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Today makes me wonder

Posted by on Feb. 8, 2013 at 3:55 PM
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Can I actually do the HS thing next year?

My oldest came home today with an essay of a note from her teacher. Despite tutoring and after school care help she is still failing. A lot of it comes down to defiance and just plain not wanting to do her work. She'd rather read, stare of into space  and play than do her work. She knows how important education is but if she doesn't have any motivation to do it in a classroom setting where she very much wants to be in the popularity contest; how will I ever motivate her and get her to complete school next year? This morning I was really gung-ho about next year. Now I feel like I'm facing a 10 feet high stone wall. I've thought about pulling her early instead of waiting til the end of the academic year in May. But it seems the baby is going to come any day now and I just don't think I can deal with new baby and full time teacher duties at the same time.


thoughts????

by on Feb. 8, 2013 at 3:55 PM
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romacox
by Silver Member on Feb. 8, 2013 at 4:13 PM

How old is your daughter?  You might want to wait until the baby is born, but home school does not take all day as it does in school.

How To Home School With A Babby Or Toddler

kirbymom
by Sonja on Feb. 8, 2013 at 4:17 PM
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Ahh. That is a tough place to be in.  You know what you could do? You could pull her out now and let her de-school the rest of the year and let her be home to help you when you need it. That alone is an education in and of itself. Plus, it would giver your daughter time to re-think what she is doing right now. Also, she can choose a subject or two or even just an interest that she likes and learns about it online, while you are recouping physically from having a baby.  You and she can learn together and enjoy that learning at the same time. Then, when it is time to start school and you are feeling more up to schooling, you can do so.  The beauty of homeschooling is that you can take your time. 

wunderwifey
by on Feb. 8, 2013 at 4:30 PM

She's 10, 5th grade.


Quoting romacox:

How old is your daughter?  You might want to wait until the baby is born, but home school does not take all day as it does in school.

How To Home School With A Babby Or Toddler



bluerooffarm
by Gold Member on Feb. 8, 2013 at 4:34 PM
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 While you are teaching her, she can have more say about her day.  Defiance is exacorbated when kids feel powerless and out of control.  It sounds like she needs to deschool a bit and then start out slowly to show her that she gets to have some say in what happens in her life.

You can do this! 

wunderwifey
by on Feb. 8, 2013 at 5:02 PM

Today she would have completed day 117. If I deschool how do I ensure she a) has 180 days by June 30. b) if I pull her now it will be with failing grades for science and math. how do I finish a curriculum for the rest of the year and hopefully get her grades up? I'm not just going to pass her cause I love her.


Quoting kirbymom:

Ahh. That is a tough place to be in.  You know what you could do? You could pull her out now and let her de-school the rest of the year and let her be home to help you when you need it. That alone is an education in and of itself. Plus, it would giver your daughter time to re-think what she is doing right now. Also, she can choose a subject or two or even just an interest that she likes and learns about it online, while you are recouping physically from having a baby.  You and she can learn together and enjoy that learning at the same time. Then, when it is time to start school and you are feeling more up to schooling, you can do so.  The beauty of homeschooling is that you can take your time. 



wunderwifey
by on Feb. 8, 2013 at 5:03 PM
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I hope so!!!


Quoting bluerooffarm:

 You can do this! 



mem82
by Platinum Member on Feb. 8, 2013 at 5:37 PM

If you pull her in the middle, the 180 days doesn't count. Deschooling doesn't involve curriculum, per say, so much as helping her learn through things that interest her.

Quoting wunderwifey:

Today she would have completed day 117. If I deschool how do I ensure she a) has 180 days by June 30. b) if I pull her now it will be with failing grades for science and math. how do I finish a curriculum for the rest of the year and hopefully get her grades up? I'm not just going to pass her cause I love her.


Quoting kirbymom:

Ahh. That is a tough place to be in.  You know what you could do? You could pull her out now and let her de-school the rest of the year and let her be home to help you when you need it. That alone is an education in and of itself. Plus, it would giver your daughter time to re-think what she is doing right now. Also, she can choose a subject or two or even just an interest that she likes and learns about it online, while you are recouping physically from having a baby.  You and she can learn together and enjoy that learning at the same time. Then, when it is time to start school and you are feeling more up to schooling, you can do so.  The beauty of homeschooling is that you can take your time. 




mem82
by Platinum Member on Feb. 8, 2013 at 5:37 PM

Have you talked to her about homeschooling?

wunderwifey
by on Feb. 8, 2013 at 5:54 PM


I thought I had read somewhere that I still had to finish the 180......

Quoting mem82:

If you pull her in the middle, the 180 days doesn't count. Deschooling doesn't involve curriculum, per say, so much as helping her learn through things that interest her.

Quoting wunderwifey:

Today she would have completed day 117. If I deschool how do I ensure she a) has 180 days by June 30. b) if I pull her now it will be with failing grades for science and math. how do I finish a curriculum for the rest of the year and hopefully get her grades up? I'm not just going to pass her cause I love her.


Quoting kirbymom:

Ahh. That is a tough place to be in.  You know what you could do? You could pull her out now and let her de-school the rest of the year and let her be home to help you when you need it. That alone is an education in and of itself. Plus, it would giver your daughter time to re-think what she is doing right now. Also, she can choose a subject or two or even just an interest that she likes and learns about it online, while you are recouping physically from having a baby.  You and she can learn together and enjoy that learning at the same time. Then, when it is time to start school and you are feeling more up to schooling, you can do so.  The beauty of homeschooling is that you can take your time. 






wunderwifey
by on Feb. 8, 2013 at 5:57 PM

Not yet. I know she hates going to school. She's asked about it before but DH and I were not ready for the leap yet. We have prayed about this for awhile and we finally got the 'go ahead.' We've been holding off on it in hopes that we can finish the year and have a clean break with the PS system and her record. We don't want to tell her too early that we're not going back in the fall so she doesn't slack off and think she doesn't have to finish the work in front of her.


Quoting mem82:

Have you talked to her about homeschooling?



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