain things really bothered me and sometimes outright RAGED me! 

The last straw was my 9yo old daughter Satine (7 at the time), telling me how she can't go to recess because her teacher was getting mad at her for not finishing her work and she had to do it during recess.  Her damn teacher keeping her in during recess!!!  Kids have a stress level that need to be let out by playing.  After talking with my daughter, I concluded that the reason my daughter didn't finish her work, is because she wanted to take her time to make sure her answered were right.  Satine doesn't like making mistakes, she's my little perfectionist.  You all may think I'm over reacting, but what right does a teacher have in punishing my little girl for taking her time on her school work? 

I got so sick and tired of these political and social agendas in the school.  Every month I had a petition shoved in my face about this or that and how something is going against this amendment, or against morality , etc etc.  Letters about government programs starting and ending, how the district is concerend with "scooores!"

I no longer felt my daughters were safe in school.  My daughters teachers seemed like they hated their job and were taking it out on the children.  These are just a few reason why I am so revolted with the public school system.  I don't have time to go on about everything.  Has anyone else experienced such negativity with public schools that you HAD to pull your kids out?

by on Jan. 28, 2013 at 6:03 PM
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cjsmom1
by on Jan. 28, 2013 at 11:44 PM
I pulled ds out of traditional ps because his needs weren't being met. He's advanced and he spent most of his day sitting in class doing nothing. The principal and counselor actually told me they'd rather hold a kid back then move them forward. Now I'm using k12.
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KickButtMama
by Shannon on Jan. 29, 2013 at 7:49 AM

*SMH* that's just super sad!

Quoting KALmommy:

The final straw for me was when my daughter came home and told me she wasn't allowed to check out the book she wanted at the library because her teacher and and the librarian both told her it was too hard for her to read.  She was in Kindergarten but a very advanced reader (she entered K reading chapter books).  She wanted to get a Junie B. Jones book.  She had already read (and comprehended) several of them.  Besides the fact, even if it was too hard for her to read, who is to say I wasn't going to read it to her??  Then both my older son and my daughter are very advanced and they were not being allowed to work at a higher level.  We were in an extremely small school district where classes were blended anyways so it wouldn't have been hard to move them "up a grade".  It literally would have meant moving them to the other side of the classroom.


MamaDearie
by Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 7:52 AM

Yep I'm disgusted. Frustrated, angry, and disgusted. And that is why everyone will be homeschooled here, starting next year. I wish it was this year but I have an ex-husband who complicates things.

I've watched my bright, happy, curious little man become a sullen, frustrated, angry little man because he is so insanely stifled at school. They don't know what to do with him as he tests out of everything grade level, every year. They force him to sit there and wait for the entire class to 'catch up' all the time. If one kid does't do an assignment, the whole class ends up waiting for him or her before they can move on. If some kids act up, the whole class loses recess. And, this year, they are doing almost nothing but taking practice tests for the big state test. They tell the kids every day how many more days until the state test. He suffers in boredom, very quietly. He is well-behaved at school but then comes home and gets mad at me about it all.

And this year, after the shooting in Newtown, they've instituted 'safety' measures which have served no real purpose but have succeeded in scaring the crap out of the kids. When they returned from holiday recess, they told the kids that they had to come up with a safety plan in case someone with a gun got into the school and tried to shoot them. (They actually said this to the children! My son is in 3rd grade!) He spent a good part of the first week back devising a plan to hide and stay safe- and then practice it- with his class. 

Disgusted doesn't even begin to cover it....

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KickButtMama
by Shannon on Jan. 29, 2013 at 7:52 AM

I completely agree. We refuse to settle as well. And I enjoy the fact that I don't have the same curriculum restrictions a PS teacher has.

Quoting AutymsMommy:

Er, no.

Not entirely.

I don't care for our local public schools, but they do the best they can with the resources they have. I think our local teachers are wonderful - most of them do not care for the standards they are required to keep or the way politics run their schools.

I think some public schools, in other areas are very good.

I personally prefer private schools (we are Catholic and prefer a faith integrated education for our children).

... but no, I'm not disgusted with our schools; I just choose not to settle.

