He then asked DD if she thought the book was appropriate, when she said she didn't know he asked if she would read it out loud to him. When she said no, she realized it wasn't really appropriate. Mil overheard this conversation and got on DH about our parenting and how we think we are "high and mighty" parents bc we are homeschooling, she went on to tell him that my SOLE reasons for doing this are about my DS, who is academically advanced and not getting what he needs from school. I am sooooo angry about this. I made it VERY clear that that was part of it, but a bigger part was DD getting lost in the shuffle and falling behind. And also, DD is the one that has been ASKING to be hs'ed for at least a year now! She told DH that the only reason I'm doing it is so DS can do algebra. I explained and outlined A BUNCH of reasons why we are choosing to HS. I am positive I talked more about DD than about DS, thinking that the emphasis for mil should be on her grandchild (although we don't view the kids differently, mil obviously still does). She told DH I degrade DD every day and shouldn't be left to educate her!!
Her "respectfully disagreeing" from my last post about this is a far cry from this bs. I am offended and hurt. I am angry. And I am so frustrated that she is now putting this strain on my DH. He works more than anyone else in this house and puts up with a lot. Hsing was my idea, and it is agreed that it is mostly my responsibility while he is supportive of all of it.
I feel like no matter what, mil will never approve of me as DDs mom. She thinks DH never should have gotten custody and that kids belong with their mothers. It bothers me a lot that she cannot admit that obviously DDs mother was not cut out to be her mom and that maybe she should appreciate that her granddaughter has a mom instead of finding reasons to disapprove of me.
I need to find a way for us to get approved for a mortgage and get the heck out of here.
End of my vent, thank you for letting me get it out..