We are failing getting work done. My dd fights every second.of every day?
It's so hard bc I want her to succeed ( and academically she is ahead) but I can't handle the constant fighting. It is physically draining and brings on more migraines.
There has to be a better way? Hopefully.
Quoting occumommy:
Bumping because i have the same question
Why is she fighting with you every day to do her work? I mean, do you think she is bored or needs a break? My DD has a mild case of Aspergers.
I was homeschooled for a while and I have autism.
My mom tried doing structure but I wouldn't go for it. I wanted it my way. She ended up putting the books on the table with a check list. I liked lists. I would cross off each thing I got done. I loved that. I soon picked my own books, subjects, trips, etc. I have to have control. I have to have goals for the day / week / month / year. I did amazingly well.
My son is four and autistic. I will give him what he needs in his schooling. Right now he learns best through videos. Yeah its horrible to some. But he speaks three languages, can read, knows so much, and inspires me each day. He also choses a lot on his own even now.
The biggest thing is for both of us: don't limit us. Too much structure stops us from learning. When I was doing it on my own I did so much more. Unbelievably more. So does Patrick.
I thought maybe with more structure we could have less fighting?
She lost going to the aquarium tomorrow bc she refused to do her work :( it sucks!
Quoting Rust.n.Gears:
Well how about from a students point of view.
I was homeschooled for a while and I have autism.
My mom tried doing structure but I wouldn't go for it. I wanted it my way. She ended up putting the books on the table with a check list. I liked lists. I would cross off each thing I got done. I loved that. I soon picked my own books, subjects, trips, etc. I have to have control. I have to have goals for the day / week / month / year. I did amazingly well.
My son is four and autistic. I will give him what he needs in his schooling. Right now he learns best through videos. Yeah its horrible to some. But he speaks three languages, can read, knows so much, and inspires me each day. He also choses a lot on his own even now.
The biggest thing is for both of us: don't limit us. Too much structure stops us from learning. When I was doing it on my own I did so much more. Unbelievably more. So does Patrick.
We go so many places. I love museums and the aquarium. So.it's not all work and no play.
We were recently sick so we had like a 2 week break. Maybe bored but she won't even do work she is interested in. Nor will she work so that she can do somethig fun on the weekend.
Our only rule really is to have the work done by Friday evening (and yes we sir and work with her). If not then no weekend.
Quoting RockEducation:Why is she fighting with you every day to do her work? I mean, do you think she is bored or needs a break? My DD has a mild case of Aspergers.
Quoting LongBeachLiz:
She just doesn't want to do it. She most definitely can. She tested in 4th grade reading and comp like 6 months ago (she's 3rd grade) and we got her outside help for math so now she's at 4 1/2-5th grade math.
We go so many places. I love museums and the aquarium. So.it's not all work and no play.
We were recently sick so we had like a 2 week break. Maybe bored but she won't even do work she is interested in. Nor will she work so that she can do somethig fun on the weekend.
Our only rule really is to have the work done by Friday evening (and yes we sir and work with her). If not then no weekend.
Quoting RockEducation:
Why is she fighting with you every day to do her work? I mean, do you think she is bored or needs a break? My DD has a mild case of Aspergers.
She might just be getting to that stage where she thinks school is a drag.? My DD is in 4th grade and she has a few days where she just wants to get done and go play on her electronics. I know what you mean about causing stress--sheesh. What works with DD is the electronics (smart phone, kindle fire, laptop). I threaten her with losing all of her things if she won't do her work. She can jump around the room, isn't made to sit still, gets to use videos, movies, etc........I try to change it up as often as possible. I try not to be too structured, but in the same breath, if not structured enough, she will sluff off. I feel your pain. We take a lot of breaks during our school day.
Maybe you can change some things to better suit her. My oldest hates worksheets and until this year (2 years after starting to homeschool), hated writing, it is still a big issue but not as bad since I was able to just "let it go" and back off. We do some computer work online but not daily and I am going to start on living books for math soon because he isn't liking the workbooks/worksheets. Good luck, I hope you can find a resolution because I know what that situation is like.
Hmmm.... It could be that it is too much to give her all at once. If someone were to give me a list of everything for the entire week, I would look at it freak out and avoid it until the last possible minute (and I mean today right this minute not as a child). I have a hard time starting things and a task with multiple parts seems so daunting that I just avoid until it can no longer be avoided. In fact, my husband still has to coach me through large cleaning projects because I just cannot coordinate how to start or what steps to follow very well, and I get frustrated easily.
Maybe break it down in to smaller parts, perhaps, one or two days worth of work instead of the entire week at once.
Some people need a bit more freedom. I need rigidity; I need structure, and I need everything planned out in great detail (usually I'm the one doing the planning, but I have to plan out every little detail for myself and it takes me a while to coordinate it). If I don't have those things, I don't function well at all.
Quoting LongBeachLiz:
We give her a list. Each book and what pages need to be done (each page number is listed so she can x it out) plus work packet that's fun. She get mon-friday to do it. She waits until wed or Thursday and screams at us it's too much and she can't do it. When she sits down and actually does it she flies through it!! She is lazy (and I'm not just talking about school work. Just a general life thing).
I thought maybe with more structure we could have less fighting?
She lost going to the aquarium tomorrow bc she refused to do her work :( it sucks!
Quoting Rust.n.Gears:
Well how about from a students point of view.
I was homeschooled for a while and I have autism.
My mom tried doing structure but I wouldn't go for it. I wanted it my way. She ended up putting the books on the table with a check list. I liked lists. I would cross off each thing I got done. I loved that. I soon picked my own books, subjects, trips, etc. I have to have control. I have to have goals for the day / week / month / year. I did amazingly well.
My son is four and autistic. I will give him what he needs in his schooling. Right now he learns best through videos. Yeah its horrible to some. But he speaks three languages, can read, knows so much, and inspires me each day. He also choses a lot on his own even now.
The biggest thing is for both of us: don't limit us. Too much structure stops us from learning. When I was doing it on my own I did so much more. Unbelievably more. So does Patrick.
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- LongBeachLiz
on Mar. 8, 2013 at 11:29 PM