I homeschool for many reasons. Outright disgust isn't among those reasons.

I will say that the education system in the United States, in general, is broken, but I do also believe that this wasn't intentional on any one person's part.

There is a good bit of kick back from many, saying that homeschoolers are selfish for pulling upper class, bright children out of the public school system. THAT is part of my issue with schools. Our bright children are expected to draw the short stick and be kept down, in order to bring others up a bit. Not cool. At all.


AutymsMommy
by Silver Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 8:25 AM


I chuckle a little bit when a person's argument against homeschooling revolves around "resources" and "curriuclum" (that homeschoolers cannot possibly emulate the curriculum in public school). They're right - we can't. I wouldn't want to. I have come across some of the most brilliant curriculum since homeschooling... and very rarely are they public school materials (although I am fond of Holt Science and Technology and Jacob's Algebra, lol).

Quoting KickButtMama:

I completely agree. We refuse to settle as well. And I enjoy the fact that I don't have the same curriculum restrictions a PS teacher has.

Quoting AutymsMommy:

Er, no.

Not entirely.

I don't care for our local public schools, but they do the best they can with the resources they have. I think our local teachers are wonderful - most of them do not care for the standards they are required to keep or the way politics run their schools.

I think some public schools, in other areas are very good.

I personally prefer private schools (we are Catholic and prefer a faith integrated education for our children).

... but no, I'm not disgusted with our schools; I just choose not to settle.

I homeschool for many reasons. Outright disgust isn't among those reasons.

I will say that the education system in the United States, in general, is broken, but I do also believe that this wasn't intentional on any one person's part.

There is a good bit of kick back from many, saying that homeschoolers are selfish for pulling upper class, bright children out of the public school system. THAT is part of my issue with schools. Our bright children are expected to draw the short stick and be kept down, in order to bring others up a bit. Not cool. At all.




I am a Home Schooling, Vaccinating, Non spanking, Nightmare Cuddling, Dessert Giving, Bedtime Kissing, Book Reading, Stay at Home Mom. I believe in the benefit of organized after school activities and nosy, involved parents. I believe in spoiling my children. I believe that I have seen the village and I do not want it anywhere near my children. Now for the controversial stuff: we have traditional gender roles, we're Catholic, I'm Libertarian, he's Republican, we're both conservative, and we own guns (now there's no need to ask, lol).             Aimee














AutymsMommy
by Silver Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 8:27 AM


My best friend is going through the same thing! Her son wasn't allowed to check out a book because the reading level was "too high" for him. In all fairness, I assume it's because of a limited inventory and the need to keep certain leveled book in the library for students in that grade? I'm not sure. Ridiculous either way.

Quoting KALmommy:

The final straw for me was when my daughter came home and told me she wasn't allowed to check out the book she wanted at the library because her teacher and and the librarian both told her it was too hard for her to read.  She was in Kindergarten but a very advanced reader (she entered K reading chapter books).  She wanted to get a Junie B. Jones book.  She had already read (and comprehended) several of them.  Besides the fact, even if it was too hard for her to read, who is to say I wasn't going to read it to her??  Then both my older son and my daughter are very advanced and they were not being allowed to work at a higher level.  We were in an extremely small school district where classes were blended anyways so it wouldn't have been hard to move them "up a grade".  It literally would have meant moving them to the other side of the classroom.



I am a Home Schooling, Vaccinating, Non spanking, Nightmare Cuddling, Dessert Giving, Bedtime Kissing, Book Reading, Stay at Home Mom. I believe in the benefit of organized after school activities and nosy, involved parents. I believe in spoiling my children. I believe that I have seen the village and I do not want it anywhere near my children. Now for the controversial stuff: we have traditional gender roles, we're Catholic, I'm Libertarian, he's Republican, we're both conservative, and we own guns (now there's no need to ask, lol).             Aimee














KALmommy
by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 11:12 AM

Maybe in a much larger school the limited inventory may be a problem but our school only has 30 kids (K-8) and the library is quite large plus the teachers each have their own inventory of book in their classrooms.  That makes sense in a larger school but not ours, necessarily.  When I asked the teacher and librarian they just told me it would be too hard for her to read.  This didn't surprise me coming from the librarian as she has been known to actually discourage children from reading at higher levels but the teacher had witnessed my daughter reading and acing all the AR tests.  That's what I couldn't understand.  But I totally agree, ridiculous!  I NEVER discourage my children from reading.  If they think they can read it, I let them try (obviously I don't let them read books like Stephen King but you know what I mean)  :)  Hope your friend has better luck!


