Maybe you ladies can help me

Reading all this advice about timeout just made me realize that we still use it with our TEENS! DD15 had to stand in the corner on timeout last month. LOL! We take away privileges and electronics most of the time, but every now and then, we have to put someone on timeout. If DH had chosen to send DD to her room, she would have just fallen asleep, so he told her to stand in the corner. If it works, it works! :)

Have you tried yoga? My 4yo can drive me up a wall sometimes. His Sunday school teacher told me if he was in PS they would already be talking ADHD. Anyway, we started on some yoga breathing stuff and he has begun to realize when he is pushing it. He puts himself in Polar Bear when he gets unfocused (yesterday he actually fell asleep there) Or starts to "dragon" breathe when he gets frustrated. I've seen a lot of improvement in his focus. Before it seemed like he wasn't listening, but now I realize he just couldn't even focus long enough to hear my instructions.
Quoting Amanda_Jo1209:
That's what I do too. Their time will not start if they are not standing there. Also if they get out their time starts over. Lol idk what I'm doing wrong
Quoting bluerooffarm:
Quoting debramommyof4:
My kids go through phases like this. I do time out wierd to what other people do it. I make my children stay in timeout till they are still and quite and then their timer starts. We also spank but only if they have done something that is dangerous. I keep it consistent but they still go through these phases. Just stay consistent and they will calm down.
My 4 year old is going through a I am going to cry and throw fits but not do time out and he is not listening. So we are constently dealing with screaming fits that last an hour or more.
I really like that timeout method! I am always bugged when they ask questions or stall at the beginning of TO. I'm going to try that!

Quoting bluerooffarm:Have you tried yoga? My 4yo can drive me up a wall sometimes. His Sunday school teacher told me if he was in PS they would already be talking ADHD. Anyway, we started on some yoga breathing stuff and he has begun to realize when he is pushing it. He puts himself in Polar Bear when he gets unfocused (yesterday he actually fell asleep there) Or starts to "dragon" breathe when he gets frustrated. I've seen a lot of improvement in his focus. Before it seemed like he wasn't listening, but now I realize he just couldn't even focus long enough to hear my instructions.
Quoting Amanda_Jo1209:
That's what I do too. Their time will not start if they are not standing there. Also if they get out their time starts over. Lol idk what I'm doing wrong
Quoting bluerooffarm:
Quoting debramommyof4:
My kids go through phases like this. I do time out wierd to what other people do it. I make my children stay in timeout till they are still and quite and then their timer starts. We also spank but only if they have done something that is dangerous. I keep it consistent but they still go through these phases. Just stay consistent and they will calm down.
My 4 year old is going through a I am going to cry and throw fits but not do time out and he is not listening. So we are constently dealing with screaming fits that last an hour or more.
I really like that timeout method! I am always bugged when they ask questions or stall at the beginning of TO. I'm going to try that!

It is nice to hear another family that does this. We have a 7 yo that is doing what your 4 yo is doing. She has had to stand there for 45-60 min at some points. I WILL NOT tolerate this kind of behavior.
BTW OP just make sure that you are consistent with whatever you decide to do. It takes a LOT of patience.
Quoting debramommyof4:My kids go through phases like this. I do time out wierd to what other people do it. I make my children stay in timeout till they are still and quite and then their timer starts. We also spank but only if they have done something that is dangerous. I keep it consistent but they still go through these phases. Just stay consistent and they will calm down.
My 4 year old is going through a I am going to cry and throw fits but not do time out and he is not listening. So we are constently dealing with screaming fits that last an hour or more.

There is some good advice in this post. Good luck OP! Those are some hard ages.

Quoting Amanda_Jo1209:
Thank you so much ladies. I DO stick with punishments. At this present time they have no tv, no toys, nothing. The other day when they woke up, I was sleeping on the couch but was still extremely tired, I told them they could watch cartoons until I was ready to get up. My daughter, the 3 year old, did great!!!! My son on the other hand was throwing the ball in the house and all kinds of stuff.
They enjoy schoolwork but at this point I don't WANT to do anything that they enjoy bc they can't respect me. My son even told my daughter tonight that he wanted to sell me. Ik he's only 4 but that really really hurt me. :'(
- Amanda_Jo1209
on Mar. 20, 2013 at 1:21 PM