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Help! He says he wants to go to school.

Posted by on Jul. 31, 2013 at 12:26 PM
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 My six year old has some great big misconceptions that make him want to go to school. 

1. He thinks that he'll get away with not doing the work because there will be 20 other kids to answer the questions too.

2.  He thinks that there is a field trip every day, like on the Magic School Bus, Sid the Science Kid, and other cartoons.

3.  He thinks that school is mostly playing on the playground because he sees the kids there when we pass to go to our co-op.

4.  He thinks he can still be in the co-op play because his brothers will still be homeschooled.

5.  He thinks that school will be easier than homeschool.

AND 6. He thinks he'll still be able to sleep in and I can "just" drive him to school when he wakes up.

So my oldest suggested that we make a "card chart" for him just like at the B&M.  Instead of cojoling (and begging and pleading) for him to do the work, behave, whatever; I should just flip his card and take away his play time.  I should set the alarm and wake him up like he had to when he went to B&M. 

Levi only works with other adults that are able to let things slide that I just can't/won't, so he thinks he'll get away with more from a teacher than he will with me.  BUT I can let things slide that a teacher with 20 more students just can't.  I don't know how I can explain this in a way he'll understand. 

It started Monday at the co-op.  He told Mrs. Hook that he was thinking of going to the B&M this year.  She knew that no arrangements had been made and that we had paid our dues for the whole family this year, so she told him that she would have to recast his part.  Then she asked him a bunch of questions so that she could give me the list above, his misconceptions of the local ps.

Anyway, any suggestions?  He will NOT be going to the local PS.  No way, no how!!  But I do want to explain to him why we make the decisions we do, why he stays home, and why this is not something I will let him choose for himself at this age.

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lucsch
by on Jul. 31, 2013 at 12:33 PM

My dd asked  when she was going to "real" school at that age, too. I just told her it wasn't an option. She was particularly aware of school, since her older two brothers went to public school. Now, 5 years later, she loves homeschooling and doesn't even ask to go to "real" school any more. We have friends from co-ops, church, dance, and other clubs. She loves having me as her teacher now.

In other words, I wouldn't let a child that young make the decisions about his education. They are much too immature to understand the reasons behind the decision. It is mostly an emotional response.

debramommyof4
by Silver Member on Jul. 31, 2013 at 12:39 PM
I agree with your oldest. Let Ms. Hook recast his part and treat him like he was in public school. Ask your oldest to tell your son about their experience.

I don't think sending a kid to public school for a short time, is the end of the world, though I am positive it would not last more than a month because the schools are teaching things I just can not agree with.

But that is my opinion. He would hate it after the first day and never want to go back. I think it is a "the grass is greener on the other side" kind of thing.
bluerooffarm
by Gold Member on Jul. 31, 2013 at 12:50 PM

 Sending him is not an option for us either.  I just would like to have a way to explain it to him.  Our oldest went to PS, I taught at a public school, but our local school just isn't a good one.

Quoting lucsch:

My dd asked  when she was going to "real" school at that age, too. I just told her it wasn't an option. She was particularly aware of school, since her older two brothers went to public school. Now, 5 years later, she loves homeschooling and doesn't even ask to go to "real" school any more. We have friends from co-ops, church, dance, and other clubs. She loves having me as her teacher now.

In other words, I wouldn't let a child that young make the decisions about his education. They are much too immature to understand the reasons behind the decision. It is mostly an emotional response.

 

jwhit8791
by Jessica on Jul. 31, 2013 at 12:59 PM

When my 6 yo starts to get whiney and says that he wants to go to regular school and I am mean, I just like to remind him of the time commitment involved.  They do get up early but don't necessarily get ready early so I say......how would you like to have to be ready, breakfast eaten, and out the door by before 8 and then not get home until after 4.....then we would have dinner and you would have to do homework.  Not much time for fun......he rethinks it pretty quick at that point.

bluerooffarm
by Gold Member on Jul. 31, 2013 at 1:00 PM

 

Quoting debramommyof4:

I agree with your oldest. Let Ms. Hook recast his part and treat him like he was in public school. Ask your oldest to tell your son about their experience.

I don't think sending a kid to public school for a short time, is the end of the world, though I am positive it would not last more than a month because the schools are teaching things I just can not agree with.

But that is my opinion. He would hate it after the first day and never want to go back. I think it is a "the grass is greener on the other side" kind of thing.

