My friend, who I trust, has a daughter the same age as my younger daughter (6) and she just had a birthday. She wants to go out to lunch with a couple of her friends to celebrate. So my friend wants to pick up my daughter, and another little girl who lives a couple blocks from me, tomorrow, and take all 3 girls to a pizza place for lunch, then over to her house to play for an hour or two afterwards.
I will interject here that I have some major anxiety issues. I have it mostly under control, and it almost all stems from my grandpa being brutally murdered 14 years ago (a very horrid experience all around) - I have had to struggle against this thought process that says, if something terrible happened once, it will happen again - that the world contains evil - etc. I have been on/off medication, done therapy, the whole bit. I now take a mild sedative once in awhile, but that's all. And usually, I'm fine.
But I have an issue with letting my children ride in cars with other people. I KNOW it's crazy. I know my friend very well. She is a very safe driver. I have been a passenger with her and actually gotten irritated at how SLOW she drives! :) She's also responsible. She has 3 kids like me, she's a speech therapist, she is a girl scout troop leader and a cub scout den leader. You really couldn't ask for a more trustworthy person.
So I KNOW I need to let my daughter. She's excited to go have a girls' lunch out. I need to get used to having my kids be in the care of others. (For the record it's not like I never leave them - I leave them with DH all the time, my mom sometimes takes them for an overnight even - it's the car I mostly have issue with, IDK why.)
I mean - the whole point of parenting is to raise children into capable, confident adults, right? And they can never get there if they are always under my thumb. They need to experience things away from me. Cognitively, I know this. But emotionally and mentally, I'm a wreck.
I am planning to ask my friend to text me when they get to the restaurant. She knows my 'issues' and will understand.
Ugh. Does anyone else struggle with letting their kids go and do things with other people? I don't want my craziness to stop my kids from doing things they enjoy, things that all kids do and benefit from.