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Helicopter/Bulldozer moms....and homeschooling.

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 I took my 2 older boys to their soccer practice today.  There are 3 homeschool moms who have children on this team.  The coach knew that there are 3 homeschool moms with the team.  I knew who all 3 of us were, but the coach did not.

So there is a Helicopter mom there, constantly talking to her kid, telling her to do this or do that:  :Get in line or you'll miss your turn, don't mess with your shin guard, be quieter sweetie, get in there, hustle up, don't let him crowd you...." and on and on and on.  There was Bulldozer mom there, talking at the coach right from the beginning: "So there are a lot of kids on this team, my kid has experience, so he's going to play this week right.  When's the next practice?  You know practices should be a little earlier, we need to get home to eat..." and on and on and on.

I found it interesting that the head coach talked to her assistant coach and asked if those 2 were the homeschooler moms.  HAHHAHAHAHA!  Two of the homeschooler moms were over at the playground with their youngest children and I was outside of the fence playing with my youngest.  So Sam (the assistant coach) glances over at me and laughs, "not even close" she said.

I know this isn't a large sampling or anything, but I found it very funny that the coach assumed that the helicopter and bulldozer were the hs moms and that the hs moms were actually not on the field at all.

Are you a helicopter or a bulldozer?  Are there any in your co-ops?

by on Aug. 29, 2013 at 8:37 PM
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bluerooffarm
by Gold Member on Aug. 29, 2013 at 9:02 PM

 

Quoting Shari55:

I never was either, and we never belonged to a co-op, however I knew helicopter and bulldozer homeschool moms, which was part of the reason we never belonged to co-ops or groups.

 Cool, cause I have never met one at co-op (I'm in 2) or in church (there are many hs families) or in the homeschool group where my kids take their tests.  I thought it strange that this was the assumption the coach jumped to.

mhaney03
by Member on Aug. 29, 2013 at 9:03 PM
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 Yeah me and the kids are in the same class.  I do correct them when I catch them goofing off but I'm not like some of the moms that are sitting down in the back of the room all "your belt is crooked" "fix your uniform" "don't fidget like that!"  "stop chewing on your belt!"


Quoting bluerooffarm:

 

Quoting mhaney03:

I have moments when I am both, but I find the taekwondo moms of public school kids are worse, and they aren't even students in the class like I am haha.

 I struggle so hard to let them be their own person.  But, yeah, every once in a while it comes out of me.  I had to bite my tongue a lot tonight to keep from getting into the fray.

You take Taekwondo?  That is so cool!


 

LongBeachLiz
by on Aug. 29, 2013 at 9:06 PM
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I'm a helicopter mom but my dd doesn't take social ques at all. She asked if she.could have random candy from a random box at a bowling alley bc it was a box not a stranger offering -.- I am trying to back off a bit now that she's almost 10 (the candy happened like last month lol).
bluerooffarm
by Gold Member on Aug. 29, 2013 at 9:07 PM

 I think it is really cool that you are actually in the class with them!

And you totally nailed the mom from today...don't fidget, leave your shin guard on, get your hair out of your mouth!  LOL

Quoting mhaney03:

 Yeah me and the kids are in the same class.  I do correct them when I catch them goofing off but I'm not like some of the moms that are sitting down in the back of the room all "your belt is crooked" "fix your uniform" "don't fidget like that!"  "stop chewing on your belt!"

 

Quoting bluerooffarm:

 

Quoting mhaney03:

I have moments when I am both, but I find the taekwondo moms of public school kids are worse, and they aren't even students in the class like I am haha.

 I struggle so hard to let them be their own person.  But, yeah, every once in a while it comes out of me.  I had to bite my tongue a lot tonight to keep from getting into the fray.

You take Taekwondo?  That is so cool!

 

 

 

bluerooffarm
by Gold Member on Aug. 29, 2013 at 9:11 PM
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Quoting LongBeachLiz:

I'm a helicopter mom but my dd doesn't take social ques at all. She asked if she.could have random candy from a random box at a bowling alley bc it was a box not a stranger offering -.- I am trying to back off a bit now that she's almost 10 (the candy happened like last month lol).

