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My son's ps teacher wants a conference about homeschooling

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D is finishing up his Kindergarten year and the teacher asked for a conference. She's doing meetings with all the parents regarding placement for next year, so I said no, it wasn't necessary since he is going to be homeschooled. She cornered me at the Easter party today to say she knew he wouldn't be in ps, but she wants to discuss with me my hs plans and hear what she thinks he needs to be doing, not just academically but socially. I was pretty taken aback. It's one thing for her to tell me what levels he's on, but to want to know all the details about me homeschooling seems intrusive.
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by on Mar. 21, 2013 at 7:23 PM
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Knightquester
by Bronze Member on Mar. 21, 2013 at 8:46 PM

I can't imagine having somebody question my skills in an area I've worked so many years in.  It's more than a little insulting and hurtful and I'm sorry you're being treated this way by a fellow colleague.

In your situation it might be healthy for you to let her know you're somewhat offended at her assumption you're not skilled and educated enough to teach your own child you've known his whole life when you've been able to successfully teach strangers children for 30+ years.  It's sometimes better to let people know how you feel as much for yourself as it is to let them know how they sound and come across.

Quoting Bluecalm:

I didn't make an appointment and she just said sometime before school ends. What's really crazy is I am retiring after teaching for 30 years. So it's kind of insulting that she thinks I can't handle educating my son after educating 1000+ kids.



Quoting Knightquester:

I wouldn't do a meeting with her as it's a waste of time.  It's her chance to talk you into not homeschooling or into doing it her way.  I'm sorry you've got the nosey type of teacher for your son, when I pulled my children out I was told how wonderful they would do and what a positive experience it would be by their past teachers.

I'm not the type to go to pointless meetings and wasting the time of all involved, and I would've probably said it just that way when the teacher cornered me.

If you have already got an appointment planned with her I'd just call the schools office during the school day and leave a message for your sons teacher that you're canceling the meeting as it's not necessary, or write a note to send to school with your son stating such but not going into detail, as again details aren't necessary.


When she corners or asks you again, which I'm sure will happen I would just inform her that although you're grateful your son has had a wonderful school year with her, you're not inclined to involve her in your son's future schooling as he is moving onto other grades and other things that do not involve her.


If she is insistent then you can let her know she has no right to question your decisions on your sons schooling and if she wishes continue harassing you on the matter then maybe it would be best you involve the principle and school board.




misselphaba
by Bronze Member on Mar. 21, 2013 at 8:48 PM

Did she want to talk you out of it?  It sort of sounds like she wants to let you know where she thinks he is and give you some ideas.  

I think I might have read the OP wrong.  

blueyedbaker
by on Mar. 21, 2013 at 8:52 PM

That's funny. I was a teacher for 15 years before I had kids. It's funny when people question me about home schooling, then they hear that I was a teacher and the questioning stops. 

Quoting Bluecalm:

I didn't make an appointment and she just said sometime before school ends. What's really crazy is I am retiring after teaching for 30 years. So it's kind of insulting that she thinks I can't handle educating my son after educating 1000+ kids.



Quoting Knightquester:


usmom3
by BJ on Mar. 21, 2013 at 8:57 PM

 Your welcome. In most states the laws are written to work for the homeschoolers not against them.

Quoting Bluecalm:

Thanks. I'll have to look up Louisiana law.


Quoting usmom3:

 She is a representative of the school district because she is an employee of it & there for has no legal rights to question you about homeschooling your child. The way the law is written & the way I understand it, is that no one can question your method or intent without accusing you of doing something wrong & they have to have proof that you have done something wrong to be accusing you which would validate their questioning of you. There for she is violating your rights as a homeschooler & that is an offenceto you & a violation of the homeschool laws. 


I hope that all made sense. 


Quoting Bluecalm:

How is it written in Tx that says that's illegal?



Quoting usmom3:

If you lived in Texas she would be breaking the law. She might be breaking it still depending on the way your state laws are written.


 


 

Bluecalm
by Bronze Member on Mar. 21, 2013 at 9:03 PM
Yes, she knows I'm a teacher and that I'm retiring this May. He goes to one of our feeder schools. The principal has known me for years through a program I worked in and has always spoken highly of me as a teacher.


Quoting mem82:

LOL Does she know you are a retired teacher?

Quoting Bluecalm:

I didn't make an appointment and she just said sometime before school ends. What's really crazy is I am retiring after teaching for 30 years. So it's kind of insulting that she thinks I can't handle educating my son after educating 1000+ kids.







Quoting Knightquester:

I wouldn't do a meeting with her as it's a waste of time.  It's her chance to talk you into not homeschooling or into doing it her way.  I'm sorry you've got the nosey type of teacher for your son, when I pulled my children out I was told how wonderful they would do and what a positive experience it would be by their past teachers.

I'm not the type to go to pointless meetings and wasting the time of all involved, and I would've probably said it just that way when the teacher cornered me.

If you have already got an appointment planned with her I'd just call the schools office during the school day and leave a message for your sons teacher that you're canceling the meeting as it's not necessary, or write a note to send to school with your son stating such but not going into detail, as again details aren't necessary.



When she corners or asks you again, which I'm sure will happen I would just inform her that although you're grateful your son has had a wonderful school year with her, you're not inclined to involve her in your son's future schooling as he is moving onto other grades and other things that do not involve her.



If she is insistent then you can let her know she has no right to question your decisions on your sons schooling and if she wishes continue harassing you on the matter then maybe it would be best you involve the principle and school board.





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Bluecalm
by Bronze Member on Mar. 21, 2013 at 9:08 PM
She's against it. When I first brought it up she jumped all over me about needing to socialize him. Which is funny because he's the friendliest kid ever. So she plans to tell me her ideas on how I am supposed to socialize him.


Quoting misselphaba:

Did she want to talk you out of it?  It sort of sounds like she wants to let you know where she thinks he is and give you some ideas.  

I think I might have read the OP wrong.  


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jeweldragons
by on Mar. 21, 2013 at 9:20 PM

I wouldn't go.  The teacher is probably going to try to keep you in public school. IMO it's a waste of time and none of her business.

ablessedlife
by Member on Mar. 21, 2013 at 9:38 PM
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Don't go. You'll feel even more offended afterwards and go home fuming.
snowangel1979
by Member on Mar. 21, 2013 at 10:05 PM
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I still really find it funny that the first thing people jump to is socialization.

I don't think I could count the number of times my parents or teachers told me with wagging fingers "school is not for socializing." LOL.

I probably wouldn't go to the meeting. Just try to make it threw the next few months being nice. Maybe just keep saying Ohh ya I'll have to look at my calendar and see but I don't have it with me, sorry. (maybe she'll get the hint)
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RockEducation
by on Mar. 21, 2013 at 10:07 PM

 

Quoting ablessedlife:

Don't go. You'll feel even more offended afterwards and go home fuming.

 I was thinking the same thing. If she's already discouraging you and she knows that you are a teacher, I would steer clear of anymore exposure to her.

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