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Teacher Duct Taped Student to Chair for Being 'Rowdy'

Teacher Duct Taped Student to Chair for Being 'Rowdy'

by Jeanne Sager

duct tapeWhen mom Natasha Crutchfield sent her 8-year-old son to school, she thought he'd be safe. He was going to SCHOOL. But then her son came home from his San Antonio, Texas school and told her he'd been duct-taped to a chair for three hours by a teacher who said he was too "rowdy."

Appropriate discipline? Not on your life. But what's a mom to do?

She wasn't there. She had to send her kid to school. And instead of being able to choose an appropriate course of action to correct her son's behavior, she had to rely on the school staff to do it.

It's what parents across the United States do every day. We pack our kids lunches, fill up their backpacks, and we load them on school buses, off to spend a day with other adults who we hope will treat them as we would.

Usually they do. Usually I agree if a teacher decides my kid should sit out five minutes of recess for forgetting to bring her homework home for the third time in a row or spend a few minutes with her head on her desk for talking too much in class.

But when the school does something I don't agree with wholeheartedly, it's hard to know just what to do. If I don't stick up for her, then I've failed her. But if I raise a ruckus, what message am I sending her about respect for authority, for other adults who DO have to discipline her when I'm not around?

Take what happened to Natasha Crutchfield's son.

Clearly, a child should not be duct taped to a chair for any amount of time. That little boy should have felt it was OK to pull the tape off, get up, and walk to an administrator's office to report her for doing something wrong.

It's not his fault that he didn't, nor is it his mom's. It's impossible to prepare our kids for every eventuality.

We try to teach our kids that they need to respect their elders, but we also have to teach them that their elders aren't always right, that sometimes it's OK to disobey their elders.

This is the fine line you walk both before and after a situation akin to the Crutchfields. Because now this mom has to raise a stink, has to get the Judson Independent School District to do something about a teacher who duct tapes kids to chairs so that her kid knows she's got his back, while still teaching her son to respect OTHER teachers.

It's not for the faint of heart. But good for her for sticking up for her kid. He's just a little boy ... and he needs her help.

Have you ever had to complain when a school staffer disciplined your child too harshly while still in public school?

What did you do about it?

Do stories like this further validate your decision to homeschool?

by on Jun. 11, 2013 at 9:26 AM
Replies (11-16):
kmath
by Silver Member on Jun. 11, 2013 at 7:20 PM

What the hell?!  YOU are in the wrong for giving your son a scarf, not their special snowflake for freaking choking him?!  There is something seriously wrong with some people.  I am so sorry your baby had to go through that.  I hope there was no permanant damage.


Quoting Rust.n.Gears:

He was so upset about the scarf too. I had just made it. I had to order new yarn from England which took weeks to come in. The amily of the boy said I was wrong for giving him the scarf !

Quoting celticdragon77:

That about had me tears. NO CHILD SHOULD HAVE TO EXPERIENCE THAT, ESPECIALLY AT 5yrs of AGE!!!

Quoting Rust.n.Gears:

My son was in kindergarten when I got the first call. He was going to be suspended from the bus for fighting. He refused to answer the principals questions and just cried. He was only five. I walked in to find him crying with his scarf torn in his hands. As the principal babbled I took in the image of my son .... including his neck. When the principal stopped I asked "What happened to his neck?" Everyone froze. I asked Alex who held up the scarf. I told the principal to get the police officer immediately. Alex couldnt speak ! He was taken to the hospital where they found internal damage to his throat from strangulation. Another boy grabbed the thick handknit scarf and pulled. Alex was fighting for his life.




Rust.n.Gears
by on Jun. 11, 2013 at 7:21 PM
There was not but he was left mentally affected. The poor kid had just been adopted too.

Quoting kmath:

What the hell?!  YOU are in the wrong for giving your son a scarf, not their special snowflake for freaking choking him?!  There is something seriously wrong with some people.  I am so sorry your baby had to go through that.  I hope there was no permanant damage.



Quoting Rust.n.Gears:

He was so upset about the scarf too. I had just made it. I had to order new yarn from England which took weeks to come in. The amily of the boy said I was wrong for giving him the scarf !



Quoting celticdragon77:

That about had me tears. NO CHILD SHOULD HAVE TO EXPERIENCE THAT, ESPECIALLY AT 5yrs of AGE!!!

