ODD anyone???? ((oppositional defiance disorder?)) **update**
Seriously, I'm not new to this mom thing... nor is homeschooling new to me. My daughter is just sooo difficult. She does every little thing she can to stir up trouble and isn't happy unless she is making some one in the family angry with her. She has been this way since infancy.
So, I've been reading up on children like her, because she is NOT the only one. I've been discovering that they need structure, routine, etc..... but they also don't respond to discipline. They respond to praise.
Ok... so I am doing backflips trying to praise and encourage her, and that actually sometimes works, but not always. My problem comes in this.... I'm getting wore out and she is still "winning" this war we have against her oppositional side.
She's not diagnosed ODD, but the doc has been advising me to have her evaluated.
**update, so I mentioned in the post below that I let her choose to spend the day in her room instead of doing school.... thought it was working at least so I could get the others some schooling in and maybe it would leave her feeling left out and wanting to participate...... no, instead, she intentionally got into her sister's belongings (which she doesn't do normally) and took her anger out on her things. She got her scented markers that her sister keeps put away and wrote all over her sisters stuff....**
I calmly had her sister clean it up and fix it, because the five year old wouldn't have gotten much done and would have just gotten attention from trying to make her... .then I made the 5 yr old pay the 11 yr old for getting into her things and THEN pay her more for cleaning it up. Then, I put her back in her room and left her alone...
Do you hear the reverberating thunk of my head hitting the desk???