 I got a kick out of that!  LOL  It's a box, not a stranger.  It's a strange box. 

Maybe I'm just tired but that brought tears, I'm laughin so hard!

Bleacheddecay
by Bronze Member on Aug. 29, 2013 at 9:17 PM
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I'm not either of those types. I have met one bulldozer, I called her "Sargent ____First Name____ behind her back.  She was not a homeschooler.

The homeschoolers I know are more moderate.

I've never met a helicopter parent. All the parents I know are amazingly selfish, wanting their own time and unaware of what's going on with their kids, such as when they aren't excited but are over tired.  I work in a church nursery and those poor kids are so tired but dragged around cause the parent wants to go, then they are dumped in the nursery.

The homeschoolers I know are more aware of what is going on with their kids and more considerate of them, IMO.

bluerooffarm
by Gold Member on Aug. 29, 2013 at 9:21 PM
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 LOL @ the "sargent!"

Most of the hsers I know are very mellow (unless you get them talking about the goverment, No Child Left Behind, or standardized testing...then watch out).

That's so sad, those poor kids.  It reminds me of that comedian's bit about "this is my kid, he matches my couch." 

Quoting Bleacheddecay:

I'm not either of those types. I have met one bulldozer, I called her "Sargent ____First Name____ behind her back.  She was not a homeschooler.

The homeschoolers I know are more moderate.

I've never met a helicopter parent. All the parents I know are amazingly selfish, wanting their own time and unaware of what's going on with their kids, such as when they aren't excited but are over tired.  I work in a church nursery and those poor kids are so tired but dragged around cause the parent wants to go, then dumped..

 

LongBeachLiz
by on Aug. 29, 2013 at 9:24 PM
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Yeah it was quite humorous bc her logic makes perfect sense if you go from one point to another but I'm still just shaking my head. The kid doesn't have a lick of common sense.


Quoting bluerooffarm:

 


Quoting LongBeachLiz:

I'm a helicopter mom but my dd doesn't take social ques at all. She asked if she.could have random candy from a random box at a bowling alley bc it was a box not a stranger offering -.- I am trying to back off a bit now that she's almost 10 (the candy happened like last month lol).

 I got a kick out of that!  LOL  It's a box, not a stranger.  It's a strange box. 


Maybe I'm just tired but that brought tears, I'm laughin so hard!


bluerooffarm
by Gold Member on Aug. 29, 2013 at 9:26 PM

 The logic does make sense, but the commone sense will come in later.

Quoting LongBeachLiz:

Yeah it was quite humorous bc her logic makes perfect sense if you go from one point to another but I'm still just shaking my head. The kid doesn't have a lick of common sense.


Quoting bluerooffarm:

 


Quoting LongBeachLiz:

I'm a helicopter mom but my dd doesn't take social ques at all. She asked if she.could have random candy from a random box at a bowling alley bc it was a box not a stranger offering -.- I am trying to back off a bit now that she's almost 10 (the candy happened like last month lol).

 I got a kick out of that!  LOL  It's a box, not a stranger.  It's a strange box. 


Maybe I'm just tired but that brought tears, I'm laughin so hard!


 

LongBeachLiz
by on Aug. 29, 2013 at 9:29 PM
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Took me until my 20's lol


Quoting bluerooffarm:

 The logic does make sense, but the commone sense will come in later.


Quoting LongBeachLiz:

Yeah it was quite humorous bc her logic makes perfect sense if you go from one point to another but I'm still just shaking my head. The kid doesn't have a lick of common sense.



Quoting bluerooffarm:


 



Quoting LongBeachLiz:

I'm a helicopter mom but my dd doesn't take social ques at all. She asked if she.could have random candy from a random box at a bowling alley bc it was a box not a stranger offering -.- I am trying to back off a bit now that she's almost 10 (the candy happened like last month lol).


 I got a kick out of that!  LOL  It's a box, not a stranger.  It's a strange box. 



Maybe I'm just tired but that brought tears, I'm laughin so hard!



 


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