See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
I need some advice or maybe just to vent and I know that this group is where I'll find the least amount of drama.
My BIL is a piece of work. He suffers from chronic pain because of Raynaud's, depression and is also bipolar. He does not work, nor does he take care of his three kids. The oldest is homeschooled by his mother, the middle one comes home after a morning at Headstart then is promptly sent off for a 3-4 hour nap, and the toddler spends his day at a babysitters. He is verbally and emotionally abusive towards my sister - everything under the sun is wrong and it's all her fault. He will do nothing unless it is to his benefit. For example, he recently decided that he wanted to start riding bulls. Nevermind that he hurts too much to help around the house or to watch the kids, but bullriding is a great idea. *eyeroll* Also forget the fact that she struggles to pay the rent and put food on the table but he will demand the money for his gear, entry fees, etc. I try to find ways to feel bad for him or see it from his side, but the bullriding I can't get past.
Apparently once a month he runs out of his pain meds. I guess he did it again and cannot get more until Tuesday morning. Friday and yesterday was the worst and he crossed some lines. He told his kids that he was leaving and that he would not come back. He told them that he would not be their daddy anymore. The kids watched him give my sister his wedding band back and turned and walked out. He did come back because he didn't have any money or anywhere to go. My neice was on the couch sobbing and he was sitting there "comforting" her saying it's would be okay but that he was still leaving. He has threatened suicide many times and he was doing it again yesterday. When my sister decided to take the kids and go for a couple of days he told her if she did, my niece's dog would be gone when they got back. His brother was threatening to call the cops for his safety and she just wanted to be gone when they got there. I asked her to bring the girls over just to get them out of the house. She agreed, but when she got here she just had the oldest one (7). I talked to her today about bringing over clothes and leaving her with me until he's back on his meds. Bottom line, she does not need to be there. She's so upset, it's heartbreaking. My sister agreed and went to go get some clothes. About 15-30 min later we get a call saying we need to come get my other neice. My BIL had shot himself in the leg in their bedroom.
Right now I have all three of their kids. She'll come back for the little one (2) because he's never slept over before. So I'll have the older two (5 and 7). I can't imagine sending those girls back there. So my question is this - in your opinion, does my sister (at this point) have anything to worry about from CPS? My husband is a mandatory reporter and is really struggling trying to decide if he needs to report this. Today we agreed we'd find a way to keep them rather than see them go to foster care, but I don't know if it's even a possibility.