I will be honest, I first started homeschooling because my dd had some medical issues that made it hard for her to go to public school. My dh and my parents were against it, but they said to do it for the semester until we could figure out what to do with dd. I took dd to the doctors and found out she had Selective Mutism and Social Phobia. They suggested to homeschool her and gradually introduce her back into the school environment over a period of years (probably more than 2 or 3 years). So at the beginning this was what I planned to do. Now we are going into our second year of homeschooling and It's funny my mom asked me at the beginning of this year "your not going to put her back into school again are you?" That made me feel great!! And because I didn't have any complaints from my dh, I thought he was finally on board with it. Well this morning the truth came out. We were talking about something someone posted on here and he told me he didn't want our dd to be homeschooled. That she needed to learn to adapt to her surroundings and that being at home doesn't do that for her. He says he suffered from the same things she did as a child (though he was never diagnosed, though he had friends outside of school - all things my dd does not have - she has a couple of friends and when I say a couple I truly mean 2!) It's not because she is kept inside all the time, it's because of her Selective Mutism!! How can she have friends and survive on the outside if she can't bring herself to talk? She can't join any clubs because she get anxious around a group of people, so a lot of what we do is her and I and we do have a homeschool group that we go and interact with, but to be honest if it were up to her, she would probably stay home and do work.
So now I am sitting her almost in tears because my dh doesn't want her to be homeschooled even though I have proven myself to him that I am a good teacher (she was just evaluated and is an 11 year old testing on a 10th to 11th grade level and the evaluator actually has on paper that these test scores could be a lot higher but because of her SM, he could not get a accurate score, but these were her min. scores). Sure sometimes we slack off and not do school, but then other days we do lots of stuff. I figured we deserve it. She has so many dr and therapy visits that she deserves to have a little time to herself.
How do you do something when you know your dh is against it? I refuse to put her back into the public school system. I know I want to shelter her and protect her and I know that the kids at the public school will just eat her up and spit her out and it will cause more damage than good. How can I ever talk to him about what we do in school or the things she is learning when I know he is just thinking of how she should be back in public school? We actually got into an argument of the "socialization" thing!!! He still believe she needs to socialize, yet doesn't understand that with her condition, right now, socialization is not the best thing for her. We gradually have to introduce her into those situations. The doctor said she will NEVER be a social butterfly and she will NEVER put herself out there. She just can't. We do the therapy and stuff to teach her how to deal with certain situations and how to one day be able to get a job and earn a living.
I am sorry this is so long and I still haven't said all that I wanted. I am so depressed right now. I really thought when dh saw how smart she was, he would finally agree with what I was doing. I truly believe he would be happier if she was just in the public school doing work that is on her grade level. So sad.