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Question for those who have special kids.

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If you have a child on the Autism spectrum, and you were to join a homeschool co-op, would you tell anyone in the co-op? Do you keep silent and let them figure it out?

I am asking because we are in a situation in our co-op that could have been avoided, or managed much sooner, if the board of directors would have been informed by the family that this child was special.

by on Feb. 13, 2013 at 3:28 PM
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swim-mom72
by on Feb. 14, 2013 at 12:10 PM

 Great advice : )   We do include him, but he is very defiant and complains about most things he is asked to do in his classes. Plus, he uses quite a bit of profanity, so that adds another layer to making this a difficult situation.


Quoting usmom3:

The best thing I can come up with is to tell them that all children are welcomed in your co-op & then back it up by showing it. Make sure to include him when he wants to be included & provide the parents with a shoulder to lean on.

Quoting swim-mom72:

 Yeah, I think that is the case with this family. The mom seemed nervous that it was out in the open.


Do you have any advice on how we can help reassure them that they will not be banned because of his difference?


 


Quoting usmom3:


 I think some  people feel that there children are less than if they have Autism & are embarrassed or fear ridicule, so they chose not to tell others until it is necessary.


Quoting swim-mom72:


I agree with ALL of you! The mom said to me "It is just not something we tell people. We don't want anyone to know." ....huh? Why?


We have all kinds of kids in our co-op from ADHD, to fetal alcohol syndrom, to downs, one with a severe stutter, and everything in between : )  We love them all and try to accomodate them all. So there would be no need to be affraid to tell this group of very diverse homeschoolers.


 


 


 


 


 

usmom3
by BJ on Feb. 14, 2013 at 12:45 PM
That is sad that he uses profanity to expression his feelings. You might try gently reminding him that you have a rule about that kind of language not being allowed in co-op (most Autistic people are sticklers for fallowing rules) then give him new words that are OK to use.

Quoting swim-mom72:

 Great advice : )   We do include him, but he is very defiant and complains about most things he is asked to do in his classes. Plus, he uses quite a bit of profanity, so that adds another layer to making this a difficult situation.




Quoting usmom3:

The best thing I can come up with is to tell them that all children are welcomed in your co-op & then back it up by showing it. Make sure to include him when he wants to be included & provide the parents with a shoulder to lean on.


Quoting swim-mom72:


 Yeah, I think that is the case with this family. The mom seemed nervous that it was out in the open.



Do you have any advice on how we can help reassure them that they will not be banned because of his difference?



 



Quoting usmom3:



 I think some  people feel that there children are less than if they have Autism & are embarrassed or fear ridicule, so they chose not to tell others until it is necessary.



Quoting swim-mom72:



I agree with ALL of you! The mom said to me "It is just not something we tell people. We don't want anyone to know." ....huh? Why?



We have all kinds of kids in our co-op from ADHD, to fetal alcohol syndrom, to downs, one with a severe stutter, and everything in between : )  We love them all and try to accomodate them all. So there would be no need to be affraid to tell this group of very diverse homeschoolers.



 



 



 



 




 

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swim-mom72
by on Feb. 14, 2013 at 3:13 PM

 I really like the idea of giving him new word choices!! Thank you, that was helpful!


Quoting usmom3:

That is sad that he uses profanity to expression his feelings. You might try gently reminding him that you have a rule about that kind of language not being allowed in co-op (most Autistic people are sticklers for fallowing rules) then give him new words that are OK to use.

Quoting swim-mom72:

 Great advice : )   We do include him, but he is very defiant and complains about most things he is asked to do in his classes. Plus, he uses quite a bit of profanity, so that adds another layer to making this a difficult situation.


 


Quoting usmom3:

The best thing I can come up with is to tell them that all children are welcomed in your co-op & then back it up by showing it. Make sure to include him when he wants to be included & provide the parents with a shoulder to lean on.


Quoting swim-mom72:


 Yeah, I think that is the case with this family. The mom seemed nervous that it was out in the open.



Do you have any advice on how we can help reassure them that they will not be banned because of his difference?



 



Quoting usmom3:



 I think some  people feel that there children are less than if they have Autism & are embarrassed or fear ridicule, so they chose not to tell others until it is necessary.



Quoting swim-mom72:



I agree with ALL of you! The mom said to me "It is just not something we tell people. We don't want anyone to know." ....huh? Why?



We have all kinds of kids in our co-op from ADHD, to fetal alcohol syndrom, to downs, one with a severe stutter, and everything in between : )  We love them all and try to accomodate them all. So there would be no need to be affraid to tell this group of very diverse homeschoolers.



 



 



 



 


 


 


 

Rust.n.Gears
by on Feb. 14, 2013 at 3:16 PM
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Oh everyone know about my son and me having autism. I think it is important.
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