Part of the reason we started homeschooling was because DD wasn't doing great in PS. She wasn't doing poorly, but wasn't my idea of succeeding. Being dragged along with the class basically.
We have avoided medicating. I have been doing everything I have read to help her without medication. But I'm starting to wonder if anything short of medication is going to do the trick.
It's like... nothing sticks. She'll learn about something in math and won't be able to do it the next day. She'll complete a LA lesson and do fine, but when it comes time to take the test she doesn't do well. Things don't stick and it's driving me nuts!
We are child-led with everything but Math and Language Arts. It's driving me INSANE that she isn't succeeding in these two areas. I've tried different approaches to math but the results are always the same. We started doing multiplication and division probably October and still she isn't proficient enough (IMO) to move forward. My opinion of proficient would be 85% or better. I don't think that's asking too much.
I don't force her to do numerous problems. Only enough to make sure she "gets it." Sometimes that's only 4-5 problems. But ask her to do the same thing again the next day and she just shuts off. She has mastered low-digit multiplication/division but anything above 6 is meltdown territory. Even 9s... I've shown her the 9 hand trick more times than I care to count.
I'm losing my patience. She tells me she's stupid. I just don't know what else to do. She watches very little TV, plays outside plenty, lots of family/quality time, very little sugar, mostly gluten/dairy free (due to problems my other children have... she has made it impossible to be gfcf).
So what now?? I'm not trying to make medicating moms feel bad, it's just something I've always reserved as an "if all else fails" last resort.