DD15 came out of her hs Chemistry class today and told me there was a new girl there. I asked if she had just moved here or if she'd just left public school. Apparently, the girl was expelled in Nov, very likely for being a danger to herself, has been hospitalized for suicide attempts, and is recovering. DD said that "she was like me, but way worse."
Part of DD's recovery from her depression has been that she's not surrounded by people who feed the negativity to which she's prone. I get that everyone likes to know people who are like them, who have had similar experiences, etc. It makes us feel less alone in the world.
I don't know this girl. I hope and pray that she's on her way to recovery. Having BTDT, I know what her parents must be going through.
But I don't want DD hanging out with her, reliving the experiences and feelings that brought her so low to begin with. I don't know if she has enough distance and maturity to examine that part of her life without it sucking her back in.
New girl is also going to be in our co-op that starts the spring term this Friday and probably in DD's art class.
I don't think there's anything I can actually do to keep them apart, and even if there was, I'm not sure it would be a good idea to do it. She has to learn how to spot potentially negative influences and work through them. And honestly, I don't even know if this girl will be a bad influence. She may be working her way back up, just like DD. In which case, I need to be sure that DD will be a positive force in her life.
Any ideas on what I can say to DD to help her succeed through this encounter?
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