My husband and I both have "lefties" in our famlilies but we are both right handed. My daughter switched back and forth for awhile but she is decidedy riight handed as well. My son, I'm not so sure about. He basically does everything with his left hand except for things that I taught him how to do. I didn't force him to use his right hand but he cuts and tries to write with his right hand. He uses scissors beautifully for a four and a half year old, so that isn't my concern. However, he is getting frustrated with trying to write. He usually picks up the pencil with his right hand, so I was trying to teach him how to hold it, but it seems awkward and he usually ends up in tears. One day, he picked it up with his left hand and then got upset that he was using "the wrong hand" and switched. I told him if he wants to write with his left that is fine, and he just put his head down and cried.
I don't want to frustrate him. I'm not pushing the writing but it is something he wants to do but it always ends in tears. I just don't know how to tell if he is indeed left handed and how to teach him to write if he is. My mother-in-law is very against kids writing left handed and forced all her children to write right-handed even though at least 1 says that he was left-handed before she made him change and he is still upset about it in his 30's. I don't know if some of the frustration is because she told DS that he must use his right hand and since he is still young he is still figuring it out.
Sorry to ramble, I just don't know what to do. He loves "doing school" otherwise and always wants to do things even if I tell him he is finished. I don't want this to put a damper on the whole process. Thanks.
ETA: My son is 4.5 years old for those who have asked. I remember as a kid my grandfather saying how he was bullied in school and had his hand tied behind his back. So, I would never force a child to be one way or another as far as which hand to use.
Also, my son is language delayed and did not start talking until after 3. There were many factors, mostly he had constant ear infections and lost over 9 months of hearing in a little over 2 years. So, he is catching up quickly and I think sometimes he stil has a bit of the frustration left over from when he couldn't talk when it comes to communicating. He is already starting to read and still has some speach issues but is doing amazingly well considering.
Thank you for all your help. If anyone has any ideas of what I could do with him to take the pressure of writing off or even to allow him to experiment more, I'd appreciate it. My daughter switched a lot but once she started writing she was decidedly right handed and never looked back. I don't really have any experience with teaching lefties. I was looking at pencil grips to make it easier for him, but the all seem to be right handed--althought I have no idea if they are or not. Thanks.