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If one more person says I need to socialize them I'm going to scream!

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I wish I had $1 for every time I have heard this.

Why do people act like I'm going to keep them locked up in the house? They have church and Sunday School, the YMCA and I'm going to join a homeschool group.
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by on Mar. 16, 2013 at 8:42 AM
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kirbymom
by Sonja on Mar. 16, 2013 at 6:36 PM

Then she wasn't going to acknowledge that there were some bad things about being socialized by the public system? :)   Why some people think the trade off is wirth it, I will never know nor understand. 

Quoting Bluecalm:

She got embarrassed and asked what were the GOOD things he learned?


Quoting kirbymom:

If I may be so bold as to ask...What was her response?????? 

Quoting Bluecalm:

I haven't even started homeschooling yet, so this is just everyone's response to it. D's K teacher jumped on me when I mentioned, said he  needs to be in school to to be socialized and I listed all the ways he has been socialized in Kindergarten so far this year: learned to call people "poopyheads" and use "poop" once per sentence if possible, insist he has to be the 'winner" all the time, stick out his tongue at us, talk in a snotty voice, shake his booty at us, dance like a porn star, and make gang signs. Oh, and he's at a top school.




debramommyof4
by Silver Member on Mar. 16, 2013 at 8:01 PM

 She is my hardest child for others to understand.  My 6 year old is the total opposite.  She can make a friend and loves being around all the other kids and loves classes.  She doesnt care if the work is to easy so I have to check and see what she is learning.  It is crazy the difference in thier personalities.  My 7 year old has always been like this.  I do not know how she became like this but it is part of who she is.

Quoting kirbymom:

My oldest was like that. She was always bored if she wasn't being intellectually challenged all the way through school time.

People have a difficult time understanding something if it wasn't something they either experienced themselves or knew someone who had different experiences. 

Quoting debramommyof4:

 She expects me to teach her that when I see her every afternoon.  I think my biggest problem is that she doesnt understand why my dd doesnt want to go to school.  She hates being bored.  She does not understand kids her own age.  She was picking up bad habits and always in trouble. 

I tried to explain to my mom that my little girl told me that school was a place for parents to send thier children when they needed a break and that she only enjoyed helping the other kids because they did not understand what the teacher was talking about (she was in Kindergarten).  That is why we homeschool, not for 50 million other valid reasons other people homeschool.

Aww >>  You should ask your mom if she would prefer that her grandchild learn words not appropriate for her age or how to bully other children or how to not tolerate someone whom the rest of the class decides is not worhty enough to be tolerated. Ask your mom if she would prefer her grandaughter to just go with the flow or learn how to actually think of ideas and solutions on her own? 

Quoting debramommyof4:

 Everytime I talk to my mom and explain that yes next year my 7 year old will still be home with me.  That she has no interest in going back to school.  I get the she needs to be in a classroom speach.  She has no social skills at all, none what so ever, but we still work on it daily and I can work with her and help her and a teacher can not do that.  They do not have enough time.   I explain this to her every year, and every year it is the same thing.  She does not have close friends but she tells me in her weekly class she has a few friends, she has a few at church.  Which is a huge improvement for this child who had no friends in public school other than the kids who I was friends with thier mom so she saw them everyday. 

 


 


 

CJsMommy040506
by on Mar. 16, 2013 at 8:13 PM



Quoting Bluecalm:

I haven't even started homeschooling yet, so this is just everyone's response to it. D's K teacher jumped on me when I mentioned, said he  needs to be in school to to be socialized and I listed all the ways he has been socialized in Kindergarten so far this year: learned to call people "poopyheads" and use "poop" once per sentence if possible, insist he has to be the 'winner" all the time, stick out his tongue at us, talk in a snotty voice, shake his booty at us, dance like a porn star, and make gang signs. Oh, and he's at a top school.


I can relate to this. My almost 7 year old is in school now, we'll be beginning homeschool next school year. He tells me all the time which kid said the ahole word, and all of the other great names kids call each other. I've heard "poop" and "butt" more than I care to hear anymore. He eats lunch by himself sometimes and runs laps on the playground for talking and disturbing during class. I would've taken him out already if I didn't have a college class two days a week. Everyone I've told is supportive, even his teacher. 

kirbymom
by Sonja on Mar. 17, 2013 at 11:32 AM

I have a few of those myself. I think I have just gotten used to them since I have so many kids to begin with. Each one  having their own personality that grows as they get older. I find them interesting to observe as the kids get older and their personalities deepen and even broaden. 

Quoting debramommyof4:

 She is my hardest child for others to understand.  My 6 year old is the total opposite.  She can make a friend and loves being around all the other kids and loves classes.  She doesnt care if the work is to easy so I have to check and see what she is learning.  It is crazy the difference in thier personalities.  My 7 year old has always been like this.  I do not know how she became like this but it is part of who she is.

Quoting kirbymom:

My oldest was like that. She was always bored if she wasn't being intellectually challenged all the way through school time.

People have a difficult time understanding something if it wasn't something they either experienced themselves or knew someone who had different experiences. 

Quoting debramommyof4:

 She expects me to teach her that when I see her every afternoon.  I think my biggest problem is that she doesnt understand why my dd doesnt want to go to school.  She hates being bored.  She does not understand kids her own age.  She was picking up bad habits and always in trouble. 

I tried to explain to my mom that my little girl told me that school was a place for parents to send thier children when they needed a break and that she only enjoyed helping the other kids because they did not understand what the teacher was talking about (she was in Kindergarten).  That is why we homeschool, not for 50 million other valid reasons other people homeschool.