 I always feel like, if you start something you should finish it.  So I wouldn't feel right sending him to the public school when I know he would want to come home within a week.  Also, 1st grade is when I pulled Xavier out of that ps, I know both of the 1st grade teachers.  i know their methods and they are the biggest reason that I hs.  They punish everyone for a few "bad" kids, they are constantly taking away recess minutes, they have out of this world amounts of homework.  I mean, we would do nearly 2 hours of homework each night with Zave and now I do about 3 hours of work total with my 1st grader.  But if I sent him, I would expect him to at least stay until the first semester ended, and he would hate it and I would hate it.  It would just suck for all of us.

But I might let Mrs. Hook recast and start setting the alarm.  And maybe I can pull out the Dibels test practice that they made Zave do.  I really want a way to show him that school isn't like what they show on the cartoons.

bluerooffarm
by Gold Member on Jul. 31, 2013 at 1:02 PM

 

Quoting jwhit8791:

When my 6 yo starts to get whiney and says that he wants to go to regular school and I am mean, I just like to remind him of the time commitment involved.  They do get up early but don't necessarily get ready early so I say......how would you like to have to be ready, breakfast eaten, and out the door by before 8 and then not get home until after 4.....then we would have dinner and you would have to do homework.  Not much time for fun......he rethinks it pretty quick at that point.

 I started out with that.  He has arguments for everything.  We could just drive him to school then he could take his time.  He's just not getting what it would be like.  I think it would be funny if it weren't so frustrating.

Dawn07
by Bronze Member on Jul. 31, 2013 at 1:05 PM
My dd also had some misconceptions at first. It didn't help that she had come out of headstart where they mostly played and thought all school was like this. We sat down and talked about it and then I suggested we do school just like public school. It only lasted a week. She didn't like that we couldn't go outside to do school or couldn't just go to the bathroom.
I also told her that it really wasn't an option for her to go to public school either. After all that I didn't hear about it again.
bluerooffarm
by Gold Member on Jul. 31, 2013 at 1:07 PM

 

Quoting Dawn07:

My dd also had some misconceptions at first. It didn't help that she had come out of headstart where they mostly played and thought all school was like this. We sat down and talked about it and then I suggested we do school just like public school. It only lasted a week. She didn't like that we couldn't go outside to do school or couldn't just go to the bathroom.
I also told her that it really wasn't an option for her to go to public school either. After all that I didn't hear about it again.

 Oh!  I like the idea of running our homeschool just like the public school for a week or so.  That might squelch it!  :-)

jwhit8791
by Jessica on Jul. 31, 2013 at 1:08 PM


Do you maybe have any friends(his age) that go to PS that he could talk to so some of the misconceptions could be cleared up?  I was talking with my friend, and her schedule is crazy when he kids are going to school.  All I could think was......glad that isn't me.  LOL

Quoting bluerooffarm:

 

Quoting jwhit8791:

When my 6 yo starts to get whiney and says that he wants to go to regular school and I am mean, I just like to remind him of the time commitment involved.  They do get up early but don't necessarily get ready early so I say......how would you like to have to be ready, breakfast eaten, and out the door by before 8 and then not get home until after 4.....then we would have dinner and you would have to do homework.  Not much time for fun......he rethinks it pretty quick at that point.

 I started out with that.  He has arguments for everything.  We could just drive him to school then he could take his time.  He's just not getting what it would be like.  I think it would be funny if it weren't so frustrating.



bluerooffarm
by Gold Member on Jul. 31, 2013 at 1:16 PM
We don't have many public school friends his age. But we do have a few 3rd graders that we hang out with. Most of our friends are either in high school or are homeschoolers like us.
Quoting jwhit8791:


Do you maybe have any friends(his age) that go to PS that he could talk to so some of the misconceptions could be cleared up?  I was talking with my friend, and her schedule is crazy when he kids are going to school.  All I could think was......glad that isn't me.  LOL

Quoting bluerooffarm:

 

Quoting jwhit8791:

When my 6 yo starts to get whiney and says that he wants to go to regular school and I am mean, I just like to remind him of the time commitment involved.  They do get up early but don't necessarily get ready early so I say......how would you like to have to be ready, breakfast eaten, and out the door by before 8 and then not get home until after 4.....then we would have dinner and you would have to do homework.  Not much time for fun......he rethinks it pretty quick at that point.

 I started out with that.  He has arguments for everything.  We could just drive him to school then he could take his time.  He's just not getting what it would be like.  I think it would be funny if it weren't so frustrating.



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