First, thank you ladies for all of your awesome advice! You gave me a lot to think about. So last night I had a long talk with my husband and daughter. I told my dd all of my concerns and she voiced hers then we came to an agreement. She will take Melitonin every night at 10, no T.V. or tablet past 10:30. Then take St. Johns wort every morning. She is to be at school on time and maintain at least a C average. I'm giving it some time because she is VERY against staying home. My dh agreed that if I forced the issue she would resent me, sulk, not learn and life would be hell for everyone here. If she behavior doesn't improve over this next month or so (the meds take that long to kick in) we're going to set up an appointment with a therapist.
I'm having some issues with my 13 (almost 14)yo dd.
She attended public school from Kinder to 7th grade. I pulled her out in the middle of 7th grade because her grades were terrible and I knew nothing of what was going on. I had no idea what homework she had or when, no communication with teachers, ect. I brought her brother home a month before so I felt confident about my choice.
Sadly I didn't traditionally HS. I went through the district which was terrible then I enrolled her in a charter school where she did packets at home and tested twice a week. She HATED it! She refused to do her work on time and when she did it was half ass and mostly wrong. She was depressed, slept all day, moody, ect. It got to the point that I agreed to put her back in PS if it made her happy.
She ended up repeating 7th grade with terrible grades again, late all the time and she missed so many days because she "didn't feel good" but she said she was happier because she got to see her friends at school and be normal. Now she's in 8th grade, hasn't brought homework home yet, staying up at all hours and being late again. I just don't know what to do...