passive aggressive grandma *vent on how my family thinks homeschooling is messing up my kids*
My family has just been on a roll, lately. 8(
My brother and mom seem to really be on the *she's too controlling* bandwagon. Why? I don't know. I'm strict with the kids but honestly, there are way more strict parents out there. They (my family) are always hinting that the homeschooling is just another way I repress them. The funny thing is that when I'm not *repressing* the kids with my silly rules, I'm not being strict enough. My mom and her boyfriend CAN NOT believe that I would ALLOW my son to play a certain video game. It's an old, old game from the 80s that isn't really that PC but it isn't really that bad. It has a provocatively dressed (video game pixel 2d) woman at the start. That's it. It's my hubby's favorite game from childhood and he lets them play it.
My mom is always telling my oldest that she's sexy, or should try to be more sexy. Yes, my 12 year old. She wonders why Missie likes to wear long flowing skirts to church and won't wear anything above the knee. Yes, my husband and I make her dress modestly, but DD takes it farther than we would. She turns her thick strapped tank tops backwards so it's higher in the front, even. All of her homeschooling friends dress just as modestly. It is just the way they prefer to be. I think Mom thinks Missie would be more stylish if she was in public school.
So we were shopping for bathing suits for DD. Mom thought she should get one of the skimpier bikini type things but Missie is much more of the one piece or overlapping tankini type. When she shops, I tend just to point things out that I think she might like, but honestly, I don't care what she wears. She is very into sparkles and flowers and I'm more of a band t shirt type of gal. I'm basically there to help her pick sizes and to pay.
When DD went into the changing room I noticed that 2 packs of bras in her size were on sale. I picked out 2 sets of bright neon colors and pink cheetah prints (most were like that so I assume they are in style) and one pack that just had a white bra and a black bra because Missie doesn't like her bras to show through her t shirts (like I said, she is naturally modest).
Missie came out and picked the black/white set. My mom snorts in disgust and says, "Alright, now tell me which you would pick if you didn't think your mom would get angry and not let you get it?"
Seriously, I swear I have NEVER yelled at Missie for her clothes or underclothes. We have certain standards but Missie has always stayed easily within those bonds. She doesn't what to look trashy! My mom had me in belly shirts when I was 10 and cleavage baring shirts at 12. I don't know why Mom even said that! Missie just looked at her blankly, and I asked her why she would say that. She replies, 'Well, I never picked things I wanted because I didn't want my mom to be upset and I was just making sure that Missie has more freedom." Another weird thing my mom does is tell me how like her mother I am. Then she tells stories about how she was always scared of her mother and how her mother always hurt her feelings. That in turn hurts my feelings because I'm not trying to hurt Mom. I just have certain beliefs that she doesn't share.
This was just the cherry on top of this past month of 'MEM is too controlling'. My brother calls me constantly to argue because of homeschooling and my parenting methods and Mom is just so passive aggressive!
Thank goodness Rob's family supports our choices!
Sorry this was so long. Just getting it off my chest. Do you have people blame homeschooling for your kids not being *stylish* or interested in the right things?