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OT: Do You Think The School Should Be Responsible for Making it Right?

Mom Whose Kid Was Described as a 'Freak' in Yearbook Overreacts Big Time (VIDEO)

by Jeanne Sager Wednesday at 9:01 AM

Dylan WorthenIt's the question of the decade. How far should schools go to stomp out bullying? Should a school, for example, confiscate 900-some yearbooks, destroy them, and print new books ... all because one student was called a mean name on one page of the book? That's what the mom of a teenager called a "freak" in a caption of his marching band photo wants.

Dylan Worthen's name was adjusted by someone prior to the printing of the South Paulding High School yearbook this year. Every book purchased by students at South Paulding features a photo of the 16-year-old with the addition of "freak" as a second last name.

It's cruel. It's awful. But does that mean the school should shoulder the burden of printing new books?

I don't mean to be insensitive.

If my daughter were labeled a freak in her yearbook, I don't doubt that I'd be right where Dylan Worthen's mom is, shaking my fist and demanding things be put right.

But my daughter wasn't, and I'm not.

And so my view isn't clouded by a personal bias that makes it hard to see the bigger picture.

Her son was bullied, and the kids responsible should be brought to heel for it. They should be punished. 

But how far should this school go? What does zero tolerance really mean?

We are finally at a point in society where school bullying has gone mainstream, so to speak, and we're really talking about it. No longer are we telling kids that they need to buck up and deal with it.

As a formerly bullied kid and mom of a kid who started dealing with bullies in pre-school, I'm glad to see schools taking action. But we need to be careful not to swing too far in the other direction.

Common sense must prevail!

What happened to Dylan Worthen was awful. It sucks.

But in the scheme of things, being called a "freak" in your high school yearbook is not the worst thing that could happen. Some kids saw it and probably laughed. Most probably saw it and rolled their eyes.

The real damage is if the kids who did it get away with it and aren't punished. If that happens, then ... well, isn't that enough?

Surely it's not bad enough to require a school district spend thousands of dollars on re-printing a yearbook. Thousands of dollars that could be spent on educating kids?

Video here

What do you think the school should do here?

Is it enough just to punish the kids or should the school be responsible for making it right?

by on May. 20, 2013 at 9:09 AM
Replies (11-16):
by on May. 20, 2013 at 4:53 PM

Reprint and confiscate.  That should be the punishment for this awful thing.  I mean, who wants to be reminded of that in later years?

by on May. 21, 2013 at 9:22 AM

It would be less expensive to reprint that one page on sticker type paper and then recall all yearbooks, and make those responsible fix all 900 neatly.  

by Jinx on May. 21, 2013 at 10:20 AM
I answered in another group but...

They should pay to reprint a few. One for family of the boy, and a couple for the school library and office.

The rest should have stickers with his name done properly to cover it. I would not confiscate and reprint 900!
by on May. 21, 2013 at 11:26 AM

They should reprint and make the STUDENTS responsible pay for the reprinting. These kids are in high schools and should know there are consequences to their actions. They are at the age where they should have to take financial responsibility for their actions as well as any other consequences the parents/school want to take. Some of these kids might be off to college - if they don't know about financial consequences now, when will they learn??

Aother thought is to ask the student affected his opinion and provide him with the opportunity to be empowered to weigh in. Obviously, adults need to provide direction and support to help him with these bullies and solve the problem in a good way - if that makes sense.

by on May. 21, 2013 at 3:05 PM
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 I think that they should reprint it and let those responsible for the bullying pay for it.

by on May. 21, 2013 at 3:23 PM

I think they all should be reprinted. IT'S NOT RIGHT..My daughter was bullied and for a NO TOLERENCE POLICY..They didn't do CRAP to help my daughter..They tried to blame her for writing filthy messages about her on bathroom walls. They said she wrote herself  filthy notes. Still nothing after giving a writing sample.It's disgusting and I think ALL bullies should have consequences especially if it ends in a death.. 

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