Quoting AutymsMommy:


My best friend is going through the same thing! Her son wasn't allowed to check out a book because the reading level was "too high" for him. In all fairness, I assume it's because of a limited inventory and the need to keep certain leveled book in the library for students in that grade? I'm not sure. Ridiculous either way.

Quoting KALmommy:

The final straw for me was when my daughter came home and told me she wasn't allowed to check out the book she wanted at the library because her teacher and and the librarian both told her it was too hard for her to read.  She was in Kindergarten but a very advanced reader (she entered K reading chapter books).  She wanted to get a Junie B. Jones book.  She had already read (and comprehended) several of them.  Besides the fact, even if it was too hard for her to read, who is to say I wasn't going to read it to her??  Then both my older son and my daughter are very advanced and they were not being allowed to work at a higher level.  We were in an extremely small school district where classes were blended anyways so it wouldn't have been hard to move them "up a grade".  It literally would have meant moving them to the other side of the classroom.





KALmommy
by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 11:16 AM

That is what my school principal told us too.  When my son came home doing EXACT same worksheets/workbooks from the year before, I went to the principal and teacher.  They told me some kids didn't master it so everyone was doing it again.  My son was so extremely bored that it was like pulling teeth to get him to go.  I finally said "forget it" and pulled him and my daughter.  Now I am the local "pariah" because our school district is very small (30 kids) and I pulled my kids and then when other parents asked, I told them the truth!  Luckily I have about 5 other homeschooling families (in our very small area)!  :)


Quoting cjsmom1:

I pulled ds out of traditional ps because his needs weren't being met. He's advanced and he spent most of his day sitting in class doing nothing. The principal and counselor actually told me they'd rather hold a kid back then move them forward. Now I'm using k12.



cjsmom1
by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 11:21 AM
Ds used to ask why he had to go to school if he didn't learn anything and was bored. Wow that is a really small amount of kids.


Quoting KALmommy:

That is what my school principal told us too.  When my son came home doing EXACT same worksheets/workbooks from the year before, I went to the principal and teacher.  They told me some kids didn't master it so everyone was doing it again.  My son was so extremely bored that it was like pulling teeth to get him to go.  I finally said "forget it" and pulled him and my daughter.  Now I am the local "pariah" because our school district is very small (30 kids) and I pulled my kids and then when other parents asked, I told them the truth!  Luckily I have about 5 other homeschooling families (in our very small area)!  :)



Quoting cjsmom1:

I pulled ds out of traditional ps because his needs weren't being met. He's advanced and he spent most of his day sitting in class doing nothing. The principal and counselor actually told me they'd rather hold a kid back then move them forward. Now I'm using k12.





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KrissyKC
by Silver Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 12:54 PM

That is a small part of the reasons.

My reasons as follows...

1.   Religious reasons.

2.   Academic reasons

3.   Social issues with my eldest that led to her wanting to die all the time at a very young age.

4.   Kindergarten teacher that abused her classroom (my son's class) and the school made excuses.

5.   Closeness of family... and being able to lay important foundations in our kids lives.

6.   Not agreeing with the things they teach now.   A 6 year old doesn't REALLY need to know the things they teach about sex and alternate lifestyles..  we can teach it to them as they mature so that they aren't blind sided when they are grown up... but really, I know some kindergarteners that can't tie their shoes yet but can explain to you about gay sex.   ((regardless of your stance on this, a 5 yr old doesn't need to know about it yet!!!))

7.    Wanting the kids to be able to learn what works best for them in the best way that works for them.   If my daughter is mathematical but struggles with writing, I want her to be able to soar where she can and slow down where she needs.

8.   Wanting to see the kids love learning, not learn to hate school like most kids do by middle school.

(((i'm sure there are more)))


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