Last week I wrote a post about believing my youngest is dyslexic.
I researched and researched for hours about it and how to teach her best, specifically in spelling-her reading is not so bad, but her writing and spelling are very hard to read. I found a program that looked really good, but was close to $300, so I emailed the author just to see if she had any other options or ideas. Here is what I wrote to her:
Hello Ms. van den Honert,
I was wondering if there are
any used copies of Reading from Scratch or if you ever offer any
discounts? I am a new homeschooling mom with a 10 year old daughter
with dyslexia. Growing up, my brother had dyslexia and there wasn’t
much they really did. He now still has a hard time reading and writing,
he barely finished high school with a lot of help from our mom, and he
dropped out of college soon after starting. I want better results for
my daughter. This program sounds amazing but since I am no longer
working, spending over $200 is just not an option for us. I wonder if
you would even lend a copy out and we could write a review or
something? Or if you have any ideas for us to do this on our own at
home, I am an education major so I have a lot of ideas, but none
specifically for children with dyslexia.
Anything you can do to help, even just some ideas for at home, would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for your time!
I cannot believe the response I got from her, I am so offended and think this was way out of line..here is her response:
The total price of the
Reading from Scratch program is less than $300. Other methods run into
the thousands and don't teach the child to read well. I strongly
suggest that you send your daughter back to public school and get a job.
Your pay can cover the cost of RfS as well as a tutor for three
lessons a week of 45 minutes each. Or you might have a grandparent or
nice neighbor, NEITHER DYSLECTIC, who could help out your little girl.
It should only take one school year to get her fixed up.
So, since I am so offended, of course I am immediately typing an email back. But I don't want to sound as rude as she did. So here is what I want to say, can you tell me if you think I am too emotional or if this is a well deserved response?
I found your reply very rude and
unprofessional. I worked in the public school and my income would then
only cover the program and a tutor, that's how poorly support staff is
paid. My daughter was in the public school for five years. With every
meeting and every concern we shared, not a single teacher in that five
years suggested she may be dyslexic or need additional help.
can read, basically "on level" for her age. I am more concerned with
her education than to throw her back in the system where she was just
pushed along. She will get much better results with me looking out for
her best interests than in a class of 25 children. And I do like to
spend time with my children, having her in school all day with an
additional 45 minutes three times a week with a tutor would be a lot
more "schooling" than one should need.
I am not dyslexic
and have a degree in education, I have found some other programs and
have educated myself and am fully confident that I can provide her with
the skills necessary to be successful in life, even without any
overpriced program written by greedy people.
Thank you for the time you took to respond, I would hope you are not so rude to your paying customers.
Some of it is harsh, but I am so offended and this is my immediate reaction. I'm sure I will tone it down before I send it. But really? Is this how people do business?? Everyone else I have emailed or spoken with has been so much more polite!
ETA: I now want to also include something about "getting her fixed up" I don't think my daughter needs fixing! She is perfect the way she is, I just want to give her the skills to be able to write a letter without feeling bad she can't spell. Some of the most important people to our society were dyslexic, we don't need to "fix" them. I don't even want a program that thinks a special need should be "fixed."
on Jul. 12, 2013 at 1:01 PM