Aww >>  You should ask your mom if she would prefer that her grandchild learn words not appropriate for her age or how to bully other children or how to not tolerate someone whom the rest of the class decides is not worhty enough to be tolerated. Ask your mom if she would prefer her grandaughter to just go with the flow or learn how to actually think of ideas and solutions on her own? 

Quoting debramommyof4:

 Everytime I talk to my mom and explain that yes next year my 7 year old will still be home with me.  That she has no interest in going back to school.  I get the she needs to be in a classroom speach.  She has no social skills at all, none what so ever, but we still work on it daily and I can work with her and help her and a teacher can not do that.  They do not have enough time.   I explain this to her every year, and every year it is the same thing.  She does not have close friends but she tells me in her weekly class she has a few friends, she has a few at church.  Which is a huge improvement for this child who had no friends in public school other than the kids who I was friends with thier mom so she saw them everyday. 

 


 


 


jewel80
by on Mar. 17, 2013 at 3:36 PM
What kills me is teachers and administration are always telling the kids school is for learning not socialization!!! So how does sending our kids to a local school where the teachers abuse special needs kids and tell the kids and parents school isn't for socialization why would we send them so they have socialization ???? Makes no sense to me!! And when the kids are stressed beyond belief how is going to the place that causes that stress going to help them any in life?????
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kirbymom
by Sonja on Mar. 17, 2013 at 4:04 PM
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Because going to public schools for the most part isn't about educating the masses of children. Its about making good little boys and girls who believe in what the system tells them. Kids do not learn GOOD social skills from other kids. Parents teach that even when they don't realize it.  Oh sure, some good learning does happen at some schools but they are a few and far between and do not make up for the majority that don't.  

Quoting jewel80:

What kills me is teachers and administration are always telling the kids school is for learning not socialization!!! So how does sending our kids to a local school where the teachers abuse special needs kids and tell the kids and parents school isn't for socialization why would we send them so they have socialization ???? Makes no sense to me!! And when the kids are stressed beyond belief how is going to the place that causes that stress going to help them any in life?????


  

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Amanda_Jo1209
by on Mar. 17, 2013 at 6:04 PM

I just decided that I wanted to home-school and that is the FIRST thing the person says!!!! It is almost making me decide to NOT home-school. :'(

debramommyof4
by Silver Member on Mar. 17, 2013 at 7:00 PM

 It has been a real joy to watch them grow.  Right now they are both excited to be singing at church on Psalm Sunday.  I do not think they realize how big the church is and they both volunteered for solo parts.  But they each have thier own personality and it should be fun to see.  My 7 year old is alot like me, but in all the ways that drive me crazy.  I am ok with it though because she knows who she is and her self worth.  For that I will always be thankful.  That was taken from me at a young age and I try hard to be sure it is not squashed as much as possible.

Quoting kirbymom:

I have a few of those myself. I think I have just gotten used to them since I have so many kids to begin with. Each one  having their own personality that grows as they get older. I find them interesting to observe as the kids get older and their personalities deepen and even broaden. 

Quoting debramommyof4:

 She is my hardest child for others to understand.  My 6 year old is the total opposite.  She can make a friend and loves being around all the other kids and loves classes.  She doesnt care if the work is to easy so I have to check and see what she is learning.  It is crazy the difference in thier personalities.  My 7 year old has always been like this.  I do not know how she became like this but it is part of who she is.

Quoting kirbymom:

My oldest was like that. She was always bored if she wasn't being intellectually challenged all the way through school time.

People have a difficult time understanding something if it wasn't something they either experienced themselves or knew someone who had different experiences. 

Quoting debramommyof4:

 She expects me to teach her that when I see her every afternoon.  I think my biggest problem is that she doesnt understand why my dd doesnt want to go to school.  She hates being bored.  She does not understand kids her own age.  She was picking up bad habits and always in trouble. 

I tried to explain to my mom that my little girl told me that school was a place for parents to send thier children when they needed a break and that she only enjoyed helping the other kids because they did not understand what the teacher was talking about (she was in Kindergarten).  That is why we homeschool, not for 50 million other valid reasons other people homeschool.

Aww >>  You should ask your mom if she would prefer that her grandchild learn words not appropriate for her age or how to bully other children or how to not tolerate someone whom the rest of the class decides is not worhty enough to be tolerated. Ask your mom if she would prefer her grandaughter to just go with the flow or learn how to actually think of ideas and solutions on her own? 

Quoting debramommyof4:

 Everytime I talk to my mom and explain that yes next year my 7 year old will still be home with me.  That she has no interest in going back to school.  I get the she needs to be in a classroom speach.  She has no social skills at all, none what so ever, but we still work on it daily and I can work with her and help her and a teacher can not do that.  They do not have enough time.   I explain this to her every year, and every year it is the same thing.  She does not have close friends but she tells me in her weekly class she has a few friends, she has a few at church.  Which is a huge improvement for this child who had no friends in public school other than the kids who I was friends with thier mom so she saw them everyday. 

 


 


 


 

Donna.June
by Member on Mar. 17, 2013 at 7:06 PM
My uncle and aunt actually told me my kids would become freaks because I choose to homeschool. My dad agreed with them! They said they need to socialize with others and blah blah blah. I haven't spoken to my aunt or uncle for two, going on three years. Some people are idiots.
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debramommyof4
by Silver Member on Mar. 17, 2013 at 7:16 PM

 Don't let it get to you.  You know that you will do lots of things with your child. That will give them plenty of time to learn how to talk to and deal with other people.  It is not something you have to worry about as long as you plan on leaving the house.  If you want to homeschool go for it.  It is well worth it.

Quoting Amanda_Jo1209:

I just decided that I wanted to home-school and that is the FIRST thing the person says!!!! It is almost making me decide to NOT home-school. :'(

 

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