Quoting Rust.n.Gears:

My son was in kindergarten when I got the first call. He was going to be suspended from the bus for fighting. He refused to answer the principals questions and just cried. He was only five. I walked in to find him crying with his scarf torn in his hands. As the principal babbled I took in the image of my son .... including his neck. When the principal stopped I asked "What happened to his neck?" Everyone froze. I asked Alex who held up the scarf. I told the principal to get the police officer immediately. Alex couldnt speak ! He was taken to the hospital where they found internal damage to his throat from strangulation. Another boy grabbed the thick handknit scarf and pulled. Alex was fighting for his life.





kmath
by Silver Member on Jun. 11, 2013 at 7:24 PM

Yeah, I have no doubt that affected him.  I can't even imagine having to go through that!


Quoting Rust.n.Gears:

There was not but he was left mentally affected. The poor kid had just been adopted too.

Quoting kmath:

What the hell?!  YOU are in the wrong for giving your son a scarf, not their special snowflake for freaking choking him?!  There is something seriously wrong with some people.  I am so sorry your baby had to go through that.  I hope there was no permanant damage.



Quoting Rust.n.Gears:

He was so upset about the scarf too. I had just made it. I had to order new yarn from England which took weeks to come in. The amily of the boy said I was wrong for giving him the scarf !



Quoting celticdragon77:

That about had me tears. NO CHILD SHOULD HAVE TO EXPERIENCE THAT, ESPECIALLY AT 5yrs of AGE!!!

Quoting Rust.n.Gears:

My son was in kindergarten when I got the first call. He was going to be suspended from the bus for fighting. He refused to answer the principals questions and just cried. He was only five. I walked in to find him crying with his scarf torn in his hands. As the principal babbled I took in the image of my son .... including his neck. When the principal stopped I asked "What happened to his neck?" Everyone froze. I asked Alex who held up the scarf. I told the principal to get the police officer immediately. Alex couldnt speak ! He was taken to the hospital where they found internal damage to his throat from strangulation. Another boy grabbed the thick handknit scarf and pulled. Alex was fighting for his life.







MessedUpMama
by Member on Jun. 12, 2013 at 5:09 PM

I think it was 4th grade. I had a teacher that probably shouldn't have been a teacher at all. She used ping pong paddles to spank kids. (I'm a lot older than most of you, spanking was still allowed in school) I remember her breaking a paddle on one boy, he was still the new kid but he was pretty popular, he didn't flinch at all, So she got another paddle and paddled him several more "licks". Still no reaction. Finally she had to send him to the Principal for what ever it was he had done.

She would tape people's mouths shut, by wrapping the tape around their head several times. She also used jump ropes to tie people to their seats. I was sent to the Princepal a few times because I couldn't sit still and kept "playing" with the blocks we were using to understand some math facts. I did my work and "played" with the blocks to do so. The Principal sent me back to class and strongly suggested that she allow me to "play" with the blocks.

bluerooffarm
by Gold Member on Jun. 12, 2013 at 5:18 PM

 

Quoting MessedUpMama:

I think it was 4th grade. I had a teacher that probably shouldn't have been a teacher at all. She used ping pong paddles to spank kids. (I'm a lot older than most of you, spanking was still allowed in school) I remember her breaking a paddle on one boy, he was still the new kid but he was pretty popular, he didn't flinch at all, So she got another paddle and paddled him several more "licks". Still no reaction. Finally she had to send him to the Principal for what ever it was he had done.

She would tape people's mouths shut, by wrapping the tape around their head several times. She also used jump ropes to tie people to their seats. I was sent to the Princepal a few times because I couldn't sit still and kept "playing" with the blocks we were using to understand some math facts. I did my work and "played" with the blocks to do so. The Principal sent me back to class and strongly suggested that she allow me to "play" with the blocks.

 In our school there were 2 "designated" spankers.  The Guidance Counselor and the algebra teacher.  They had a thick paddle with holes drilled in it "for aerodynamics."  Anyone who needed a "few licks" would send for them.

And our English teacher in 9th grade used to tape us in the corner because she had to turn her back on us to teach the class, and she didn't want us "hooligans" to do anything to her while her back was turned.  But she was a nut!  You would never believe the other stuff she did!

rachel_2010
by on Jun. 12, 2013 at 5:31 PM

One of our teachers in high school duct taped a boys arm down for asking too many stupid questions.  That sounds crazy when told just like that.  But in the class it was all good natured and done jokingly

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